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it is a fundamental need for safety, taking control from them make them feel safe
Author: Admin 2010-12-10 17:15:24    [reply]
i was born wanting control. More than that i want to be dominated, yet i am no wimp. i just find that a Dominant Woman turns me on. And to be controlled is a dream
Author: Guest 2011-01-31 09:05:27    [reply]
Because females is higher and males are lower than females, and female is superior to men, Female is Dominant by nature, male is created to be slave to his mistress, so, all life he will look for her, all men love to kiss females' feet, need (in depth) to obey female, so, men needs to be controlled and totally dominated be female deleted by staff
Author: Guest 2011-07-23 16:36:18    [reply]
For me it is about the surrender of agency that can only come from a position of self-love and strength to one well trusted and loved in a moment of intense intimacy.
Author: Chris68 2011-08-22 10:47:23    [reply]
Men want control for all the right reasons. Over time historically the shift of power has gone disproportionately towards men having to assume responsiblity for everything. Naturally, this is tiresome, and it is natural for men to see that women could do what they do better or as well. To attempt to create more freedom for themselves, they are willing to give the power to females where it has always rightfully belonged. Submission to a higher power allows men to relax, and experience some of the freedoms that have historically been taken from them. This I believe is what drives the need for women to be in charge. Of course it is more complex than this, but here in the now, today's modern world this is the main reason.
Author: Susieq 2012-05-15 16:01:56    [reply]
Susieq Control brings structure to a relationship. Where there is structure, there are better conditions to bond more closely. If we go with the flow, accept our biology, and allow the woman to be the central pivotal point of the family, and the man his servant and helper, this structure falls into place more easily.
Reply by: Servus Regina 2012-05-18 10:47:04    [reply]
Susieq As reflected in the story of Persephone and her husband Hades. Despite abduction and capture the she springs forth and overtakes. gat1207
Reply by: Guest 2012-05-21 14:51:06    [reply]
I've always been able to control outward things like my job and my relations with the guys I deal with everyday, but I've felt unsure of myself in relationships with women, unsure-even after all these year-about how to really communicate with them. I've been more of a "man's man", which has a downside because I sometimes feel that I am in a foreign culture with women in a way. I've always felt intensely attracted to women and had a hard time controlling my libido, a challenge that has a lot of men doing stupid things. For these reasons and a few others, I've been more comfortable with a woman in control.
Author: Lawrence_2 2012-06-19 00:11:55    [reply]
Lawrence_2 Define control?
Reply by: SusanM88 2012-06-22 13:32:28    [reply]
I would define control as a kind of discipline in the best sense of the word. I define it as the ability to evaluate a body of information, such as how to respond to a situation in life or how to proceed in the solving of a problem, given the data available, to the best possible conclusion without irrationality or base desires intervening. I think that I can do this well in everyday life, but struggle much more in my relationships with women.
Author: Lawrence_2 2012-07-20 18:48:16    [reply]
Most men were raised by women who had total control over us for our first few years of life. Unless our mother was weak or abusive, that was a rewarding and comforting experience that shaped the first few and most formative years of our life. This is not to say that we want our partner to now be like a mother. Most of us have come into our own as adult men and, I have observed, that men who submit to the authority of strong women are more confident and self assured. It takes a confident man to feel safe enough to give control over to a woman. It is the insecure man who must be dominant. Like a man who beats his wife to feel like a strong man. They are not strong, they are weak. I like the comfort in knowing that my wife loves me enough to guide and direct me. Women have a calmer and gentler demeanor. Women have a temperament that is more steady and focused and not distracted by a testosterone fueled brain. You never hear of a woman getting addicted to internet porn (romance sites, escapist novels, maybe, but not porn). You don’t often hear of a woman executive or politician getting in trouble for sexual harassment (embezzlement of funds, maybe). Women don’t waste much money in strip clubs, massage parlors or on sex workers. Women are less violent, more attuned to what makes a relationship strong and are GENRALLY more focused on their children. Being guided by a woman makes me feel safe and secure and free of much stress. Once we men quit trying to exclude women from higher education and the better jobs, women took off with extreme success. A higher percentage of women graduate high school and fewer drop out. Women earn the majority of college degrees and now 60% of medical degrees that are earned are earned by women. Half of the lawyers and half of the MBAs coming out of college are now women. Women are passing men up because of their superior ability to stay focused on a goal and not be distracted by the frivolous. Any man is wise and lucky who allows himself to be led by the woman in his life.
Author: Openeyes22 2012-09-25 11:15:53    [reply]
My father was absent. I grew up with an older sister and my mother who was. A teacher. Being subordinate was habitual.
Author: Guest 2013-01-24 07:31:18    [reply]
I agree with Openeyes22. Our mothers and sisters cared for and controlled our early, formative years. I was raised as the youngest in a house of 7 sisters and my mother and stepfather. I was controlled from an early age and when I rebelled, punished. It is a situation I find myself in search of my adult life. I have been pitifully let down. Perhaps in the future.
Author: NETXFLRSeeker58 2015-04-23 21:18:57    [reply]
In my marriage I wanted my wife to take more control because I yearned to show my love and trust in her. I thought of no more intimate way of expressing it. In social situations, in how we spent out free time I followed her lead. This was before I was aware if the good groups. I didn't mind doing household chores to support her because it gave me a sense of purpose in life. I don't know why I am like this - it feels natural. It could be because my father was very quiet and not much of a factor in our home life. But it doesn't matter at all to me. I just want a relationship in which I can express my love and respect. Still looking......
Author: FreeToBeMe 2015-10-18 20:56:32    [reply]
FreeToBeMe As we get older many men feel that they would like their partner to be more assertive and control some or all of the “food groups”. It is sad that this could not evolve out of your previous relationship but I am sure that even on the popular dating websites you could expand on your description to subtlety say what you are looking for in a wife and winnow out the replies to find a great FLR Level 3 partner.
Reply by: Motleyfoool 2015-10-20 09:12:56    [reply]
Just love being in control it took a while but now he is virtually my slave in every way, it is so good
Author: Guest 2016-11-19 23:38:38    [reply]


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