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This is a rhetorical question - of course it is not healthy, not for men, not for women, not for the models. Porn is designed to stimulating a compulsive interest from the audience. How many compulsions do you know that are good? Aside from the freedom of expression aspect which is good, porn is destructive; and we can have freedom of expression without it being porn.
Author: Ann1000Days 2015-03-09 18:53:28   
Ann1000Days Thank You Miss Ann for asking. my compulsions that are healthy are 1) FLR = meeting a wonderful Dominant Matriarch building & nurturing a harmonious FLR. 2) Bicycle riding, i absolutely feel a healthy addiction to riding my bikes at a vigorous aerobic tempo. 3) Sunshine , the sun is like a giant bright yellow Prozac pill in the sky lol. the fog and rain has its charm but to me sunshine brings effervescent life to my day. 4) Juicing, i feel empty and incomplete if i cannot use my classic 1960's VitaMix blender / juicer on a daily basis. Thank You Miss Ann, steven
Reply by: Steven4FLR 2015-06-23 17:00:08    
Ann1000Days Ooops, previous reply was put in moderators comments by mistake. I belongs below.
Reply by: CactusGerry 2015-10-10 06:35:13    
Is all use of porn compulsive? I have to agree with Submissive Male. Most of these responses remind me of students parroting back the words of the professor in order to get a good grade while learning very little. I don't know what the effect of porn is on individual relationships and what other people do is of little concern to me. As for myself, I've decided to avoid the whole issue by voluntarily deleting the collection of porn on my computer and no longer viewing it on the internet. Since it was just masturbation material anyway and I've given my partner a vow of chastity outside the relationship, it serves no purpose anyway.
Reply by: CactusGerry 2015-10-10 06:04:19    

What our MAG members say

No. Absolutely not. Men are actually doing harm to themselves and the relationship when they promote or engage in pron. It is not real and hurts your ability to connect.
Author: Sweet 2018-05-02 11:29:47   
Participating in internet porn changes my view of women, myself and how relationships work. Internet porn is not real, it uses models.
Author: MrCybelle 2018-04-27 02:32:37   
Participating in internet porn changes your view of women, yourself and how relationships work. Internet porn is not real, it uses models.
Author: Max1985 2018-04-26 07:09:58   
No. Men are not promoting healthy and positive relationships by participating in internet porn. It's a disruption in vital energy that should be focused solely on their female partner. And thus, i think leads to a healthy bonding between the two.
Author: Vinland 2018-04-13 10:21:14   
I would say men looking at porn destroys relationships, frustrated males are changing their thinking. Most flr men have a desire for fulfillment and understand the reality of obedience to a female.
Author: Dudley 2018-04-10 12:53:31   
No not at all. I know it has lead me to have erectile dysfunction and loss of interest in my wife. After some counseling I have realized that I have a very warped view of what my wife wants. I am working with her to be one of my accountability people. I lover her so much and am just starting to realize what I have been doing to her. I realize that there is no way we can have a FLR if I keep looking at porn. I believe that with this group and counseling can work my way back to the respect that my wife deserves.
Author: Xanthrax 2018-03-31 21:15:06   
Porn contaminates the mind. The polluted male mind looks upon women thru the haze of scripted erotic greed.
Author: RespectInChastity 2018-03-19 21:36:08   
Totally not healthy. It takes the man to a fantasy world that he can never reach. Thus he becomes addicted in striving for the unattainable. Reality fades as he falls deeper and deeper. The mind becomes twisted because he is pursuing the unattainable. Like a Donkey, the carrot is still just beyond his reach. He either continues into the darkness or worse yet takes physical action and an innocent woman becomes his target.
Author: RespectInChastity 2018-03-19 14:22:12   
No they are not. Porn objectifies, and through objectification destroys avenues of communication between the genders.
Author: Wayland 2018-03-13 19:41:10   
No by watching internet and any kind of porn it takes away from your mate's pleasure. It also places unreal expectations on couple sex life.
Author: Hungryguy741 2018-03-04 15:01:49   
Viewing internet porn is disloyal, deceptive and unfaithful to your woman. She will lost respect for her follower and her heart will turn against the man that betrays her.
Author: Jammes12 2018-01-26 06:44:02   
People forget that porn is a form of film making which involves the bending of reality to create an illusory situation that people forget is not real. In this way it can depict a connection but that connection is not real and certainly the connection between the consumer and the images on the screen in no way establishes a real connection. The tendency to get caught up in the belief of reality is much easier to establish than on TV or in the movies. But believing that what is going on on the screen is real is like the belief that a certain character on a TV show is real. Apparently, this occurs more often than people realize. So this is one of the dangers of porn, creating the illusion that what is going on the screen is a real situation. Incidents like this sap a person's grip on reality and they get caught up in a fantasy world that can only end up in disappointment. Another responder made the point that in certain contexts within the couple porn can be a form of entertainment and instruction, just as in certain contexts masturbation can be a source of entertainment. (supervised masturbation for example) So porn can work in certain contexts as long as it is approached with understanding and humour.
Author: Simmer51 2017-12-31 18:38:36   
No, men are not promoting healthy positive relationships by consuming porn. Porn gives a distorted view of reality and it is necessary to leave it behind to ground oneself and create your own reality where the woman directs the relationship according to her needs as opposed to some porn-style fantasy that caters to the fantasy of the male.
Author: Simmer51 2017-12-31 10:19:08   
no although different kins and fetishes can be explored by using it as an educational tool and for a source of ideas.
Author: Alphaman 2017-11-01 10:22:03   
No of course not - women are important in today's society as such they are to be respected, given full attention to, and viewed as an important component within our culture
Author: Whateveryoudesire 2017-10-31 21:08:34   
I do not feel as if men are promoting healthy relationships by participating in internet porn I must learn to trust that if my behavior is suitable that my mate will provide me with what she feels is appropriate
Author: Igor2learn 2017-10-22 17:35:56   
No. It is still pornography and Women are treated as sexual objects. It supports wrong expectations towards Women and distracts the attention needed in the relationship.
Author: Johnyyyy 2017-10-06 08:19:33   
Heck no! It is fantasy, not reality. And it has nothing to do with her direction. Her direction is what is essential in his life.
Author: ProfessionallookingforhisBOSS 2017-10-02 12:42:38   
Understanding of relationships I guess now that I'm getting older is a lot more vast and deep than it was when I was younger I always thought it was about the me I would get lost in the fantasy of p*** the fantasy of what my life should be not knowing that this search that I was searching needed a guide needed a helper needed somebody to Lead Me and by me seeing my not going anywhere method and by allowing my will to submit to her will to follow her ideas her dreams not saying I cannot have input I have input but my input supports her ideas her thoughts her words and by me supporting this new confident dominant woman my life is awesome I'm doing more things that I never thought I could be doing in all the groups in all the pyramid levels it's amazing adventure for me as I submit as a powerful confident man to her will her love her desire and I am pretty confident that most ladies have this in them that's why they were created to be the better part of this journey as our guide as a man to follow the woman Author: Flrjer 2017-05-07 06:40:51 [reply]
Author: James 2017-09-21 00:32:07   
Are men promoting healthy positive relationships by participating in internet porn? No. The men are wasting their time and putting themselves at risk of developing a self-defeating obsession. I would say the men who are boycotting internet porn might be doing so.
Author: David Jeeves 2017-09-14 11:08:35   

 

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