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What is control? - Issues in female led relationships

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I see it as management, leadership or force. Exercising control can be innocent or tyrannical
Author: Inquisitor 2010-12-10 17:14:17    [reply]
I am totally fine with my gfwife having control of our relationship. I actually desire that. I just need to find her!
Author: Guest 2011-01-12 19:07:50    [reply]
Hi - as first post just checking to see that things actually work. Having discovered this site for the first time i am initially impressed by the apparently non commercial stance. (i don't think that excuses me for having bought paper-based porn, but as i have never supported pay websites you may know where i am coming from. If i have something to offer it may be the relationship with my wife. Regards Drew
Author: Guest 2011-01-29 02:47:39    [reply]
i'm the boss, he said--my wife gave me permission to say this. its like the saying--choose or dont, a choice has been made. control is the same.
Author: Aldozyd 2011-02-19 11:20:22    [reply]
My wife-mistress is the boss, she is dominating me completely, she is the decision maker of every thing, she choose clothes for me, she is ordering me to do any thing she want, and ordering me what not to do, she ordering me who i must know and who i must not to know, she punishes me in all ways SHE want : slap me on my face, even in public, spank me hard, she already ordering me to take off her shoes in any place and kiss her feet, I always kiss her hands once I see her, when she come back to home, I have to kneel to her, kissing her shoes, take off her shoes and kiss and suck her toes, then wash her feet, when I want to drink, the only water I allowed to drink is her pee, I'm very happy with my wife-mistress and I think I found my dream came true to worship a pretty and dominant female like her. she is very sadist and strict, and I love her so much - deleted by staff
Author: Guest 2011-07-23 16:06:12    [reply]
Guest wow that is off the deep end. every women wants to be worshipped at sometime in the ways she wants but boy, I need a shower to wash that off. If that was real how productive is that?
Reply by: Guest 2011-09-22 07:35:40    [reply]
I feel that your wife is very admirable: she is firm, she is probably very skillful in relationships you know the way your relationship is defined,so you have nothing to complain of. Speaking personally, I would love to be in a relationship like yours; I envy you. Roger
Reply by: Guest 2012-08-28 11:47:16    
Control is the power that a leader has to make decisions about a given issue on behalf of a follower. In an FLR the woman leads and the man follows. Leading is hard. A man lucky enough to have a good leader should cherish, support, serve and obey her. She knows what's best for him. She deserves that he does his best for her.
Author: Karim56 2012-10-10 18:53:59    [reply]
Exchanging control is a matter of trust and surrender, a process of both letting go of control and learning the benefits of trust in her. Never assume she wants full control until she says she does and then help her become comfortable with it; become her supportive man; if it is a chore, no one wants to do it. Tell her your desire to surrender and it should endear her to you -- then remember not to push, you both need to grow.
Author: SusanM88 2012-10-13 18:20:17    [reply]
SusanM88 Thank you. This expresses more clearly what I was groping towards but couldn't find the words for. It covers sentiments as well as thoughts, and does both in a practical way. Great verbs to describe right actions: learn to trust, let go of control, never assume, help and support, tell her your desire, don't push, grow together. Thanks.
Reply by: Karim56 2012-10-14 16:17:33    [reply]
First off let me say that it is very refreshing to find a website that does not narrowly define a FLR as strictly (no pun intended) D/s relationships with the wife dominating the man. For me a FLR is simply the switching of rules in a relationship in its basic form while a D/s relationship by its very nature is female led. It starts with domination while a FLR can add domination. I live in a real life wife led marriage and I am not whipped, do not call my wife Mistress or am I punished. I simply support her and let her guide our relationship. She has already got us out of credit card debt so it is working for us.
Author: Guest 2013-12-10 16:34:23    [reply]
I think women are superior and want the final say in all decisions. Also they want a man who is attentive to their needs and wants before putting themselves before her. An FLR is not about sex or fetishes all the time that may enter into the equation but that is a small part of the relationship. it is about the man putting her first and supporting her leadership and trusting her to be firm but loving safe sane and consensual and not just in the bedroom
Author: Guest 2017-09-23 22:02:00    [reply]


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