Why is FemDom destructive to female led relationships and men?

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Why is FemDom destructive to female led relationships and men?

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Femdom is originally what I thought FLR was, but I can clearly see the difference now, and am focused on making positive change towards an FLR. Femdom is really mostly male fantasies that rarely any woman would indulge in.
Author: Abbydave 2014-08-18 17:07:41   
for the most ppart women do not want mindless slaves but they do want there mate to enpower the to be a leader.
Author: Bowmag 2014-08-15 20:37:10   
well most of the Femdom that is on the internet is just stuff that arent real they maybe your fantasy but they arent real.. and plus when you face a real person you want them to be like your fantasy and thats when you have a problem .
Author: Michaelwarlock 2014-07-28 06:12:21   
FemDom is a crude parody of a female-led relationship that concentrates solely on sex. It conditions women and men to behave in certain ways that might not reflect how they want to live.
Author: Trustboy 2014-06-24 10:33:43   
FemDom competes with our women's ability to lead. It may tempt us to try to coax them to dominate I a manner that is not consistent win them naturally. She should rule the way she rules and we should not let outside examples interfere.
Author: Spirithunter1869 2014-06-02 17:05:00   
It makes aquire an unrealistic expectation of strong leaders. It does not serrve women because it pre judges and tipifies women into one block or type of person.
Author: Wannapleaser 2014-05-31 14:54:56   
It creates an imagine or a fantasy in men's mind that is not real and not healthy. Its an act that can't be kept up for the long-term. Its not a realistic portrayal of what life in a FLR should look like on a daily basis.
Author: Dasmith 2014-04-06 09:23:02   
There is a big difference between real sex and real porn. Similarly, there is a big difference between real femdom and real femdom porn. My wife and I recently changed our sex life into one in which she was more dominant. It was mutually agreed to. She decides when and how we have sex. I follow her direction. It was funny to us when she discovered I wanted to be submissive to her because she had wanted to be more dominant with me but was afraid to be so because she thought I wanted to be dominant. I was playing the dominant because I thought that was what she wanted. In short, we both wanted the same kind of relationship but hadn't communicated it. Suddenly, the frequency and intensity of our sex have both increased. It was the one part of our otherwise perfect marriage that never had worked until now. I am free to ask for things in our sexual relationship that she has said 'no' to and to which she has said 'later when I decide it is time.' I sense a lot of judgment here and already I am wondering if I should have even signed up. I'd like to be comfortable with FLR outside the bedroom, but maybe I'm looking for support in the wrong place. I hope not.
Author: Silver Knight 2014-03-09 12:02:57   
Unless a woman is actually a femdom practitioner its unrealistic as a relationship model. After all, an intense scene can't run 24/7/365. Its unsustainable physically and from a relationship perspective after a while it would become undesireable even for the most femsupreme women and most slavish men. She'd come to see the man as animal and not man. Shortly thereafter she'd not want a relationship because people need other people to have relationships with. So, Femdom objectifies both women and men to such a degree that they can't relate as people any more.
Author: SteveM999 2014-03-08 16:06:52   
the average women can not nor thinks of her self as a leather wearing person with whips.most do not want slaves, they want a man and partner to help, not hurt.
Author: Man learning 2014-02-24 20:05:13   
in female led relationship a man is willing to hand-over control to his female partner. In Femdom he creates a fantasy of female dominance but he is in actual control. He satisfies his imagination about FLR. It is an imposter FLR not a real woman-led relationship.
Author: Dionn_4FD 2014-01-21 17:00:38   
Domination implies control by use of physical pain and intimidation to illicit a behavioral correction or new response from the man. FLR uses control of the 5 food groups and control of the male organ to modify behavior. a behavioral response or change from the man.
Author: Speed44 2014-01-10 03:10:01   
In female led relationships, it is agreed by both people that the woman has authority to control some aspects of the relationship. The extent to which this happens can vary from relationship to relationship and it is up to each couple to negotiate this. FemDom implies the man is locked into oppressive roles. In a FLR, the woman does not need to start behaving like a dominatrix if she does not want this. Similarly, the male does not need to assume the role of an automaton. The key to reconciling differences between the two is mutually satisfactory negotiation.
Author: BetaMan 2014-01-04 13:02:45   
i can imagine that, the woman of the led relationship, truly wants her man, just for her and what he is doing or even what she has him do , is just for her
Author: Steve2863 2013-12-12 11:17:41   
If a man focus the leadership of a woman only in a FemDom basis and his wife/mate doesn't feel comfortable with that, but he insists in "transform" her into a dominatrax as he see in porn sites, he is trying to lead the relationship, so it is destrutive because do not follow the basic principle that the woman is the one who is the charge of every aspects of a couple's life.
Author: Idario_SZ 2013-11-20 08:21:11   
FemDom is a contradiction in itself that is why it often does not work. I mean contradiction because, at one side, it is supposed to be submitted to women but in reality the first aim is to fulfill male fantasies.
Author: Bicolas 2013-11-13 14:32:51   
FemDom is damaging to women in the same way the classic 'nuclear family' model is damaging to men as hoh. It immediately asserts a certain expectation of that role in leadership. Every person and relationship is different, and comparing ourselves to pre-designed models limits growth, creativity, and even honesty. If a woman's personality happens to naturally make her mirror the images in FemDom, so be it; but that should be her individual preference and not an image pressured onto her.
Author: Katastrophe 2013-10-18 02:29:37   
Femdom only portrais what men want therefore not making the woman leader. It is up to the woman to decide how she will train, punish or reward her man
Author: Steph68 2013-09-10 10:22:33   
FEMDOM for me is mostly based on a sexual level and very often a business.. most women i met that are dominant live a Femdom Lifestyle, where it is normal to charge massive amounts for their services and has absolutely not realistic approach. After the session all is over and it was only a sexual thing. FLR goes much deeper and is based on thrue love.. well i hope it is because i love to love and love is the base of trust and vice versa. i don't want to lomit my flr partner just to FEMDOM. FEMDOM might or might not be a part of a FLR, but it certainly is not the same. FLR is much wider, deeper and really fullfulling on all levely.
Author: Schlotteri 2013-09-08 10:31:53   
FemDom, to me, is not desirable in the least. In fact it is a turn off to me as portrayed. Serving my one and only woman - my wife - is a turn on.
Author: Straydog 2013-09-06 22:40:14   

 

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