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As long is it doesn't maim him or keep him from coming back to his edge, then no. I would say that moderation is the key to health" so when you ask if it is "bad" for him, surrendering gives the man the opportunity to release his tight hold on the rest of his career and to receive. Most men don't get to receive, they're always pushing, molding, dominating in the world. For a man to be effective in the world, he has to be in control. So, as long as he doesn't go too far into surrender and loose touch with his edge, then he can swing back and forth to have the other side of his softer side nourished, too.
Author: Oceana 2011-01-27 23:38:41    [reply]

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Might be, in my opinion, it is useful for a while but his self esteem is better at a normal to high level for the health of your relationship and him
Author: Admin 2010-12-10 18:45:45    [reply]
could be, you should find out by testing

Reply by: Eta777 2010-12-29 17:30:12    [reply]
Admin If both people in the relationship are normal, healthy people, then I don't think surrendering is a bad thing. If the one partner has no self-esteem and possibly addiction problems, this is probably going to be a co-dependent relationship. The "strong" one becomes the drug for the submissive one.
Reply by: Victoria 2011-01-28 22:00:34    [reply]
surrender in itself is not bad and we as a society say that the servant is a virtue - so I have to conclude that surrender is a good thing
Author: Merryweather 2011-01-23 07:52:26    [reply]
I think that it has to be taken on a case by case basis, don't you think? My partner loves surrender and is actually thrown a loop if I don't make the decisions. He just isn't wired that way. Others might have a problem with it and maybe a FLR won't be for them. It isn't for everyone.
Author: Guest 2011-01-26 08:07:30    [reply]
I think all men secretly wanted to be with a submissive female. There are sexy elements to controlling a man, not just with blow jobs or sexual positions, but making him at the mercy of your release.
Author: Girlwithadirtymind 2011-01-26 13:15:40    [reply]
I think some men have a very strong natural need to submit to a woman's control. Some men feel good having their partner in charge. I don't see how surrender would be a bad thing.
Author: Pleasingyou 2014-08-23 15:18:16    [reply]
I think the key point in a loving female led relationship is that there are two needs being met. My husbands need to be submissive, to seek approval from me be it openly or with a glance, on issues big and small. Alternately there is my need to control my environment, it's as fundamental in me as submission is in him. How many men are sitting at home, reading about this on the internet? Looking up porn sites of Dominatrix's 'training' their subs? Trolling for stories about all manner of bdsm, submission, etc.? Maybe even looking for professionals to fulfill their fantasies all while their partner remains ignorant to their true desires. That is not a life I want to live and I don't know anyone who does. If there is communication, trust and love between two people and there is a clear understanding of who is the more dominant or submissive in a relationship - what is the harm exactly?
Author: Guest 2011-12-23 06:18:48    [reply]
Guest Your comment precisely captures the concepts and attitudes of several sites including worshippingyourwife, femdom101, subservient-husband, and others. For older couples, an important issue is the process by which the woman discovers her husband's needs and decides to take charge. There has been recent discussion that for younger couples determination that the relationship will be female-led is tending to take place much earlier in courtship, as early as the first or second date. By marriage the relationship being an FLR is often well-known to the couple's social circle.
Reply by: Nerd 2011-12-24 10:22:18    [reply]
It all depends on the couple. Some can do it. Some can't.
Author: Mac356 2014-07-22 09:18:57    [reply]


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