I want to respond to your message in the hope that my reply might open the eyes of some of the men who post their ads in the dating section. These men pounce on every ad like starving stray dogs, without even trying to analyze the text, how it’s presented, or considering the situation from a dominant woman’s perspective.
You are mistaken when you try to calculate the ratio—the ratio of dominant women to compatible men is roughly 1 to 100. I’m not even counting the men who, in my opinion, only pretend to be submissive but are actually just looking for sexual entertainment and gratification of their perverse desires, while refusing to pay professionals who are willing to engage in roleplay with them. Approximately 70% of them are like this, and many are already in serious relationships. They openly lie, knowing they only want a single session and will never see the woman again after getting what they need.
Those who genuinely believe they need a dominant woman to fill some void in their souls and lives are, unfortunately, not what most dominant women want. You might ask why, and I’ll tell you: None of us needs a loser looking to latch onto someone like a bedbug. These men always write in their ads that they’re “willing to relocate” because they have nothing to lose. They almost always have very low income, have achieved nothing in life, own no property, drive an old car, have a meager pension, wear cheap clothes, live a pathetic lifestyle, suffer from impotence, and have a pile of health issues that make them look like a retired from a nursing home.
But that’s not all I have to say. Even when such a retired man—who whose appearance inspires nothing but deep sympathy for his suffering from his physical condition and illnesses, is unwanted by his own children, let alone a dominant woman—messages me, he expects me to describe my life, explain what I’m looking for, and share details about myself. His messages are usually very short, no photos, no effort to intrigue me or explain how my life would become spiritually richer or more interesting if he were part of it. He’s spent his whole life thinking he’s the kind of man everyone wants, and he still believes that. To me, he most resembles a hunting dog that spent its life chasing house cats but now, old and arthritic, can’t even climb onto the porch—yet still considers itself a hunter and thinks someone needs it.
Sure, such a dog might have been needed by its owner, who remembers its youth and sees it as a companion. But now it has no owner, and it’s highly unlikely it will find one in a dominant woman. A dominant woman is independent, provides for herself, and is not so friendly toward men that she’d take on the burden of caring for an elderly grandpa.
That’s my understanding of the situation on this site and others. And yes, if I ever just want a one-time meetup, I’ll choose a 30-40 year-old masochist, and we’ll both enjoy the encounter. I don’t need intimacy—just communication with an intelligent person who knows what they want, leading to mutual satisfaction and a memorable experience.
So, when you see an ad from a “beautiful dominant mistress” with stunning profile photos, 90% of the time, those photos stolen by Nigerian scammer. And if they do belong to a real woman, she wouldn’t be posting ads—she already has enough play partners. And if she’s looking for a life partner or a husband, it’s definitely not someone who will move into her house, dust her dresser, and refill her wine glass. Yet that’s exactly how the men who message me envision their lives and describe their desires:
“I’m ready to relocate to your place, live in your home, so that you have someone to return from work with, and I serve you coffee and wine when you return from work” Thank you so much, boys and grandpas. When I get home from work, I’ll fill my glass with my favorite wine myself, and exhausted, watch my favorite series—not entertain some grandpa who spent his whole day dusting my furniture.