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I have hear of several things that women do to make the experience special for men and some things that men have asked for from their mates. One thing I have done is to wear the key openly and remind him of it. What about you. Tell about how you make the experience special as a couple - men and women reply.
Author: Ann 2011-08-03 14:27:42    [reply]
Ann That does sound sexy! As of now, we use the honor system, we don't have any device. I'm glad to say that in the last year, I never did masturbate without permission. I do sometimes ask myself if using a device would make it even more interesting...
Reply by: Molardoc 2011-08-04 10:03:40    
Hi Ann. Great idea. I will hopefully be entering a Female Led Relationship. I am almost certain that I will be put into enforced chastity. The woman has a strong will and wants to show me who is Boss. And it's obviously not me when I wear a chastity device. If she wears the key all the time I will constantly be reminded of my situation which would stress that she is control in our FLR.
Reply by: Jens 2015-07-06 15:07:28    
This thread is for couples to share helpful things - we don`t want men to contribute unless they are in a couple and what they contribute helps other couples.
Author: Ann1000Days 2013-02-08 22:34:53    [reply]
Ann1000Days My work takes me away for six weeks at a time. My wife doesn't like me to release without her permission. She likes to know that I am still focussed on her while I am away, she expects me to skype or chat several times a day. I am on the honor system, but when it begins to get too difficult I use a device. She doesn't much like it but prefers that to me having an unauthorised release. She normally allows a release once about three weeks in and again a few days before I return home as we both get impatient. It's always initiated by her, we joke and play as it happens so she is with me in a virtual way. During the two weeks at home there is no device. We make love most days but I am expected to ask before cumming. To keep my interest in her high she refuses some of the time, or maybe says as we are playing around at the start that I can only visit, not more. That way she gets to take me inside her, which we both like, without any drop in my interest levels. This seems to be a practical solution to our specific situation that is workable and sustainable all round. She gets what she wants when she wants it, I get to enjoy being in courting mode as well as special treats both when at home and away. I hope this is helpful to share with any other couples in our situation.
Reply by: Karim56 2013-02-14 15:35:02    

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I introduced my wife to male chastity. I have a CB-6000S and we use it at a rate of maybe 4-5 times per year. I am more intersted in playing with it than she is, although she does enjoy it when we play. Her main reason for not locking me more is that she enjoys my erections and she prefers me to use my willpower to remain chaste. As far as what she can do to make it special? It mainly revolves around her openly showing that she enjoys this special power/control. This can be by snapping the lock shut herself, by texting me about my predicament, and by teasing me during sex play. I fantasize about her actually putting the entire device on herself. Just as with other things with sex, there is a lot of room for creativity with keeping your man locked.
Author: Lovetosubmit 2011-08-20 09:03:10    [reply]
I too wear a CB6000 device. I first introduced the idea to my bride/keyholder a year ago. I was motivated to drastically reduce my desire to masturbate. We have grown to enjoy our choice and feel naked when I`m not locked. My bride/keyholder proudly wears her key around her neck. She really enjoys the sound that comes from the lock bumping against the tube. usaabn - edited by staff [reason: this is just fetish stuff, we need real content not I love this and she does that]
Reply by: Usaabn 2012-08-23 14:29:37    [reply]
Usaabn Note to writers, saying "I love this", or "how great something is" or adding fetish clips does not really help anyone and is not very good information. What we want is a frank and grown-up discussion about what couples do with male chastity. Let`s turn about this forum ann teach other we we are doing that is wonderful and helpful.
Reply by: Ann1000Days 2012-08-23 18:27:08    
My wife truly believes that she was born to be in charge. Her family in Europe has an aristocratic background, she unapoligeticly feels she was born to be served. This is not a game. Exploitation of others she feels is her right. Her birth right. She is one in a thousand. She does NO housework, none. She says that`s why I`m around. She doesn`t make beds, do the dishes, sweep, laundry. Sometimes she does cook but not often. We have a saying in our marriage. It isn`t fair, it`s just how it is. She does not feel guilty. Like other FLR marriages, she uses orgasm denial to heighten her authority. She makes it clear that I must work for my orgasms. She grades me daily on my performance and attitude. She updates the totals and when I have enough points, I have permission to ask for an orgasm Usually it is on the honor system, but we have used a CD6000 to insure my chastity. Of course I must provide massages, service in the bath, and of course she uses me to meet her sexual needs. Selfish orgasms only. However, we have another aspect of chastity. I am required to pay a fee for my orgasms. $100 for each orgasm I`m granted. My wife says that as a Lady she needs personal funds to have her hair done, her nails, facials, massages, or just to purchase new outfits or clothes. When we started, she adjusted the points so it took about 2 weeks to earn enough for an orgasm. She has expanded on it. My wife says "It`s not chastity training unless it`s expanded upon each time. She has hinted that 10 orgasms a year should be enough for any husband. - edited by staff [reason: your wife needs to write this kind of think]
Author: Guest 2016-02-01 14:24:48    [reply]
I stand corrected and might I say I'll work harder in the future to better craft my words. Thank you usaabn
Author: Usaabn 2012-08-24 13:15:22    [reply]
To Ann1000Days: You R absolutely right. But probably the man that wears chestity device has so wrecked personality that he is not able to think as human being anymore. My wife has discovered it right now. And I know I will have no power to resist her decision. If she decide to lock me, I will probably write same way as those that already loosed their mind.
Author: Marky-FLR 2013-07-28 11:57:50    [reply]
I have only been practicing a month with the Bon-4, I had realized that I did appreciate her the way I should have. After purchasing I told her about my lifestyle change, and have been incredibly happy since than, I pamper her, and serve her. she's always been fairly dominant. Now since I recognize this life has never been better. She is still trying to adjust to my changes. But both a agree I am a much better husband
Author: JD1964 2013-08-16 15:54:05    [reply]
My wife initially brought up the idea if using a chastity device. Our current arrangement is that monday through friday, I put myself in the device and them present myself to her so she can close the lock. I stay in it until night, usually being unlocked right before we get in bed. She doesn't require that I'm in it on the weekend, just when we are apart. She used to wear the key on a bracelet, but we had to get a new lock and the new key is not at all decorative, so now she keeps it in her jewelry box. I wear cb-3000
Author: HerDomestic 2013-11-23 11:33:25    [reply]
We do male chastity on the honor system because she asked me to only reach orgasm with her and we do not go past 6 days without me reaching orgasm. Neither of us is interested in long term chastity as we both like sex too much for that. For us, MC becomes an exciting game for my wife as she teases and denies me orgasm until the appointed day for me to reach orgasm. That day is decided by the throw of a single die. So I know when I will be allowed to orgasm and that makes it more exciting for me as it is something to look forward to just like when we were dating and I saw her only on weekends. It also makes it easy for me to remain chaste for her. She was not crazy about the idea at first but she was enjoying the tripling of orgasms for herself that was the result of me massaging her almost daily and her enjoyment of hearing my moans when she teases and denies me. Today was a good example. She told me to massage her feet as she does almost daily and afterwards said we could snuggle. At first she was fully dressed as she was not horny but after teasing me and seeing the effect and hearing my moans, she undress and had me perform oral on her. Afterwards she told me I was killing her because our sex life before FLR and Teasing and Denial, was about 3 or 4 times a month. Although that is about all I am allowed each months, she does that in a week now. I am lucky as she is one of those women who can orgasm in a few minutes and do it often. However her orgasms are so intense that her legs and toes cramp up so it hurts afterwards. I have not idea on how to lessen the intensity of her orgasms and do not think she really wants to. She also is excited by the first two times she ruined my orgasm as I taught her (I also taught her how to edge me) as I expelled a lot of semen but was able to reach a second orgasm even more intense than the first and with more semen than before. She was fascinated that a man could have a multiple orgasm and felt really good about her new skills. I had only had this happen once in 40 years previously but now it happens about every other orgasm I am allowed. So we both are enjoying the mind blowing orgasms we are having and she likes this new aspect of our sex life. This in turn has given her more confidence to assert her leadership in our marriage. I think that even without a FLR, she would want to keep the teasing and denial sex. However, the T&D seems to naturally lead to a FLR as when I am horny I do everything she asks me to do and volunteer to do a lot more.
Author: Guest 2013-12-01 00:32:49    [reply]
For my wife and me it is important to respect chastity without a device. We once tried to use it, but for us it is better to have the oppurtunity of masturbation, but never to be allowed to make use of it, By this way much more energy for love is concentrated on my wife. She does not accept any masturbation of me, she has the whole control over my sexual behaviour and desire. And I like this dependance, because she is so mighty and taff.
Author: Giovanni 2014-12-03 14:56:28    [reply]
Giovanni MY relationship with my wife is very similar to yours. I am all in when it comes to devotion to my wife, but when I am allowed a full blown orgasm, I tend to get a little lazy for 4 or 5 days. I think that is why she likes to give me ruined orgasms now as I have little or no down time. I better go...I have to vacuum the carpet before she gets home.
Reply by: Guest 2017-09-05 12:29:38    [reply]
After many years of being excited by the idea of tease and denial and male chastity I have recently discussed the idea with my wife. Although not fully understanding the reasons why I would want to put myself through such torment she agreed to try and to date has taken it on with great enthusiasm. I am on the honour system and therefore only masturbate with permission. We play various games but both of us are looking for more ideas as we both love the idea of lots of variety. I would love to hear about ideas or possible websites that are devoted to orgasm denial games.
Author: Flix22 2014-12-06 08:42:41    [reply]
One of the special things that we do in male chastity is I must always thank her when she requests to be pleased with a orgasm and I must thank her again on my knees after I am done pleasuring her. When I do get my release from my chastity device I must kneel in front of her and thank her for my time in chastity. This routine brings us closer together and makes me love my wife even more.
Author: Guest 2015-06-30 21:52:15    [reply]
Frankly,I fail to understand how any couple who claim to love eachother could possibly engage in the practice of tease and denial especially when it involves the wearing of a chastity device. It sounds quite demeaning and degrading for the partner you claim to love.
Author: Uncomfortable 2015-10-24 09:40:47    [reply]
my vanilla wife has started using the tease and denial method frequently now, it took her sometime to see the benefits of male chastity, and how it has made us so much closer
Author: Jdm1964 2015-07-13 19:46:06    [reply]
@Uncomfortable, My girlfriend and I are older and basically only have sex about 3 times a month. Pre chastity the routine was sex (with some kinky stuff and lots of fun), then a rapid decline in desire as well as setting a date in the future when we'd get together again. We don't do spontaneous sex because of the risk of a rejection feedback loop that you see in many couples (where they stop having sex entirely). Post chastity, Same amount of sex (so far) but the 7-12 days between hooking up have both of us constantly aroused, happier, and at higher energy levels (don't even need as much sleep!). Instead of a dropping to a complete lack of desire, I recover interest in under 24 hours and I'm pretty crazy by day 4 to 5. So why not have sex then? Because if we did, it would undercut the practice that was leading to that desire in the first place. Being highly aroused (leaking precum several times a day) for an extra 24 days a month is worth it to me. Doing chores takes on a sexual vibe (same chores done- but now it's part of sex). Time sort of slows down. Now, I use a custom made leather sheath that lets me get about 2/3 erect and it's had an unexpected side effect. My penis has increased from 5" circumferance to 6". I think I was essentially doing jelqing "horse" exercises for hours per night and hours per day. They never worked for me before. Our practice is to use a lock with a backup key in a tamper proof envelope. It's also made us grow closer as I see her as a much bigger source of pleasure so I'm naturally more attracted to spending time with her. I play less video games. I'm less distracted by other pleasures. Hope this helps you understand how chastity play can actually increase the amount of sexual pleasure in your life (even if you are not particularly kinky).
Author: Maxo 2016-07-13 10:50:58    [reply]


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