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I don't think there is a correct answer but surrender is better to start because submission takes a lot of work. Does your man want to be forced?
Author: 2010-12-10 18:52:04 [reply]
I interviewed two men recently trying to understand all this female led stuff and those two wanted to be slaves, but their women did not want that for them (mostly). The men wanted her to be the dominant leader type. I guess that is surrender. Personally I can see how men would willingly give up everything to a women for any reason, but these two did and they were not herd to find either, both came from a well know dating website.
Reply by: 2010-12-29 17:28:55 [reply]
My husband likes to be forced into submission, where he has no choice but to do what I want. For him I think it is like being able to take a mental vacation. My husband works hard and is in control of everything (at work) all the time. When he gets home the last thing he wants to do is "think" - like make a decision or decide what to do next. It isn't that he wants to be on autopilot or that he doesn't care about what is needed at home. But he wants me to "take charge" of him so that he can release and unwind.
Author: 2011-01-01 15:45:47 [reply]
Men tend to want submission/force because it takes an effort by his lady. You know he gets attention for it. Surrender is more precious an expression of love
Author: 2011-01-27 18:00:45 [reply]
MistressMate did not use force to bind me. She just said, "You know what you have here with me. If you want it to end, walk out the door NOW, and do not look back. Otherwise, show me that you want it now and forever. Make this the last choice you ever make." She knew what my answer would be - edited by staff
Author: 2011-07-28 18:49:08 [reply]
Guest huh? sounds like a fantasy to me
Reply by: 2011-07-30 22:50:24 [reply]
I think it will be tough for any man to surrender to a woman he does not have confidence in. The drive to surrender being somewhat hormonal on his part soon loses it's appeal when the move he made toward surrender is not met by a reciprocal move on her part toward leadership as he sees it. The only real surrender that can happen is in a relationship where both partners are moving together and he is learning to trust her in her role while she is learning to trust him in his role.
Author: 2011-08-03 12:23:19 [reply]
Prickly Pear That is right on the money. You cannot submit...or surrender....or whatever you want to call it if no one is calling for it. Ultimately this is where I am. I am in crisis because my wife refuses to engage in any meaningful way in my desire for this power dynamic. As a biased male, I fail to see her objection! I mean.....we just don't have much intimacy/sex.....vanilla or otherwise.....I am offering a way for her to stay at this low level of sexual interaction, get whole lot of positive behaviour from me.....AND yes indulge me a little!
Reply by: 2013-09-11 10:36:57 [reply]
When I began crafting an FLR relationship with my partner I was fantasizing about a measure of force/coercion. As our relationship has grown, she has been grooming me to offer *everything* voluntarily with the full understanding that I can pull out at any time. She receives my gifts with joy and enthusiasm, but we are both clear that we are both here because I wanted it, first. She wants it, too, and says things like, "I never want to go back to the way things where before!" but she requires it to be my daily, cheerful, enthusiastic gift to her. It's quite the mind trip for me because I have had to shift from "I want her to require this of me" to "I want to give her this for a whole bunch of reasons." Her leadership becomes her gift to me. My submission and self control become my gift to her. If she ever notices a lack of enthusiasm on my part she will invite me to convince her that I am still interested. It is a huge rush for us both for me to look her in the eye and work to convince her that I really am able and desiring to continue to serve her with cheerfulness and enthusiasm.
Author: 2014-05-16 16:48:52 [reply]
Traveler willful participation is best, easiest and doable - force cannot work unless the environment is always controlled. Someone forced likely cannot have a job because he would be making decisions at work and the job they do have might not be that great. I think force is a myth while behavior modification ideas based on pain and reward seem to work in real life.
Reply by: 2014-05-25 12:51:25 [reply]