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Most women like the thought of punishing their man. The follow up question is how? Is this physical, mental, financial????. Punishment is part of the mans fantasy of control. If she can punishment and does then she is in control because he "must" submit to punishment. After all the greater always punishes the lessor - so he thinks
Author: Victor 2011-01-06 19:49:40
Sometimes I think that the mere threat of punishment would be satisfying if I were in a FLR say in or between levels 3 and 4...but there would have to be a real punishment(physical) at some point ,a point of reference to provide fear. I feel the use of corporal punishment to a submissive male creates an attitude of respect towards the female, a reality that a male can get his mind around as he is attuned to violence and it seems real to him where as more subtle forms of punishment confuse and irritate him
Author: Gunther 2014-09-04 18:42:19
I cant speak for women. I can understand that submitting to our mates request or demands continues to support our chosen life style.
Author: Guest 2013-01-09 19:39:36
I am new to this lifestyle....well I've taken about a year to "come out" to my wife...and she's still wrapping her brain around it. I have learned a lot in the last year. I'm sure we have all seen the online..."material" that depicts wicked wives punishing their submissive husbands. I know I have and yes I find it pretty exhillerating. I also know through trial and error and some deep soul searching that this is not very realistic. While I agree that women like the IDEA of punishing their spouse in a playful way, most women don't want to ACTUALLY do it. The concept of punishment goes against women's upbringing. In some ways, I do agree that fostering a bit of a dominant mentality in women is healthy but I have detected a tendency of myself to attempt to direct my wife to punish me a certain way. This invariably turns her off and strains our relationship. It is SUPPOSED to be about her but it is a slippery slope before I start making it about me. I guess THIS is what I need to disclose to her....the fact that I have a tendency to attempt to top from bottom.
Author: Newsubhub 2013-09-10 13:26:07
I feel that the way the subject of punishment is presented to your significant other makes all the difference. If you introduce FLR with your vanilla wife/girlfriend from the stand point that you haven't been doing enough, and can't help from being a selfish leader, and you would like her to begin to make the food group decisions, leaving out the punishment aspect you will have an easier time getting her on board. Once she is on board let some time pass as she gets used to it, but from time to time refuse to do things you know she wants you to do, or refuse to submit to her at times of disagreements. After a few times she will start to get frustrated that her control is not complete. Wait a day after a small tiff where you didn't submit and come to her and apologize. Tell her you want to give her a way to enforce her rules because as it is now you don't respect her authority when you are both angry. Then present her with a large paddle or tool of your choice. Tell her it is NOT for fun but for behavior change and that you will submit to it's use any time she demands. Assure her that you are a man and that she will not injure you. The first woman I experimented submission & CP with I used this method. She was VERY vanilla and we played with FLR without punishment for about 3 months before I gave her the idea of CP. But after suggesting a method to give her the power to force my submission during disagreements the day after such a disagreement, it worked. The first time she actually used the power of CP she quickly fell in love with it. She had threatened me a few times before she actually did. She worked at a nursing home as LPN, and I was supposed to pick up her 14 yr old daughter from a high school football game. I was watching a Hornets basketball game and lost track of time(no cellphones back then). When I remembered her and got over there she had been out in sub 30 degree weather for over an hour, by herself at 11:oo at night. Me and her didn't get along very well, and she told her mother as soon as she walked in the door a little after midnight. I knew I really screwed up and Angel could have been attacked or something. Kristy was so mad. Then she remembered CP and took me in the bedroom and closed the door, and introduced me to something called "Catholic School Rules" Bent over the back of a straight chair, pants down grab the front of the chair, and you have to stand there and take it. You can't move your hands, feet or the chair or that lick doesn't count. She was furious and was certainly not worried about hitting me too hard. I don't think I ever made it through more than 3/4 licks without coming off that chair grabbing both butt cheeks begging/crying/screaming for her to stop. She gave me 10 licks (which was really about 14 because I couldn’t take it and she would add one every time I moved). Afterwards I went back into the living room where Angel had a big grin on her face while acting like she was watching TV. She had heard the whole thing and enjoyed every second. "Bet you don't leave me out in the cold again" she said without looking up. Quite humiliating. That was the night I learned that a paddling in the fantasies are a lot more fun than in the real world. From that day forward Kristy had all the authority she wanted with that paddle, and she loved it, in some ways probably more than I.
Author: Patience 2014-11-28 22:31:13
my husband wants me to use CP as well as other means such as a male chastisy device and I am not sure exactly what he wants me to do. He seems to be disappointed when I do not punish him. I wish someone could give me advice as I truly want to make him happy. Please help me!
Author: Carol213 2015-06-17 18:02:52