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A study stated 40% of women have low interest in sex while most men had high interest. Where do you fall? How do you regulate his drive with yours?
Author: Admin 2010-12-10 18:32:57    [reply]
Admin My former wife had a very high sexual drive - wanting it daily. She even claims she wanted/thought about doing it with me all day. Not a bad thing certainly. So I am not familiar with this low sex drive issue. Mine was high, about 75-80%.
Reply by: Gentleman4U 2014-01-21 18:37:48    [reply]
My libido is pretty strong but it has been weak lately. I've experimented here and there being submissive to a girlfriend but it hasn't worked out well. I just need to find a woman who is already there and knows what she wants. That's the woman I'd be happy with and I'd make her happy and she'd do the same for me!
Author: Guest 2011-01-12 18:44:30    [reply]
I read your poll on libido and it seems women are either moderate or high. It seems to be the pool is a bit off target, it should ask how much and of what kind of sex do women enjoy. That would be more tell tale.
Author: Guest 2011-01-25 08:50:23    [reply]
If the woman in a FLR is suffering from a lower libido then the male in that relationship isn't serving her appropriately. A lot of things can affect libido such as medication, hormones, depression, stress. Stress is the likely cause for a lower libido; all males should ask themselves, "How can I better serve my woman" A womanserved, loved, and pampered in the way SHE chooses will keep her man happy.
Author: Livilicious 2011-01-26 09:41:34    [reply]
Livilicious I agree. I wouldn't want to generalize but, sometimes men have a hard time listening to the triggers of what make our loved women stressed without interjecting some kind of advice. What makes my love comforted is simply giving her my ear so that the stress is off her shoulder. That alone is all she needs. If she wants advice she'll ask for it. A simple foot massage and my ear to her day is better served. As far as depression goes, I found out that keeping an active social life is the best medicine. Keep company with other happy couples. Play the shivery game when you go out.... you know open the door, pull he seat out and never say no to dancing.
Reply by: Guest 2011-05-16 17:32:27    [reply]
Guest sounds good
Reply by: Newlover 2012-11-21 14:56:44    
Livilicious Good idea...
Reply by: Newlover 2012-11-21 14:55:03    [reply]
well said, it is the responsibility of the man to please his women when she controls sex - he agreed to do it and it may require his learning some new tricks.
Author: Prickly Pear 2011-01-26 10:11:50    [reply]
I've always had a high sex drive, and I love to masturbate and write of this on my website. I like to motivate others as I believe guilt is the one reason why a lot of women do not experiment with their own body.
Author: Girlwithadirtymind 2011-01-26 12:06:46    [reply]
My lady has a high libido (so do I), but she doesn't see her lack of it when it happens as my responsibility. Ours is a role-reversal type of FLR. She's assumed the classic male role: she is the aggressor who initiates sex most times, and she's charged with "getting it up" and satisfying her mate. It is my role to be the more sensual of the two, to be attractive, seductive, and on occasion surprise her with sex. In her low patches, she's more likely to blame stress at work than blame me.
Author: D_Antoni 2011-02-03 08:11:30    [reply]
I have a very highly charged libido right now. Quite a bit higher than my Lovely's. And I am always trying to please her in many facets. After finding this site, I have informed my Lovely of this (she likes it) and after perusing the information we are at a level 2 FLR. And I feel we will grow together as our lives intertwine. Thanks.
Author: Slomuzic 2012-03-05 16:04:40    [reply]
My libido is high, but I dislike being penetrated. I thus insist on only oral from my man. I get oh so turned n by reversing the penetration and penetrating my partner. Or making him watch me with another female every now and then. The dynamic of reversing penetration also seems to make him more compliant so it is not a bad thing I enjoy it.
Author: Sarahsmiles 2012-03-18 22:07:57    [reply]
Sarahsmiles “The dynamic of reversing penetration also seems to make him more compliant so it is not a bad thing I enjoy it.” It seems to me that the act of reverse penetration involves a high level of intimacy and trust. There is a vulnerability that is necessary for a man to be penetrated.Will you discuss how you developed, and I guess continue to develop, the trust necessary for such an act and how his vulnerability affects your perception in light of the fact that you yourself do not enjoy penetration? gat1207
Reply by: Gat1207 2012-03-29 12:56:56    [reply]
Gat1207 I agree completely. If a man is to be penetrated, willingly of course, he must be able to be vulnerable to his woman. For a man to give up that role of penetrator, requires a deep level of intimacy with the individual and a massive trust on both their parts.
Reply by: Yonemer 2012-06-14 22:32:21    
Gat1207 I suppose he is willing to be vulnerable to me because I have abused his trust or vulnerability, or otherwise caused harm or non-trivial pain/discomfort/embarrassment in or out of the bedroom.
Reply by: Sarahsmiles 2012-11-23 18:58:22    
Sarahsmiles BEST WAY
Reply by: Mydearesthope 2012-08-07 08:57:19    [reply]
Sarahsmiles To be agreeable to penetration by my mate was a natural progression. The willingness to accept your mates desire " to be penetrated " is a possible sign of his commitment. I'm not penetrated by my mate often. I am however willing and always available to meet her desires. I would be reticent to us the would compliant in our relationship.
Reply by: Usaabn 2012-09-14 12:35:06    [reply]
I provide oral climax for my wife three or four times a week. Would that make her libido moderate or high? Not sure, having little basis for comparison! My own libido is higher than ever since she has been practicing orgasm control. She lets me have release once every week or two, with ruined orgasms also in the mix. However, we have encountered a problem I wonder if anyone else has had. Occasionally she wishes me to penetrate her. On a couple of occasions, despite my high level of arousal, I have lost my erection at the crucial moment. This almost never happened during our pre-FLR days. I suspect it has to do with conflicting impulses: the prospect of intercourse brings out my own instinctive, caveman-like urge for physical dominance, and my strong urge for submission to HER dominance cancels that out. But as a result there is a stalemate: she actually *wants* me to act out a male-dominant intercourse scenario, but if my anatomy refuses to cooperate, then I can't play the role and her instruction to me goes unfulfilled. I end up unable to serve her wishes or my own. (Although of course I bring her to climax orally nonetheless.) We aren't terribly upset, and are confident we'll work this out eventually. But I'm interested to know if any other couple has had this problem, and if so, how you approached it.
Author: Thomas_3 2013-08-19 06:38:02    [reply]
My libido is quite high. And, I could perform for my wife on a daily basis if desired. My wife's libido is quite low (I believe stress and anxiety induced). I'm working at stress reduction for her in different ways like earning more money, helping more around the home and with the kids. Just hope that it works and she finds her libido again someday.
Author: SteveM999 2014-03-03 12:15:29    [reply]
I am a new member without a partner, but wanted to add a comment here that as a FLR partner-to-be, my libido is high, and I would thoroughly enjoy being active and attentive to our needs and ensuring our gratification. Would want our lives to be enhanced. Alic
Author: Classy Lady 2014-11-10 20:02:58    [reply]
I am a Pisces, so it varies. It waxes and wains like the tides. When it is in high tide, it is several times a day or until my body says I can do no more. I have lower back issues and ejaculating has been delayed. I think it is a blessing and a curse. It is a curse, because my ex thought it was her problem. Never could get past that. I can always be enticed, and since I have discovered FLR and now understand that that is what I have sought, I can be commanded to perform to some level, at any time.
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