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If you and your man are involved in retaining him to become more domestic and care for your home it helps to learn a few tricks about his psychology. Where he is today is "as he has been trained". Where you both want to go is "where you want him to be" for that he needs a self image change. His current self image is one where women do the housework and men rule women and that is just not going to work for any man into FLR. 1. Talk if over with him and start a training period, he already wants to do it so just encourage him. He won't even need rewards just praise. The first step is his understanding what you want to do. Before you start have him start calling you a new name of endearment such as "beauty", "love" or "ma'am", I'd shy away from FemDom terms like mistress, they are just antisocial right now. He will agree to use them when he is in training in all of his communication with you. This puts you in the role of teacher and authoritarian. 2. Begin a training regiment where you are teaching him how and when you do things, show him how and have him demonstrate what he has learned. When he is doing well praise him and when he is doing poorly correct him (if you punish - punish him - not much just a little). Be consistent and swift in correction and/or punishment. Reinforce behaviors you want, ignore and punish those you don't. 3. When he has been at it and you are please with the results, talk about how "he is helping so much at home" in front of your girl friends/sisters/mom while he is listening, praise him and say just how much you are pleased, how happy it is making you. He will likely be uncomfortable at first but will adapt to the new self you both are evolving. What you are doing is helping him change his self image by letting everyone know. 4. After a month of so of telling everyone he will be adjusted to "the guy who pleases his wife" image. To make it last, normalize it. Build it into both of your lives where he is using your endearing name in conversation "love would you like me to?", "precious could I?" so he is looking for your approval. Don't give up on the public recognition and get him to open up to other men about it. Hope this helps you enjoy your relationship more.
Author: ArchAngel 2011-01-30 07:02:16    [reply]
ArchAngel Very impressive insights.....a very methodical approach.....much emphasis placed on practical re-construction of the male's self image and the goal to re-form it.
Reply by: Falcon55 2012-02-28 07:11:26    

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men see control as power, they want women to seem powerful, it makes them feel safe
Author: Admin 2010-12-10 17:16:26    [reply]
Admin security perhaps. Not everything is about power. It does make a man feel better with a stable, well rounded woman that can provide things that help with needs he has. Women need that from men too. Anyone wants a strong partner. Thats evolution.
Reply by: Water 2011-06-07 15:54:41    [reply]
That will work on animals too. The psychology of it is on and it works for women too. The problem is that you should not have to do that, not the male or female in the relationship, or you may as well have a pet. The relationship will not last if you you do that.
Author: Water 2011-06-07 15:50:30    [reply]
Each of us are the product of the nature we're born with and the experiences we've had that condition us to behave in certain ways. Society conditions - or trains - us to conform to a pattern of relations between women and men. If as individuals you or I don't feel that pattern works for us, perhaps because it does not fit our own sense about who we are, we have every right to change the pattern to suit us. Changing means acquiring new habits. Training is a very effective way to do that. A woman training a man will learn how to do that - she has the chamce to develop new habits by doing. She chooses to take on the responsibilities of leadership because they bring benefits to herself and to the couple. For his part, an FLR man being trained by his leader is making a free choice to change his way of looking at relations between women and men. He becomes free to behave in the world in ways that are better aligned with his own wants and needs as well as those of the leader to whom he offers service. It's a win-win for couples who choose FLR, there is no coercion on either side. Nobody is a pet. Yes, the relationship is unequal, but both can enjoy the respect and esteem as well as love of the other in their respective roles. This site has loads of great information, and clear and practical advice, for anyone who wants to find out more. The MAG section for men is especially helpful for any man wanting to think this through and start making a change in his socialisation and self image.
Author: Karim56 2012-11-20 10:50:11    [reply]
As a submissive, I really do want a strong woman. My wife is capable, well spoken, skilled and professional. Many of the things I aspire to. She would lovr if I was also this way and does not want me to be a sissy. I feel her subtle influence on me. Encouraging the positive..ignoring the negative. I do not think that my knowledge of her techniques makes them any less effective. They are gentle yet relentless. I find her simply expecting me to perform my duties....not rudely or aggressively. Just matter of factly. I am slowly feeling like we are where she...and I want to be. The kink level is excedingly low but I still feel submissive. When she does give me sexual release it is a delight. She does what she wants to do....which is minimal.....and where I used to pine for more....and more kinky...I am starting to settle into a routine. Is this good? I am not really sure. I guess I am on my way...
Author: SubmissiveMale 2014-12-08 01:25:02    [reply]
SubmissiveMale From your post you both are well on your way to a comfortable Level 3 FLR. Being able to do things for your wife provides its own pleasure. Occasional sex when she is interested is the best long term bonding experience.
Reply by: Motleyfoool 2014-12-14 07:11:55    [reply]


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