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FLR seems kinky, has it changed "normal" for you?
Author: Admin 2010-12-10 18:33:19    [reply]
Admin During my marriage, the world "normal" changed its meaning. My wife controlls finance and sex life. Normal for me is being a subservient dumb puppet with no right to moan or argue. She said why changes things if this work out great for us?
Reply by: Mario-Neta 2017-07-01 07:00:21    [reply]
We have sex 2-3 times a week when I want it. because we practice orgasm denial he gets to climax once a week sometimes less. I love oral for me and that seems to be about what we can do because his member is in its cage. Blush!
Author: Guest 2011-01-25 20:36:59    [reply]
I definitely enjoy more oral and more orgasms than what used to be 'normal.' However, I truly enjoy intercourse so I use him as I see fit. Of course he isn't allowed to climax, because he is on a strict schedule (once a week). So part of my fun is teasing and taunting and enjoying myself while he has to grin and bear it.
Author: Livilicious 2011-01-26 12:03:27    [reply]
When I'm with a partner, it's every day. I like to tease him awake with a tantalising blow job, or lick up and down his spine, but it's even better when he taunts me with his tongue. Oral sex is a fantastic workout for the face. In my opinion it is better than an anti-aging cream.
Author: Girlwithadirtymind 2011-01-26 12:09:03    [reply]
It has changed for us, but it hasn't gone kinky that I can tell. If we make love missionary, she is on top, she is grabbing the headboard and gritting her teeth. She rolls off when she's done and casually asks if I came. She likes to get head the way a guy likes it, which is often and spontaneous, and unselfishly from me - it's about pleasing her, and her pleasure is my pleasure. She doesn't give head nearly as often (like a guy, I guess).
Author: D_Antoni 2011-02-03 08:23:35    [reply]
Performing cunnilingus is my preferred sexual act, always has been. I can't imagine why more Wwomen don't Demand it be that way. Its great for both Wwomen and men. - edited by staff for content
Author: Happyob 2011-04-03 07:09:30    [reply]
Happyob Oral sex is fun for some women but many women are insecure about it or enjoy penetration. Some women want to be overwhelmed by their man, some want rapture, etc... Any way you look at it doing the same thing all the time is boring for most women. I can see by your posts that you are deep into your fantasy. I advise to you is to work on making yourself more attractive to FLR women by changing your words and then focusing on the relationship aspect of sex. for instance: why women love certain things, variety. they have preferences in how much and how often, who initiates. Please change the tone of your posts to show you care for women and really enjoy knowing they are pleased and satisfied.
Reply by: Prickly Pear 2011-04-03 07:18:39    [reply]
Prickly Pear tbe more I read these comments, the more I see my own obsessive self. It is really hard to not succumb to the self-centered aspects of flr. So easy to see it as a way to get self-satisfaction. It can be a slippery slope.
Reply by: SubmissiveMale 2014-12-02 13:28:31    
Normal sex for us is now oral sex almost exclusively. She initiates it. It is usually soft and sensual. It makes me feel close to her. Sometimes she is very loving. Sometimes she basically wants to relax. It does not feel kinky. It's just the way it is and it makes me feel close to her. She enjoys relieving me once a week. This is not really considered sex.
Author: Soft 2011-06-01 06:09:45    [reply]
Soft sounds dull, will she take a lover now?
Reply by: Guest 2011-09-22 10:35:39    [reply]
b]Guest I'm with you - that relationship will get dull. He needs more tricks? The idea is to add to a relationship not take stuff away - right? I believe if it does not make a relationship better then it is not good. This might however be a response to her low drive so it works out for both.
Reply by: Ann1000Days 2011-09-22 18:11:16    
What if she wont have sex at all?
Author: Tmh 2011-09-24 23:48:01    [reply]
Tmh Maybe she does not want sex with you or has no sex drive. You two need to talk
Reply by: Guest 2011-09-25 13:33:57    [reply]
I have been in a FLR since my wife had a severe stroke 4 years ago. She does not want to have vaginal sex anymore & does not like it when I try to stimulate her. She has decided that she wants me to be totally dependant on her for sexual satisfaction. We used to have sex about 2 or 3 times a week before her stroke & I would usually masturbate the other days. I am now restricted to frotage (rubbing myself against her back to induce ejaculation)which we usually do each morning
Author: Petermk007 2011-12-27 07:13:10    [reply]
Petermk007 Sorry to hear you had a stroke, but in a sense I am in a similar situation with respect intimacy. Over the years my wife restricted me in a similar manner. While we do still have `vanilla`[normal] experiences, they are very rare and once and a while my wife displays her power by allowing me a very brief pleasure from something that is no longer allowed; a frustrating tease. - edited by staff [reason: please use common language]
Reply by: Guest 2012-02-02 03:36:06    [reply]
I think that most dominant women and girls attach an extreme importance on cunnilingus and anlingus. Knowing a lot of [d]ominant women and girls, I always made the very same experience. From the pov of a women this is the easiest and most comfortable way having sex at any time and probably also the most satisfying. - deleted by staff [not approperate for this website]
Author: Frederik 2012-01-20 02:36:19    [reply]
Frederik bull, women as a group have ben studied dozens of times and by and large women all like about the same things. there may be an isolated group that does it another way but women want loving, hot, and satisfying variety - you sir need to read cosmo.
Reply by: Guest 2012-01-20 08:16:16    [reply]
Guest That is spicy way of saying it. Men likely want that to be true because of performance issues. Many men become impotent because of years of looking at porn or fantasizing about femdom. But some men just want to do it that want because of the balance of power when they don`t get any release.
Reply by: Prickly Pear 2012-01-21 08:24:54    
Well, I only can tell about my experiences. Dominant women in general have a very high libido so that a man very soon gets at his own limits. And so I only can repeat what I said some time before. Just ask the women or even girls when they are dominant and what kind of sex they really do prefer. Oral satisfaction is an extremely important topic for many women and girls and you can read it in every womens's magazine. I am quite open-minded and therefore open to any kind of new hints.:)
Author: Frederik 2012-02-21 10:53:50    [reply]
I am new to a FLR relationship and am still finding my way. Is orgasm denial necessary or is the only neccesary when your man does not submit to your wishes?
Author: Newbie 2012-07-22 13:52:00    [reply]
Newbie No! Chastity and denial are outside FLR, FLR is about relationship. Sex is a component of relationship when appropriate. In level 3 and 4 or in 1 and 2 where a woman controls sex food group, the woman has the more power over sex. Chastity turns out to be a good tool for many things where men are concerned but not required in any way for FLR.
Reply by: Beth Anne Raymos 2012-07-23 14:00:14    [reply]
Newbie it is up to you, if you think that in training your man that denial is a good tool then you could argue it is necessary, however with time and good training then the use of chastity and denial may just be for your enjoyment, by that I do not mean you enjoy denial per say, but you enjoy the control benefits that your man is ready to serve you in any sexual way you desire at any time you wish, with extensive training the male will comply with out denial. But in my opinion and especially with younger men the use of chastity denial may be needed in the training course,
Reply by: Andielad 2014-04-07 07:29:49    [reply]
Sex for my wife is only oral now or with the toy of her request.I am kept in chastity. She wants sex daily in the evening and in the mornings on weekends. I am restricted to have any orgasm through the week and on Sunday she decides if I deserve to have one. I have gone 3 weeks without a orgasm but she usaaly will let me out of chastity Sunday to shave my privates and masturbate in the shower. I have learned to love my routine and am totally devoted in pleasing her in any way I can. I would not change for anything.
Author: Jack58 2015-02-14 14:54:47    [reply]
I have had nothing for years. I am not in FLR but it sounds like it. I do the dishes mop,vacuum, clean etc. Yet I get no sex. It feels like I am in MC. what can I read to think clearly on this
Author: Searching4IT 2015-04-01 18:37:19    [reply]
Sex was always what, when and how she wanted, and when she was done she would simply say, "Get out". I liked it that way as it truly put her pleasure ahead of mine. Now she is no longer interested in sex except for cuddling and teasing me. I understand, and though I get frustrated, my satisfaction is totally in giving her what she wants.
Author: Herfrogman 2017-11-03 07:17:52    [reply]


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