Why is FemDom destructive to female led relationships and men?

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Why is FemDom destructive to female led relationships and men?

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FemDom as portrayed by porn sets expectations as to how Women should lead. However, it should be about how your Woman wants to lead. Not a fantasy.
Author: Bestbreeches 2015-07-27 15:36:19   
FemDom is the extreme form of fantasy of FLR. It destroys a woman's confidence and that's the total opposite of one of the aspects of being in a FLR. The woman should be loved, cherished and served by not in a way that makes her feel bad about it.
Author: Wayne_j43 2015-07-05 15:06:33   
FEmdom is fantasy fulfillment, not FLR
Author: Mario4Level3 2015-06-25 19:09:03   
FemDom can be a dynamic that means so many things. Unfortunately the way it is too often portrayed in porn is about degrading the submissive or addressing them as subhuman or not worthy of respect. It degrades the idea of forming a bond built on consent and and mutual desire. It is possible to want to serve, submit, please and obey while still maintaining the respect and care of the dominant.
Author: 2obeyYou 2015-06-06 20:13:10   
For the woman in my life, it will be natural for her to lead, as and when She feels the desire to do so, and I will respect her for her judgement and authority. The pretend pro-Femdom, is not emotionally involved and is only there as play figure for money and nothing else.
Author: Edward John 2015-04-02 06:30:05   
FemDom is an industry catering to the males need of porn. I myself went down this path only to find emptiness and no true relationships. Although BDSM may have its part in the FLR relationship, it is NOT the FLR relationship. My life has become more enhanced by surrendering my control first emotionally and mentally and last physically. That is just the opposite of how the FemDom relationship seems to work. And honestly, with FemDom, once the physical scenerio has been completed there seems to be a lack of desire to follow through with the mental and emotional. This is only my humble experience and opinion though.
Author: Dufferdavej 2015-03-01 18:24:06   
It is more of a slave relation. True strong woman still want a good strong not a slave. Other woman that would want to be a leader can be hurt by this type of woman as men see them.
Author: 1goodguy2u 2015-02-22 00:32:04   
it is an odd women that would be separated from a nurturing attitude and assume a FemDom relationship and be comfortable with roles portrayed in BDSM relationships. So asking one to perform those acts is demeaning of her nature. For the male while it could be a fantasy to have a women dominate in a BDSM or FemDom manner, does not make men better. How can breaking down the male be sustainable in a long term relationship. So at other extreme it is an odd man that would really want to be in a BDSM and FemDom relationship full time. Male service of spouse is more of a balancing of the scales for what has been expected from women in past. Also at times the traditional roles do not work. Each should do what is in their nature and what can be best for relationship.
Author: Imsc30 2015-01-27 21:35:15   
I do not want to compete, I want to submit and make her happy, and thus myself by doing anything she asks if I can be her subservient husband. I will be so nice and friendly and love her up
Author: Dannyseeksflr 2014-12-31 14:47:22   
I imagine if you are just searching for a quick fix then femdom is for you. If you truly want to live and have a loving relationship where she rules not only sex but other aspects of your life too then FLR is where you need put your energy
Author: JC800000 2014-12-07 22:03:47   
Femdom is based on commercial interest and fetishes and is pushing into the extreme, where there is no intimacy. Femdom is not what woman want, and there is no clear path and is destructive.
Author: Spifff 2014-12-07 10:36:37   
FemDom portrays women in a way they are not comfortable with. Women do want to lead, command and even have men as their slaves on demand but FemDom is competing with your woman´s desire to lead.
Author: Simrane 2014-11-25 14:10:19   
For me, It is an unrealistic lifestyle mostly propagated by pay Internet sites. I don't believe these sites are viewed by both relationship partners together. Not a win/win item in a relationship.
Author: Schmoop 2014-11-24 13:04:29   
FemDom portrayals actually reverse the power dynamic and objectify women. Far from women having the authority, women are displayed in the manner that fulfills men's fantasies, furthering their objectification and the cultural notion that women should be what men want them to be.
Author: AtHerWhim 2014-11-23 22:08:39   
This is a tricky subject because there is real Fem Dom and then the fake porn fetish oriented Fem Dom. i was literally owned as a volunteer collared slave for a few years by a world renown 'professional' Dominatrix. i was Her 24/7/365 in house / in dungeon studio slave, my duties were just as if She were my level 4 Wife and i as Her eunuch slave. i worked my butt off doing blue collar daily work assignments and was used in live video feeds and movies productions which i did not like because i don't like pain. i was only allowed to touch Her feet to massage them. The only time i could ever leave the premises was at Her command in order to do the shopping and so Fem Dom in reality with a lifestyle / pro Domme' can be as honorable as FLR marriage. Granted professional FemDom for the most part if just s 'pay to play' fantasy fetish activity catering to the selfish horny objectifying male. i think it depends on the male submissive- slave inner motives and honesty
Author: Steven4FLR 2014-11-20 14:58:32   
FemDom portrays women in a way they are not comfortable with. Women do want to lead, command and even have men as their slaves on demand but FemDom is competing with your woman´s desire to lead.
Author: Pete_gomez 2014-11-02 13:10:33   
Fem dom is outside the guidelines of FLR. Less respect in fem dom relationship. Respect is critical for both partners in a FLR relationship.
Author: Tjg3232 2014-10-10 15:45:36   
FemDom is an obstruction to women's ability to lead in real ways. They cannot compete with the industry's manufacturing of fantasies. It actually diminishes women fromt he role in real life.
Author: FreeToBeMe 2014-09-23 20:45:46   
FemDom is more like a man porn fantasy.. and is not what an FLR relationship is about. Respect, Eagerness to serve
Author: Eric_vi 2014-09-04 14:15:14   
Femdom is originally what I thought FLR was, but I can clearly see the difference now, and am focused on making positive change towards an FLR. Femdom is really mostly male fantasies that rarely any woman would indulge in.
Author: Abbydave 2014-08-18 17:07:41   

 

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