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Help other women considering or in an FLR understand the kink and depth of the kink and how much you participate in.
Author: Admin 2010-12-10 18:34:07    [reply]
His biggest thing is me being powerful (so he feels I am being that way) - that seems to be the most erotic. Things like commanding him, him kneeling, and such
Author: Ann 2011-01-23 08:12:52    [reply]
Rimming his ass with my tongue and making him quiver all over. Rub his body in oil, and rub his dick between your tits to create a scene that he will remember for a very long time. With every man, it is better to experiment with different sensations and pleasures to draw out his insatiable side that wants to scream your name with every sexual encounter. This is mind-blowing sex in my eyes.
Author: Girlwithadirtymind 2011-01-26 12:12:44    [reply]
He likes to be USED while in a vulnerable state, usually in bondage and sometimes suspension. The idea of me taking what I wish / doing what I want to him while he is unable to move sends him reeling. He likes to be 'forced' in the sense that he simply cannot do (or say) anything about it except, "Thank you love."
Author: Livilicious 2011-01-26 12:29:55    [reply]
I don't have one, specifically. I think the close association with BDSM and kink is what keeps a lot of people from trying female led relationships. The role reversal in itself is a thrill, like having my hands held above my head, being told "I like your underwear, dance for me!"
Author: D_Antoni 2011-02-03 08:39:56    [reply]
He likes it when I am very strict and demanding, me too because he gets so hot he is like putty in my hands - ahhhh
Author: Guest 2011-02-05 16:56:22    [reply]
What you need to do is to order him into frilly girlie knickers and a short frock which will humiliate him. He will then do whatever you ask. Well dome MISS Highest regards Jim This post was deleted by the moderator - aboutFLR does not condone humiliation or degradation in relationships. If you want knickers enjoy.
Reply by: Guest 2011-02-09 05:50:49    [reply]
As I was in a FLR for over 12 years, she finally gave me her OK when she was in the last stages of cancer. Our relationship was filled with kink. She called the shots after I gave her my "complete Surrender." I now have the ability to have REAL comuninication. Simply due to kink and complete submission on my part. Now that I seek another FLR, I will be free to reveal my soul. Inshort, I get pleasure in GIVING pleasure.
Author: Chappy0952 2011-02-17 09:40:03    [reply]
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Reply by: Prickly Pear 2011-02-17 18:43:15    [reply]
I asked my wife of 42 years for a change of lifestyle. i want her to dominate me, use me, abuse me in any way she sees fit She says the idea is exciting but not sure how far she can take this lifestyle. i love her and wish to find a want to show her my true devotion.
Author: Ironpen70 2011-05-19 20:54:44    [reply]
Ironpen70 I find that completely disgusting, is that the best you can do with your life?
Reply by: Guest 2011-05-20 08:31:05    [reply]
Guest Is that helpful? He wants to fulfill kinky desires...rightly or wrongly. At least he is honest. No reason to insult him. The fact that he approaches his wife is a good sign. His wife's response is good too. He probably should reign in his expectations but still no reason to make negative value judgements.
Reply by: SubmissiveMale 2014-12-03 15:55:14    
For me the kink that I can't seem to stop desiring is to be willingly and lovingly cuckolded by my wife (I am single/divorced). I don't want to be totally cut off from sex with her because I feel that the sexual union is very important to keep me bound to her. But I LOVE knowing that she is free to flirt, date, and even have intercourse with other men while I remain totally and exclusively hers. I know that not everyone understands why cuckoldry can be such a turn on for men. But if you think about it, it makes complete sense. After all, if you can have someone or something too easily it is only natural not to fully appreciate her or it. By openly being cuckolded (cheating is not what I mean here), I feel like the male is constantly encouraged to keep trying for the woman's attention and affection.
Author: Tempesto 2011-05-21 09:56:42    [reply]
Tempesto I've been enjoying cuckolding my male partner quite a bit...but with another female partner. He finds it very arousing in concept and in execution, and he says it does not cause him the same kind of cognitive dissonance and jealousy as it would where my second partner a male. She's strictly speaking bisexual, but almost exclusively into other women sexually, and exclusively into other women romantically. I also prefer it, and think the over-all lack of tension/competition that would arise between two males makes it a more romantic, affectionate and loving arraignment. Sometimes her, my male and myself will actively play with us in the bedroom... (as well as go on dates) together, sometimes he will watch us (in the bed roon) but do nothing, and sometimes her and myself will have sex as well as go on dates/romantic stuff alone. He of course can not engage in anything similar alone.
Reply by: Sarahsmiles 2013-06-12 18:30:21    [reply]
I love the sex in our relationship. Last night, I gave her a full body massage, foot massage and a pedicure. I had oral sex with her and her orgasm was the biggest she has ever had. She then ordered me to stand in the corner of our bedroom with a dunce cap on and she went to sleep. But before that, she warned me that I was not to masturbate and certainly not to cum. To make sure, she tied me. In the middle of the night she untied me and made me cum in my mouth and swollow my own cum. She loves to laugh when I do those things at her order. In the morning, after making her breakfast, she whipped me because I had cum the night before. She then gave me a list of chores to do, inserted a tampon in my anus, and left for work. I took a shower, shaved my arms and legs, and then put on my bra and an apron. During the afternoon, she called to tell me that her gitlfriend was coming over and I was to remain dressed as I was. I hurriedly did all my chores and waited in anticpation. When her girlfriend arrive she had her boyfriend with her. I kissed her feet in greeting and got both of them a drink. She checked that all chores were done, and then gave me a reward which was to suck her boyfriend's penis. He cum in my mouth, my wife's friend told me to spit it into a glass and show it to my wife when she came home. She had me stand up and kicked me in my testicles and left. (I have been on female hormones for a year and have deveoped my breasts but shrunk my testes.) I cannot envision any other life than the one I am living in my FLR with my wife. deleted by staff
Author: Guest 2011-06-08 10:39:59    [reply]
Guest Yeah right, thanks for appropriately deleting this one admins. This kinda of post seems obviously written by a male as his own weird fantasy and probably written with one hand, is exactly why I hate trying to search for real FLR advice and resources online. I realise this is a discussion about "describe your mans kink" but this post was written trying to imply that it was real, and even as such was not even about "his Kink" but actually about her kink and sexual desires not his (as if it might possibly have actually have happened anyway) Sorry for the rant, but this really frustrates me because I want to be able to show my wife articles and discussions on sites such as aboutflr without her having to read this kinda shit and wonder if that's what I think about.
Reply by: Chrisg001 2015-03-06 09:54:13    [reply]
Chrisg001 Chris, we sometimes leave the comments up so people can see what is inappropriate for this website - we are not anti-fantasy by any means, in fact we like them as free ideas; but rather we are pro-relationship and reality based whenever possible. We do believe in free speech appropriately posted. 99% of these kinds of comments have been removed from publication.
Reply by: Ann1000Days 2015-03-06 11:53:27    
Im a feminine male. I understand the need to add a little spice to a relationship but the best thing i have ever enjoyed was being held and kissed by a strong woman who had the confidence to take me as her wife
Author: Guest 2012-01-30 15:21:06    [reply]
I would say that it is unique to the individual person and you have to be very conscious of what they are comfortable with. I think this also plays into how 'public' the man would want the relationship to be. He may be very willing to be entirely submissive in private, but totally turned off if that dynamic played out in public. It's definitely an important issue to explore with a partner.
Author: Fabian11x 2014-12-03 20:18:21    [reply]
I'm a female (very strong woman here) and Black female, Southern raised and born and I've never heard about this until today when I was browsing. Can't believe that there are ACTUALLY men out there would are interesting in me. Where are you, in real time/places???!!!
Author: New2This 2016-07-21 18:43:33    [reply]
New2This I'm in northern california and I have difficulty understanding your apparent lack of self-confidence about your desirability. There are partners for everyone out there. Admittedly, Its hard too find the right one.
Reply by: Ulii49 2017-06-15 14:13:55    [reply]
I am going to write something that I wish to get feedback on/assurance that I am wacko/depraved, etc. I am a "closeted submissive" 50 y/o single male "successful" by our societies standards. Established career, 6-figure+ income, standard physical trappings of life, personable, educated, well-travelled, fit, clean, and am considered attractive as I can get dates online, etc. In any case, I sometimes date a woman in another city that is most definitely dominant sexually. I find it rather exciting when she calls me a slut, uses parts of my body for her own pleasure and then "talks me into" pleasuring myself for her amusement. If we lived closer and saw each other more often, I am sure things would get a whole lot more kinkier. My dilemma: Since neither of us is moving closer to each other anytime, how do I get into a similar relationship with someone local. BTW, I have no problem following her other non-sexual demands either.
Author: SingleNseattle 2017-12-07 21:29:39    [reply]
I am trying to establish a FLR in my marriage. I am early 50s, a lawyer, and successful. She is an attorney also, and an executive officer. She is much more successful than I am and she deserves it. She is truly gifted and amazing. Our sex is very vanilla, and lately I have been troubled with ED. My favorite thing to do is to orally please her, and with my penis unreliable, that is what we mostly do. The thing is, I have heavy bdsm fantasies that involve me in a submissive or gay bottom role. I get tremendously aroused by submission, since I was too young to even climax. When she tells me what to do, that is a huge turn on, and I think I need her to assume control over my orgasms so I don't masturbate, but I have no idea how to talk to her about it. More than anything I want her to be happy with our sex life, and with me, and I would do anything from being her slave to being chaste to make that happen. In the lottery of marriage I got all 6 numbers, but all she got was a scratch off. But I want to do better. She is already in charge of the 5 food groups, and this weekend I told her explicitly that she is the leader, and I will submit to her decisions in all things. How do I get over this porn induced ED to be the loving servant she deserv s?
Author: Tryinghard 2018-01-22 20:10:13    [reply]
Does cuckolding always happen in a FLR ?
Author: Alone2017 2018-02-09 09:54:44    [reply]
Alone2017 very rare, of the things rated in survey here, comes near to toxic for a relationship
Reply by: Ann1000Days 2018-02-09 21:39:05    [reply]
Ann1000Days Cuckolding is a fetish, FLR is about relationship. Relationships can enjoy fetishes but they are about relationship. I suppose someone could build a relationship on a fetish but it seems rather shallow to me. Women in FLR may be free to have sex with anyone if that is what the couple agreed to. I am just saying cuckolding is a fetish.
Reply by: Ann1000Days 2018-02-13 17:40:44    
Ann1000Days Hi. FLR is rare. Cuckolding is rare. I suppose the two togetber are even rarer. Yet cuckolding is out there as a lifestyle and there are a number of marriages that it works for. Some of them may lead to some elements of FLR in one way or another, at least in the area of sex. Can it end a relationship? Yes. But there are also many couples who have increased intimacy through it. Still, it certainly isn't for everyone!
Reply by: Trdd 2018-02-12 07:57:30    


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