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Positive reinforcement: such as rewards, focused time in training, adult correction, things that motivate
Author: 2010-12-10 17:30:03 [reply]
In the interviews on this website I read that the women leading those relationships don't use physical punishment most of the time, they take away privileges or add extra chores. That seem more adult to me than spanking someone.
Author: 2011-01-25 12:17:10 [reply]
Guest I would tend to agree with that.
Reply by: 2011-04-01 00:35:30 [reply]
Domme[leader/woman/partner/mate/wife/girlfriend] has decided to work through issues that arise via discussion and open communication. The way we have established the expectations that I am to live up to was as follows: 1 She asked me to come up with a list of things that I would love to do for her - anything from making the bed, to nightly massages, to opening the car door for her. 2. She went through my list and 'accepted' items and discarded items. 3. She made sure that I was ok with following through with the ones she accepted. 4. I wrote an agreement stating my desire to serve her via the ways I suggested. Once that was established there was no need for her to coerce or force me to do anything. She also could state her desire to do certain things which I had the option of accepting or not but once accepted I was now the responsible one. When I lapse, she reminds me that it was ME that OFFERED to serve her and that is[it] is now ME that is not living up to what I agreed to do. The format of setting up the expectations of her sub has worked well as she simply agreed to accept my offering and has worked well in our relationship. All that to say that rather than treating me like a child, she treats me as an adult with a job description that I am expected to abide by and perform without compromise. --edited by aboutFLR staff
Author: 2011-02-16 14:26:02 [reply]
Guest well said - I like it, men who want women to lead them support them in many way. I hope you get the chance to support her in every way she wants too. Ask her what she wants form you.
Reply by: 2011-02-16 14:26:50 [reply]
Guest Sometimes women need help in gaining clarity with what they want.
Reply by: 2011-04-01 00:36:16
I for one would rather not punish. I just find it awkward. And the thought of taking my anger out on him is just not me.
Author: 2011-10-03 19:58:51 [reply]
Punishment? hhmmmm.. "Productive Punishment" like what my mom did. She send me to military school, instead of punishing me for my major trouble, which is good because I learned something like how to value responsibility of my own actions and discipline. :D
Author: 2011-10-12 15:45:33 [reply]
An example of "Productive Punishment" as what they call it is Military School / Military Camp *for short term* ( www.militaryschools411.com )
Reply by: 2011-10-12 15:48:29 [reply]
Being educated in a strict female led household, I was probably attracting fdominant girls and women through all my life like a magnet. Punishments I think are necessary in a FLR. Clear rules make things quite easier for both sides. I think without real punishments a FLR can not work. My girl-friends and my partners always made their own rules and were quite consequently and strictly executing their rules. In a certain way it helped me to handle my own life better altough it usually was quite painful.
Author: 2012-02-21 10:38:15 [reply]
Boundaries are a part of life for everyone. Discipline is a way of reinforcing the boundaries which define a FLR. Like going to church and paying tithe, choosing to be in an FLR dynamic means some changes in your thinking and stereotypes. These changes need constant attention to develop into a lifelong habit which is often opposite to the mainstream. This is in my opinion the necessity for discipline and regular ritual consistency of progressive discipline.
Author: 2012-09-02 14:03:08 [reply]
Susieq Hello, I was wondering what you mean by "progressive discipline?" I am trying to come to grips with ever increasing training levels and the challenges that come with it. Is there ever a point where training is done, and merely needs to be maintained afterwards?
Reply by: 2013-12-15 13:50:11 [reply]
Dashro23 Positive reinforcement such as rewards, focused time in training, adult correction, things that motivate. Positive discipline such as corrective action that bring positive change.
Reply by: 2013-12-28 01:28:10