I wonder Dave; what are you’re happy moments? The moments you feel you’re heart swell or explode? Find out whats underneath and concentrate on that?
For me for example it is to be humble while naming my true feelings. About longing for connection in my love language, the physical/ including but not restraint to sexual. Longing for her to see and recognise my feelings and tell her about that without claiming her body or attention. Just ask while looking into her eyes. Not ever touching her without feeling consent.
And of course last but certainly not least the warmth in her eyes if i actively serve her (mostly non sexual) or do my chores.
But of course its personal. So find out what really makes you’re and you’re wife’s heart tick?
Fons
