Why is FemDom destructive to female led relationships and men?

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Why is FemDom destructive to female led relationships and men?

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FemDom portrays women in a way they are not comfortable with. Women do want to lead, command and even have men as their slaves on demand but FemDom is competing with your woman´s desire to lead.
Author: Simrane 2014-11-25 14:10:19   
For me, It is an unrealistic lifestyle mostly propagated by pay Internet sites. I don't believe these sites are viewed by both relationship partners together. Not a win/win item in a relationship.
Author: Schmoop 2014-11-24 13:04:29   
FemDom portrayals actually reverse the power dynamic and objectify women. Far from women having the authority, women are displayed in the manner that fulfills men's fantasies, furthering their objectification and the cultural notion that women should be what men want them to be.
Author: AtHerWhim 2014-11-23 22:08:39   
This is a tricky subject because there is real Fem Dom and then the fake porn fetish oriented Fem Dom. i was literally owned as a volunteer collared slave for a few years by a world renown 'professional' Dominatrix. i was Her 24/7/365 in house / in dungeon studio slave, my duties were just as if She were my level 4 Wife and i as Her eunuch slave. i worked my butt off doing blue collar daily work assignments and was used in live video feeds and movies productions which i did not like because i don't like pain. i was only allowed to touch Her feet to massage them. The only time i could ever leave the premises was at Her command in order to do the shopping and so Fem Dom in reality with a lifestyle / pro Domme' can be as honorable as FLR marriage. Granted professional FemDom for the most part if just s 'pay to play' fantasy fetish activity catering to the selfish horny objectifying male. i think it depends on the male submissive- slave inner motives and honesty
Author: Steven4FLR 2014-11-20 14:58:32   
FemDom portrays women in a way they are not comfortable with. Women do want to lead, command and even have men as their slaves on demand but FemDom is competing with your woman´s desire to lead.
Author: Pete_gomez 2014-11-02 13:10:33   
Fem dom is outside the guidelines of FLR. Less respect in fem dom relationship. Respect is critical for both partners in a FLR relationship.
Author: Tjg3232 2014-10-10 15:45:36   
FemDom is an obstruction to women's ability to lead in real ways. They cannot compete with the industry's manufacturing of fantasies. It actually diminishes women fromt he role in real life.
Author: FreeToBeMe 2014-09-23 20:45:46   
FemDom is more like a man porn fantasy.. and is not what an FLR relationship is about. Respect, Eagerness to serve
Author: Eric_vi 2014-09-04 14:15:14   
Femdom is originally what I thought FLR was, but I can clearly see the difference now, and am focused on making positive change towards an FLR. Femdom is really mostly male fantasies that rarely any woman would indulge in.
Author: Abbydave 2014-08-18 17:07:41   
for the most ppart women do not want mindless slaves but they do want there mate to enpower the to be a leader.
Author: Bowmag 2014-08-15 20:37:10   
well most of the Femdom that is on the internet is just stuff that arent real they maybe your fantasy but they arent real.. and plus when you face a real person you want them to be like your fantasy and thats when you have a problem .
Author: Michaelwarlock 2014-07-28 06:12:21   
FemDom competes with our women's ability to lead. It may tempt us to try to coax them to dominate I a manner that is not consistent win them naturally. She should rule the way she rules and we should not let outside examples interfere.
Author: Spirithunter1869 2014-06-02 17:05:00   
It makes aquire an unrealistic expectation of strong leaders. It does not serrve women because it pre judges and tipifies women into one block or type of person.
Author: Wannapleaser 2014-05-31 14:54:56   
It creates an imagine or a fantasy in men's mind that is not real and not healthy. Its an act that can't be kept up for the long-term. Its not a realistic portrayal of what life in a FLR should look like on a daily basis.
Author: Dasmith 2014-04-06 09:23:02   
There is a big difference between real sex and real porn. Similarly, there is a big difference between real femdom and real femdom porn. My wife and I recently changed our sex life into one in which she was more dominant. It was mutually agreed to. She decides when and how we have sex. I follow her direction. It was funny to us when she discovered I wanted to be submissive to her because she had wanted to be more dominant with me but was afraid to be so because she thought I wanted to be dominant. I was playing the dominant because I thought that was what she wanted. In short, we both wanted the same kind of relationship but hadn't communicated it. Suddenly, the frequency and intensity of our sex have both increased. It was the one part of our otherwise perfect marriage that never had worked until now. I am free to ask for things in our sexual relationship that she has said 'no' to and to which she has said 'later when I decide it is time.' I sense a lot of judgment here and already I am wondering if I should have even signed up. I'd like to be comfortable with FLR outside the bedroom, but maybe I'm looking for support in the wrong place. I hope not.
Author: Silver Knight 2014-03-09 12:02:57   
Unless a woman is actually a femdom practitioner its unrealistic as a relationship model. After all, an intense scene can't run 24/7/365. Its unsustainable physically and from a relationship perspective after a while it would become undesireable even for the most femsupreme women and most slavish men. She'd come to see the man as animal and not man. Shortly thereafter she'd not want a relationship because people need other people to have relationships with. So, Femdom objectifies both women and men to such a degree that they can't relate as people any more.
Author: SteveM999 2014-03-08 16:06:52   
the average women can not nor thinks of her self as a leather wearing person with whips.most do not want slaves, they want a man and partner to help, not hurt.
Author: Man learning 2014-02-24 20:05:13   
in female led relationship a man is willing to hand-over control to his female partner. In Femdom he creates a fantasy of female dominance but he is in actual control. He satisfies his imagination about FLR. It is an imposter FLR not a real woman-led relationship.
Author: Dionn_4FD 2014-01-21 17:00:38   
Domination implies control by use of physical pain and intimidation to illicit a behavioral correction or new response from the man. FLR uses control of the 5 food groups and control of the male organ to modify behavior. a behavioral response or change from the man.
Author: Speed44 2014-01-10 03:10:01   
In female led relationships, it is agreed by both people that the woman has authority to control some aspects of the relationship. The extent to which this happens can vary from relationship to relationship and it is up to each couple to negotiate this. FemDom implies the man is locked into oppressive roles. In a FLR, the woman does not need to start behaving like a dominatrix if she does not want this. Similarly, the male does not need to assume the role of an automaton. The key to reconciling differences between the two is mutually satisfactory negotiation.
Author: BetaMan 2014-01-04 13:02:45   

 

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