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Usually punishment, like spanking, time out. It could be anything that is a show of power too. I want that to change. I don't see that as long-term healthy for anyone.
Author: Admin 2010-12-10 17:28:56    [reply]
Admin Punishment, like continuous training, reinforces the woman's control in the FLR. That is why you see the term "maintenance spanking." It doesn't correct anything, but reinforces the power situation, can be highly erotic, and makes some of his fantasies come true. It also creates a level of fear and uncertainty in the man, that can be both helpful to the woman's control and erotic to the man. Some FLR bloggers use a form of time out punishment that is not erotic at all. One example is making the man kneel in a corner and hold a coin to the wall with his nose. Another blogger makes her husband stand in the corner, takes steps to make him uncomfortable, and makes him compose a poem in a form she specifies thanking her for the punishment and apologizing for his misbehavior. Upon her command he has to recite the poem perfectly or he has another period to uncomfortably stand there and work on it. Some Level 3 and 4 FLR bloggers use public humiliation, or the threat of it, as punishment, to keep their men on edge, and for their own amusement.
Reply by: Nerd 2011-02-22 19:09:35    [reply]
I rather like punishment so she can vent anger, I do not see any other useage.
Author: Guest 2011-02-23 10:48:53    [reply]
i would like my partner to lead our relationship and punish me for any misbehavior. any ideas on how to bring her to my way of thinking
Author: Guest 2011-05-12 10:50:48    [reply]
Guest Far be it for me to give advise Guest however the MAG courses contained in this site can give you guildance. I suggest you join and complete the course work. By becoming a good FLR man many things can come to being. gat1207
Reply by: Gat1207 2011-05-13 08:40:45    [reply]
I hate punishment and being punished, but my Wife enjoys venting her anger out on me, It is very unusual if I am not sobbing uncontrollable at the end of a very severe punishment session. The problem for me is that over the years I have become more immune to the cane, so my wife has steadily increased the strokes to make them effective. I have to thank her after every session. I also find that when she has had a bad day at the office I can expect to be Punished. Afterwards she is no longer bitchy. 3 years ago she was going through an aggressive take over of a rival company, I was punished every night for 3 months to ensure she was relaxed for the next day. I certainly worked for her as she got promoted shortly afterwards. - deleted by staff - we think this is a spoof
Author: Guest 2011-09-19 09:41:35    [reply]
Guest I would believe this if a woman who was registered on this site wrote it, but it sounds like a guy's fantasy when you write it. In fact I think I read that exact fantasy on another site. Is there any way we can get her to corroborate your post?
Reply by: SusanM88 2011-09-19 10:48:27    [reply]
Guest Your wife sound like a real jewel
Reply by: Guest 2011-09-20 01:08:20    [reply]
Guest He sounds like a pain slut (pardon the expression) - someone who enjoys pain. I know many women and men who enjoy the attention of being beaten and used. It is something for private conversation between people who are in a private forum - this one is Public
Reply by: Ann 2011-09-20 06:21:11    
Did this guy got banned because of his time with Susan and or the content or both? just curious
Reply by: Guest 2011-09-20 05:31:16    [reply]
Guest The action was taken because the user did not do what she asked then popped off. Both things show a man who is neither willing to follow a woman nor show respect for someone questioning what he wrote. It is too easy to pretend online, the internet is full of crap, we are attempting to keep this site real, and clean. This user can redeem himself by having his wife contact us on Skype video and apologizing then taking both MAG courses to get himself back to planet earth. If I were her I'd be pissed.
Reply by: Randell 2011-09-20 06:09:56    
There is always a certain type on all forums who see reds under the bed, what ever the subject is on the forum in question. I do not write comments freely on WLF forum, I am guided by my wife, and the post is checked and corrected by her before it is posted. - this user has been banned for violation of ground rules - IP address
Author: Guest 2011-09-20 00:18:54    [reply]
Guest Bad manners - this site is about female led relationships
Reply by: Prickly Pear 2011-09-20 06:32:45    [reply]
Guest Once again if we could get her corroborate on your post instead of your word that "I am guided by my wife, and the post is checked and corrected by her before it is posted". We can clear up your reputation by getting to know her. -- feel free to use the contact page to communicate.
Reply by: SusanM88 2011-09-20 07:36:26    [reply]
As a new member might I add that there is another positive aspect to punishment...that is that when an infraction of her rules is committed and the punishment administered, the infraction is forgiven and put to rest. The "crime" so to speak had been paid for. At that point, hopefully the male is corrrected and the bad behavior will not be repeated and the sin is "forgiven" and the relationship can move on.
Author: Cbotrader 2012-03-21 06:59:39    [reply]
Cbotrader I want to meet that women :)
Reply by: Guest 2012-04-01 17:10:57    [reply]
I am torn about discipline though I crave it in some strange way. I don't know where it comes from but it is deep within my psyche to submit to a woman.
Author: Seekerflr 2012-06-15 19:19:20    [reply]
FLR embraces the man to become a better person and spouse to his wife. It is about changing him. There are huge obstacles to self-change. FLR is impossible without inner discipline. But changes can only happen if some outward discipline is enforced. How this happens is largely in hers to decide but it must be in tune with goals she has put forth. We can gather, that have a deep longing to be punished. This longing should be utilized by a wife to meet her ends. I think that he cannot fully submit if he does not harbor a desire to be punished. There is a strong will for pain but also to avoid it. To meet her ends a woman should know exactly how much he wants it. To not punish him, may be a bigger punishment, than to do so.
Author: Buntekuh 2013-01-28 15:00:51    [reply]
Buntekuh are you saying that the discipline could be her helping him change, not actual punishment/pain? if that is true I agree. I think women can help men change by applying a discipline to his change and not using pain. As in a routine, applying rules to follow, asking questions to him, helping him to be transparent about what hs is doing and experiencing, challenging him, being actively involved in his change and rewarding him for the change. He just needs to willfully cooperate and get with the program How about for every 2 days he makes the mark, I let my man pamper me? Punishment is a last resort. He might actually enjoy the focus of punishment so it is not a very good choice. I think he will get plenty of attention pampering me. Punishment will be he does not get to pamper me.
Reply by: Guest 2013-01-29 20:25:56    [reply]
My wife disciplines me to correct poor behavior and enforce her authority in our marriage. Punishment spankings are typical and loss of privileges, especially intercourse are also effective means of building my character to her satisfaction and keeping my focus on her as head of our household. Because I have flirtatious tendencies and an unruly temper when frustrated, I am held to account 24/7. My wife does not let me get away with anything. Eddie
Author: EddieT 2013-05-27 14:09:08    [reply]
I am a firm believer in a Woman`s [woman`s] right to discipline Her[her] husband. I believe this should be a Woman`s [woman`s] absolute right for Her[her] to maintain a well ordered household, to see to it that Her[her] husband always knows his place, and that he remains Her[her] properly submissive and obedient husband. I believe marriages and relationships would be far better off if more Women [women] understood that "if you spare the rod you spoil the man," and were willing to take Their[their] husband for a "little trip behind the woodshed" on a regular basis. - edited by staff [reason: fetish jargon, how many times do we need to say this - we are not a fetish site]
Author: Sksdomwife 2015-03-02 02:28:24    [reply]
Sksdomwife Really? when did women get the right to discipline husbands?
Reply by: Guest 2015-03-06 13:53:00    [reply]
Most of the things written that are extreme... seems to be male porn oriented. It is enjoyable (to a point) to receive discipline during play or for really screwing up. It seems to be a reminder of sorts. Know from being in a position of authority that sometimes you just get so frustrated at the world that any little thing can be a tipping point. Do I want her to get into it, making a scene intense? Yes. Do I want her to lose control? NEVER. It is just unsafe and quite frankly, makes any woman (or man) who gets that carried away, emotionally unstable and quite dangerous to the sub, both physically and mentally. Discipline has its place. Just like all spices in life, in moderation.
Author: NETXFLRSeeker58 2016-07-24 18:29:57    [reply]
I have been in a FLR almost for 20 years. I did no realize that I was being trained until the day I decided that the improvement of the sexual relationship of our marriage needed my subimission to my wife authority. From that moment, and as I was being dominated in bed, I started to enjoy FLR life and now my wife rules my whole life
Author: Pollerudo 2016-08-07 06:53:07    [reply]
When did "firm-but-loving" vanish from the lexicon of terms associated with FLR spanking? Fortunately, this website hasn't forgotten. Bruised, welted, or bloodied buttocks are fine if that's what Hubby truly wants or needs to become better-behaved or more obedient. However, the firm-but-loving application of her hand or hairbrush is usually enough to bring the desired results. Being spanked by a female partner imparts not only an appropriate amount of stinging pain, but also reinforces the fact of her control, demonstrates that her love is deep enough to provide the bare-bottom guidance and correction that Hubby needs, and the physical contact he craves. Finally, I am surprised that there are not a greater number of "mature" women who seek a friendship or relationship that includes firm-but-loving spanking. I'm a retired, attractive gentleman who would love to correspond and/or meet with such a desirable companion.
Author: Guest 2017-08-11 22:12:45    [reply]
Punishment in our FLR is a spanking based on demerits for correction not something sexual. A demerit is given for forgotten chores, chores not done correctly and any action or behavior that might displease her. Each demerit is worth 5 strokes with a cane on my bare bottom. She will inform me when I have earned a demerit. I will mark the reason and date and then give her the list when it has six demerits. She will read the first demerit and administer 5 strokes and proceed to the next on the list. I believe whole heartedly that my purpose is to serve her. I dread each spanking and try to avoid them. Yet I know that I need them. They serve as a compass for me in our loving FLR. I don’t care about the psychology… This is what works for us and I would not want to change.
Author: Herfrogman 2017-11-05 05:23:00    [reply]
As a long-time flr student I do believe that spankings play an important role maintenance spankings for simple assertion Andrea for me the bonds punishment spankings used when is necessary for corrective Behavior both are beautiful bonding tools that bring the couple together and reaffirm the roles that we embrace
Author: SwmseekingFLR 2018-05-18 09:02:42    [reply]


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