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How do I get a guy trained to anticipate me? It seems a better model to me.
Author: 2011-09-17 14:30:48 [reply]
I like the idea of learning by doing and asking. Help him learn your moods. He likely did this at work. It just takes time.
Author: 2011-09-17 14:32:20 [reply]
Gwen This is a good idea, it uses the natural male aggression to his and her advantage. Getting him to aggressively learn
Reply by: 2011-09-19 05:35:37 [reply]
The FLR Guide to Training is a great place to start learning. I read them last year and was so pleased to see my Sisters getting it. However, I've also learned that the difficulty for women to get to theses sites and an empowered understanding of self begins much quieter in conversations with one another. We thrive when we can talk honestly about our desires. Problem solving comes more easily to women as they talk out problems and direct solutions that are best for both parties. Soooo keep talking Ladies and men encourage all the women you know, not just the ones you seek in relationships but lift all women up, encourage them to speak their mind. Affirm them in their power, not just their sexuality or their dress, hair, makeup, but the decisions of their mind, the power of their voice. That will make it stronger. Leather Strong, Ms. Serene
Author: 2013-04-12 13:44:31 [reply]
Serene Very nicely stated. Way to go Serene!
Reply by: 2013-04-26 19:05:19 [reply]
MsRika me as well
Reply by: 2018-02-06 15:53:25
I am new at FLR and have no idea what site to look at and no idea how to start. I need a lot of help as this is my husbands desires and off and on for years have discussed what he wants/ not what I want. Please someone help me as there is so much for me to have to read.
Author: 2015-05-30 19:25:07 [reply]
Carol213 If you were in an FLR what would you want? that is the first question you might want to answer for yourself "what is in it for you" and "what is in it for him". Set aside anything he wants and dream BIG. Then make a list that you want - if you don`t want FLR don`t do it; if you do, make sure you get everything you want from dreaming big. don`t compromise what you want.
If I were to make that list for you it might look like this:
1. (build me up if you want me to lead) I want him to provide encouragement, appreciation and approval publicly and in private verbally/physically. All positive all the time, if it is negative, find a positive way to talk about it. Think highly of me. 2. (seek my approval) ask for my approval for your decisions before you make them and take to heart my counsel, if I say no it is NO! 3. (ask for permission to spend money) no matter how small an amount, ask permission before spending money 4. (I am going to keep a score card on you) prove you are a good follower and will obey me If you can`t prove it I am not going to make an FLR with you - it is all on you now to make this happen. No coaching, no kink, no training, no chastity or FLR until you can show me you will do well. The 4 areas I want you to do well in are these 4 numbered things. I will give you a fair score of A-F on building me up, seeking my approval, asking for permission to spend money and your obedience.
Test him like that for a month and see how he does, if you want to encourage him, allow him to pamper you by fetching things and allow him to bath you or wash you in the shower or sex just for you. If you want to discourage him just tell him NO, it is not for me!this was typed with my thumbs
Reply by: 2015-05-31 13:53:01 [reply]
The best way to train a man is by repetition, helping him get it right by instruction and encouragement. To break a habit make an agreement and hold him responsible for it. Your agreement should address remediation (the consequence), remember always plan for success (reward and encouragement) and for failure (work harder dear until you get it right). Have the energy to see it through or don`t start.
Author: 2015-10-25 16:14:38 [reply]
I'm being asked to be in this kind of relationship. I keep fearing that I cannot be what he wants. Yet after months of communication, he continues to ask. We haven't even met officially. When ever I try to set that up he pulls back. I think I'm want of me to be more dominant in making it happen. How do I start? How do I take that first step to get the first meet complete?
Author: 2017-06-15 10:08:06 [reply]
Ycntibu You just took the first step - read all you can and make decisions then set limits for yourself and him. Most of all enjoy yourself and your new freedom.
Reply by: 2017-06-15 18:22:31 [reply]