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I have to say the notion of all three is a turn on for me but I can honestly say there is any benefit. Maybe the opposite is true, maybe it is destructive. It certainly is destructive to relationships where it changes the social image of men to their women. Once you put on panties can she ever get that out of her head? and then of the relationship ends where on earth will the man find fulfillment? I'd like to air this openly with men and women to get it out in the open.
Author: Randell 2011-02-20 14:21:02    [reply]
If you look at human needs from the standpoint of Maslows' pyramid, where would these fall given they were needs. Sissification seems to be getting in touch with female things, being used as he sees women being used perhaps or maybe a gender make over. Dress up is a common practice for all who costume. Even my son dressed in drag at my daughters wedding dinner with several of the grooms men. But dress-up is in play and drag implies it is gay not feminine. Humiliation might be an effort at penitents, an effort to reach some kind of emptiness, an effort at becoming humble or a self destruction; perhaps a cry for help; or maybe a way to reenact a past issue or like a prophet enact a future one. Cuckolding might be a way to reach selflessness, show a woman she has real freedom, get out of having to perform, end the question of impotence or get humiliation; it might simply be for sex. There MIGHT be reasons for them that are on the path to being self actualized. A men and his women would want to analyze that and weight it against the possible risks to self-image and self-esteem.
Author: Michael 2011-02-21 09:50:15    [reply]

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AboutFLR.com has no formal stand or slant on cuckolding. It is a lifestyle choice made as part of relationships where women enjoy the freedom to have other partners. Our society has a double standard about women sleeping with more than one man. Men doing it are in a Ménage à trois and women doing it with two men are nymphs or sluts. That is just wrong. Men and women should enjoy the same standard. If it is okay for one gender then it is okay for both and if not okay that will be true for both. FLR is about women leading men, most of whom don't want to participate in cuckolding, but a percentage do and should do so freely and without social pressure. There are risks to multiple partners which couples should discuss before making these choices.
Author: Prickly Pear 2011-03-13 08:38:28    [reply]
Prickly Pear I do agree that the percentage of women that want to have a cuckolding situation in their relationship is the minority. But I wonder if the double standard (and worry about being labeled a 'slut') isn't a part of the reason the majority of women shy away from it. I think many more people would try this if not for the social taboo. FWIW, I see where a man asking his wife to cuckold him might be confusing because it does seem like a mixed message (I love you, but want for you to be with other men). But I think that if more women understood that there are many men that see the surrender of sexual freedom to the wife in a marriage as a loving act of sacrifice on the husband's part then many more women might be interested. Unfortunately, cuckoldry has been tainted by the same negative forces that have poisoned FLR (internet and other porn in particular), and turned cuckoldry into a fetishized product.
Reply by: Tempesto 2011-05-22 06:51:10    
Tempesto I disagree with you in so many ways about cuckoldry being in a similar situation to FLR. First historically the only ones who could have lovers outside of marriage were the rich as arranged marriages paved the way for arranged discreet lovers in high society. Men and women have been _ucking their slaves and servants for generations too. In this new cuckoldry women are supposed to have sex while their mate watches? or not which defeats the idea of discretion. Second, cuckoldry fails the test of logic, psychology and sociology -- first the test of logic; if a man sets his hair on fire then jumps 100 stories into a river to put it out what logic stream did that man follow? Well it is the same kind of argument that says more women who do this if they tried it. Next the test of psychology: the needs fulfilled by coupling up which are connection, intimacy, higher connection and relationship security are all defeated by cuckoldry. Last the test of sociology where the basic premise of coupling is one of fidelity. What cuckoldry is - is a fetish which requires no logic, psychology or sociology for people to enjoy it; like all fetishes, people just do and there is little in the way of logic, psychology or sociology that can defend or deny "just lusting after it". What en fail to see if cuckoldry defeats two elements essential to FLR 'the drive towards intimacy and dependence of men' and 'women thinking of it (as in female led)'. Bottom like if you like it enjoy but don`t try and make a case for it because the case goes against it. I dont think most relationships will survive when cuckoldry is in play becuase of the rules I already discribed.
Reply by: RayAnnZels PhD 2011-05-22 12:16:10    
Prickly Pear My wife cucks me often with other men and has me participate and in no way does this make me submissive. It is just a natural sexual behavior which happens to be fun and juicy
Reply by: Thomas_2 2012-06-23 19:23:29    

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what about boot camp type training? Humiliation is used there successfully.
Author: Guest 2011-02-21 17:39:35    [reply]
I think being sissified shows women that you are there for their amusement, that you are a submissive and want to be an effeminate male for her or their amusement. Wearing panties does this, so does wearing a frilly apron. It is humiliating and puts the women clearly in charge. How, I ask you, can a man be in charge if he is dressed in only frilly panties, or an sissy apron, or even in a sundress. The "dress" on a man affirms for a woman that she is in full control. This is so true when she is then fully dressed in her jeans or whatever. Personally, it is deeply satisfying. She wears the pants and I am vulnerable, exposed as a sissy, under her control. And to do so with her friends around...oh boy! Complete FLR affirms that women have won the sexual revolution and are "on top".
Author: ForHerAmusement 2011-02-27 13:29:23    [reply]
ForHerAmusement I don't agree with your assessment. I don`t think there is any thrill for most women in sissification of men. Most women we have surveyed don't want men to wear women's clothes nor become effeminate. Quite the opposite, women want men to remain confident though submissive. Please continue to enjoy it and be well but your pleasure falls to a extremely small group of people mostly men and most women don't want to play along.
Reply by: Ann 2011-03-01 07:42:48    [reply]
I really respect your comment. The survey at this site says 11% of women enjoy having men dress in feminine clothes. This is a small group, but it is something. As there are a bunch of other surveys here which suggest more than a small group of men enjoy it. Again, thanks for commenting on my post.
Reply by: Guest 2011-03-06 11:10:24    
Ann I couldn't agree more! I think this is a male driven fantasy, and have never found a woman that had any interest in a sissy/feminized man. I am not saying that it isn't possible. But the driving force on this seems to be men that are into it rather than women that like it.
Reply by: Tempesto 2011-05-22 06:43:04    
ForHerAmusement It sounds like you are having fun with it and the idea of becoming effeminate. This kind of behavior/practice is on the far end of the spectrum of FLR and nor really part of the FLR body of knowledge. I agree that humiliation makes a good training tool in a boot camp approach where she wants to break barriers and that sissification might make that point but as a lifestyle element it is undesirable to most and to most women a turn off. Most men would have to visit a domme to get this fantasy fulfilled.
Reply by: Michael 2011-03-01 07:49:27    [reply]
Thank you, also, for commenting. It is fun. I do not advocate it beyond play. We are not into the "boot camp" idea. And definitely not into S&M. This is about mutual understanding and respect. Glad I could make that point here.
Reply by: Guest 2011-03-06 11:13:35    
We have been married for ten years and before we got married my wife told me that she had never been monogamous to any of her boyfriends or her first husband but would try to be faithfull to me. That didn't last a month! We went out to a party and I lost track of her so I went into the bedroom and there she was naked and on top of another guy. Strangely, I was so excited watching her that I actualy came in my pants without even touching it! After they where done she noticed my soiled jeans and asked if I enjoyed it. It took me a couple of years to truely accept the fact that I enjoy my wife with other men but when I did, and she accepted that I am truly OK with it our lives became wonderfull, always searching for some guy for her. AND, I never even think about straying on her. IF both of you are truly OK with her having sex with other men then go for it. Be sure both of you accept the fact that she enjoys sex with other men.
Author: Happy cuck 2011-03-13 04:52:47    [reply]
Happy cuck Sounds like you enjoy it. I think many men have this fantasy. make me wonder how life might be with that dynamic. I am concerned about the quality of life men might have.
Reply by: Randell 2011-03-13 04:55:03    [reply]
Happy cuck I find this creepy, why is it guys focus on this? I'd love to hear from other women on this
Reply by: Guest 2011-03-13 08:05:38    [reply]
Guest I find it creepy too. This is one of my major doubts about dating submissive men. A lot of them seem to have very perverted fantasies and I don't mean perverted in a good way. Some types of humiliation and degradation are sexy but crossdressing and cuckolding are *major* turn offs to me. It seems gay to me. I have nothing against gay people but I only want to be with a 100% heterosexual man. If a guy feels humiliation from dressing in women's clothes, doesn't that mean that he thinks women are weaker and inferior? Otherwise, why should he feel ashamed to be a woman? He is probably a secret misogynist. So I would never date a guy who got turned on by crossdressing. Cuckolding is a sign of low self esteem. A lot of the time, the cuckold secretly fantasies about the "other man" which is gay too. Besides, how can anyone expect to have a real intimacy in their relationship if its not exclusive? I could never respect a man like that. He would be used but never loved which ultimately wouldn't satisfy me because I need to love and adore my submissive. To be worthy of my love, he has to be a real man who is *proud* to be submissive, loves to serve me, lives to serve me, submission should be his identity.
Reply by: Guest 2012-10-05 21:56:07    
Happy cuck Congratulations! I am envious (in the best possible way) that you have such a wonderful relationship. I know that a lot of people don't understand why we cuckolds want this, and I can understand their confusion. However, the yearning for your woman only increases for the cuckold when he knows she is free to actively be with other men. It isn't for everyone, like any other interest. But for those that are curious, it can be a wonderful thing. Build a solid relationship first, take time, assess, communicate, and if you are both in alignment still, perhaps it is for you.
Reply by: Tempesto 2011-05-22 06:58:32    [reply]
My husband found this discussion and told me about it. He just posted a response and wanted me to include my views. It took me a long time to accept that he truly enjoys me being with other men and to believe that he loves me even though I have sex with guys while he watches. And that is it, I have sex with them but I make love to my husband. As for the term cuckold, well call it what you will but I don't think a derogatory term for it really helps the discussion.
Author: Wfe of cuckold husband 2011-03-13 04:56:55    [reply]
Wfe of cuckold husband It is my understanding that in level 3 or 4 women can set up sex how ever they want with the agreement of their husband. I always doubt these kinds of posts when I see them because most women don't want extra marital sex. but if you do enjoy. and BTW wife has an 'i' in it and most women know that.
Reply by: Guest 2011-03-13 07:54:08    [reply]
Guest In Level 3, most women who choose to have sex with other partners do not consider it extramarital sex. Since they are sharing every detail with their husband, its building a stronger relationship between the two of them.
Reply by: DMC728 2011-04-24 00:46:04    
Wfe of cuckold husband I am glad to hear that you took the time to consider trying cuckoldry. It gives me reason to hope that I will find the right woman! Like your husband, I am a man that yearns to be cuckolded. To ask your wife to cuckold you is an act to show that you desire her needs and desires over your own. It is an act of loving your wife so much, of trusting her so much, that you have faith that NOTHING will break the bonds that connect you! I see it as the top of the pyramid, the most loving sacrifice that a husband can offer his wife. But obviously to get there requires a LOT of work to build a strong relationship first. Enjoy!
Reply by: Tempesto 2011-05-22 07:05:38    [reply]
Wife of cuckold husband i like the way you put that just sex i hope my wife will do this for me sometime it as to be great to enjoy watching your wife with a guy with me wearing my chastity device
Reply by: Steve1957 2011-11-22 13:19:34    [reply]
Steve1957 Just because you'd love to do it does not make it beneficial. You only get one chance at it, so you can do it well or do it wrong. First prove to yourself that it is good for you, then do it.
Reply by: Guest 2011-11-22 14:47:52    
"Just because you'd love to do it does not make it beneficial. You only get one chance at it, so you can do it well or do it wrong. First prove to yourself that it is good for you, then do it." ... thank you for that reply i wrote what i was thinking at the time (thinking out-loud) i like to see my wife enjoy herself with a guy if she wanted to as far as sissified i enjoy wearing panties,bra and when cleaning house when kids are not home enjoy wearing a dress or skirt as far as Humiliation i think its good to get if that's what she wants she is in control - edited by staff - too much information - keep it PG-13
Reply by: Steve1957 2011-11-23 15:47:27    
Steve1957 At the risk of being negative, I find I need to jump in here because this conversation is going a way we won't support. If you are trying to say it is beneficial for men in relationships to dress as women or be humiliated, I say bunk, you are way off base! Dressing as a woman is a fetish. Fetish is for fun. Fetish is not part of relationships growing. Fetish is only for distraction and entertainment. If you enjoy it , enjoy in peace; but there is only one real benefit; your being happy doing it - that said, if it makes your wife happy she need to tell us so other women can learn. I am not saying this to belittle or degrade your thoughts, they are good thoughts,; but they are outside the discussion of FLR.
Reply by: Prickly Pear 2011-11-23 17:13:32    
It is hard for me to imagine building a stronger relationship by extramarital sex. It would seem to be the opposite
Author: Guest 2011-04-27 10:05:39    [reply]
Both of us are monogamous. I can't imagine cuckolding as having a positive effect on our relationship. If she wanted it, I would live with it in order to remain hers and in the relationship.
Author: 2be 2011-05-28 06:13:42    [reply]
How do I get my wife to agree to shave my legs; she thinks it is too feminine; I want her to do it to assert her authority.
Author: Guest 2011-06-23 05:18:53    [reply]
We had several messages from men interested in feminization as a life style. We explained that FLR and feminization are really different ideas. What that means is FLR allows men to keep their gender roles and socialization if it suits the couple. Feminization is really more about being a caterpillar wanting to become a butterfly and the process is outside the norm of human experience and not very attractive to women for men to go through.
Author: Randell 2011-10-09 17:03:21    [reply]
I DO NOT WANT TO FEMINIZE MY MAN,,BUT I WANT HIM TO WEAR PANTIES WHEN HE DOES MY NAILS,,I WANT HIM UNDER MY CONTROL AT CERTAIN TIMES,,I WANT HIM TO BE MY BEST FRIEND MY GIRL FRIEND,MY SWEETNESS,WHEN WE ARE TOGETHER IN INTIMATE CONVERSATION,JUST HANGING AT THE HOUSE ..I WANT HIM TO WEAR PANTIES WITHOUT MY ASKING,,I PURCHASED FEMININE MALE UNDERWEAR HE WEARS THIS ,,IT SAYS HANES ON THE FRONT,,HECK I LIKE TO WEAR THEM,,HE IS SO CUTE IN HIS RED UNDERWEAR WHILE HE DOES MY NAILS,,OUR BEST CONVERSATIONS ARE WHEN WE DO MY NAILS,HE IS AN EXPERT NOW,I SOME TIME USE CLEAR POLISH ON HIS NAILS,HE HAS WORN A NATURAL LIP GLOSS(WIN)I LOVE TO PARTIALLY FEM HIM,HE COULD EASILY PASS UNTILL THE BEARD POLKED OUT,,I WANT A MAN BUT I WANT HIM TO DO AS I SAY,WE ARE BOTH FORMER MARINES,I SPENT A YEAR TRAINING HIM,FINALY BROKE HIM!! - deleted by staff, this belongs on another site
Author: Ladyjolynn 2011-11-16 21:57:48    [reply]
Ladyjolynn sounds cool and nice , not my cup of tea but well said
Reply by: Thomas_2 2012-06-23 19:26:22    [reply]
If a man wants to wear a dress and heels then he sould be allowed to after all we wear trousers
Author: Amy1991 2013-02-22 11:16:55    [reply]
Amy1991 That does not mean I have to like it and I still can be turned off by it to.
Reply by: SusanM88 2013-02-22 18:23:55    [reply]
Why is it so hard to find a guy who is a "clean slate"? Submissive men always have the most perverse fantasies. I'd rather train him into the perfect man for me based on what *I* want. In my opinion, submissive men shouldn't have any fantasies other than the desire to please their woman. My advice to guys: Focus on the woman. Forget your fantasies. Make her fantasies yours. I don't care about what turns you on. Thats completely irrelevant. This is about me, not you. Remember your place. You're not being submissive if you tell a woman how to dominate you. You're just being selfish and immature. In femdom, the pro-dominatrix always "obeys" the submissive male by acting out his fantasies. Its pretty much just prostitution in disguise. Like I said, submissive men shouldn't have any fantasies. A real dominant woman wouldn't let him get away with such selfish behavior. Men need to be trained out of their fantasies. The focus should be on the woman at all times.
Author: Guest 2012-10-06 08:46:39    [reply]
I often wonder why women frequently aren't into as 'disgusting' fantasies and fetishes as men? I am very lucky in having a FLR with a woman who is intrigued and willing to indulge my fantasies, as I am hers, even when she finds them sick or twisted. Mind you, in many ways she is quite twisted herself! However, the real point I want to make is that it is *not* unhealthy for a woman in a FLR to indulge a man's fantasies, it has to be in context, a good woman will endeavour to honestly extract all her man's buried fantasies and work them into the relationship, or at least say 'no' and why not. I have found that since my fiance has been indulging my fantasies, many of my more extreme ones have gradually diminished or gone altogether. People have fantasies, often they are very taboo, but by being allowed to express them, they cease to dominate ones mind. I no-longer spend hours of every day wasted dwelling on my BDSM fantasies because, by endulging them, my beautiful, wise fiance, has curbed them greatly.
Author: Mikey_adore 2012-11-25 09:02:53    [reply]
Mikey_adore I'd say this is bad practice and a kin to blackmail to get your mate to do things they find disgusting. How many women of 100 do you think will have the same opinion of their mate when he want to wear women's panties or do anything she finds off. Better set aside some money for the divorce.
Reply by: Ann1000Days 2012-11-25 22:13:35    [reply]
There is no blackmail. She has control over 4 of the five 'food groups,' the fifth is not sex, but actually free time, over which she has given my a 50% say in what I do, as long as it fits around what she wants to do. She decided to indulge my sexual fantasies because she realised I wasn't fully disclosing all my sexual thoughts. I told her it was because many of the things I thought I was certain would make her utterly disgusted with me. She insisted, so I shared and, without any further discussion, has begun to include those practises in her play with me. All she said was she didn't find them disgusting, just surprising, though she wouldn't want the same treatment. I never said it was what I needed necessarily, or it was essential to our relationship, because I didn't think it was. Her decision to involve it is a testimony to the strength of our relationship, she thinks no less of me as a result, I am still the same person. She is wise enough to understand the symbological nature of my desires and is a strong enough person to accept that. I wouldn't have put myself in this sort of relationship if I wasn't sure she was 'the one' lol! Note, that I'm not referring to sissification/crossdressing per-say, which are pretty common fantasies and ones that actually many women find amusing if not especially erotic, rather other 'humiliating' practices that I have no desire to discuss on an internet forum! (Its not really part of this sites manifesto to discuss kink, anyway.) However that didn't answer my question, which is my wondering why (from my observations) women have fewer 'extreme' kinks than men? Any thoughts, ladies & gentlemen?
Author: Mikey_adore 2012-11-27 10:13:53    [reply]
...and more to the point, why they are considered 'harmful' by many people here? To me, that smacks of failure to understand the nature of kink and of healthy sexual fantasy within a relationship...
Author: Mikey_adore 2012-11-27 10:21:41    [reply]
OK so I am somewhat with Prickly Pear that sissification is bunk but the reality is that for me anyhow, I would be very turned on to be humiliated by my wife....BUT.....THE CAVEAT HERE, is that she would have to want it. My reality is that my wife does NOT want me sissified or humiliated or cucked....and frankly for that last one I am glad as I think the marriage end if she did. As for what she DOES want, service, footrubs/massage, pleasant demeanor, attentiveness are what she likes. For me, this would be enough....so long as she regularly stated to me....perhaps during these behaviors, that she controls my orgasms, that she demands obedience, that this is what I asked for so I am getting it. For me, this would be enough to make me feel totally secure.
Author: Guest 2013-10-06 21:48:57    [reply]
I love my wife and I respect her in everything but I do not want to be her slave. Do not understand this with humiliation, sisification, spanking or chastity. I do not want to be humiliated or dressed in women's clothes or get spanked and I definitely do not want any chastity.Det most of this is all about fantasies and it must be difficult to get to it in reality. With us there is no doubt about who's in charge and has the final say, my wife, but I'm not her slave even though I do most of the household and like kissing and massaging her feet. When it comes to cuckolding, I think it might be a good thing if done the right way, women need variety, and that at some point every now and then have other men as lovers can be good, the woman will feel attractive and sought after. However, it should not be done to humiliate the man.
Author: Swedehubby 2013-05-23 01:03:54    [reply]
I came to this site for the obvious reasons, but some of what I have been reading here disappoints me. These areas require at least an open mind. I see narrow mindedness, and intolerance of others likes and views. My wife is a professional in the psychology field, we play and fantasize ,we are in love and she enjoys the Sub me, and the part that wants her to tease and humiliate me. It makes her hot. I hate to tell you , but maybe you better accept some women are bright enough to go where the drive takes them/us. she firmly believes the " Homo sum humani nihil a me alienum puto" of Terence, maybe some of the people here should as well. any way ,great forum lots to think about.
Author: Paolo777 2013-08-27 18:46:23    [reply]
Paolo777 I think you might be right. For some this would be OK. Far be it for me to judge. Sometimes I think that this site dissuades us from femdom/flr dark because they are interested in brand exclusivity. No of fence. I like the site but the reality is thast it's a business every bit as much as others are. Their niche is to make for palatable for wives. In this they have a lock. Most women prefer this site....however the reality is for and femdom are linked whether we like it or not, for men anyways. I agree in principal that they are maladaptive to a relationship. I will say this. We should probably stay away from the extreme femdom simply because for the vast majority of us, it is not helpful. As for female authority....it can be enough for me.
Reply by: Newsubhub 2013-10-06 22:25:26    [reply]
I think the whole point of sissification is quite humiliating however, it is also an outlet for him to explore and understand his own feminine nature. I have found when a man understands his own feminine nature, he better understands me, my need and my desires then is willing to delve further into submission. A women who knows how to guide a man towards his own true feminine nature, then provide the space for him to trust it, he then is more willing to move to a deeper level of FLR. He trusts his own feminine while further trusting me. Cuckholding can be a very tricky area. A lot of times submissive men are indeed selfish. Selfishness is something that need to be corrected in the initial "training" period. The question that needs to be asked by the women in the partnership is: Am I doing this to fulfill his fantasies or for my own pleasure. I suggest that the wife/female partner answers that question before they incorporate that into the relationship. I have found that if the female engages to fulfill his fantasies, it does not work, it must truly be from a place from her own desire. When the women arrives at her conclusion to move forward with it, deep listening to her partner is a must. It can either make or break a relationship. Depending upon the personality of the man, there will be issues that arise. It is important for the women to be firm yet allow him room to heal any issues that he is experiencing. A lot of women in FLR do believe that they are being a "slut". If women do feel that way, then I believe that they do have a way to go in healing their own issues regarding societal view of sexual freedom. After all, it is society that labels women and breaking out of that belief system is quite liberating.
Author: MissLeFay 2014-01-11 00:15:01    [reply]
This is not a place for men to dump their fantasies or state the obvious - please use the topic as proposed "Humiliation, sisification and cuckolding are they beneficial to anyone?" Thanks all!
Author: Prickly Pear 2014-02-25 15:30:00    [reply]

 

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NEW! Training men with chastity
This is a couple's guide using chastity and resocialization for training a man permanently. The guide does not re-cover anything from the first guide so you need them both. It covers chastity, punishment, rewards, positive reinforcement, community help and launching a growing FLR. Can be used to start any level FLR. 26 week program, ready now in PDF

 

Combined Guides + 5 Food Groups
We combined the two training guides into one and added the 5 food groups. This means you get chastity, training and relationship dynamics all in one for a reduced price. Many of our members were downloading these as individual file so we combined them for a better value.

 

Couple's Training Guide
Women who want to train, re-socalize or grow their men for the perfect FLR have a comprehensive guide. Boot camp, weight loss/shape-up, 2 day and multi week guided programs. We address punishment, masturbation and growing good habits for supporting your leadership. Help with motivation and positive programming. Women will learn valuable leadership and control skills. This guide puts women back in control of FLR.
 

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