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Control should be discussed in a relationship so the best partner knows what areas they should focus on. This helps strengthen the relationship while helping to avoid weak points. Some people like control at work and home while others would prefer to split the responsibilities. Good communication about preferences and needs inside and outside of the home are important for determining the best fit.
Author: HonestSoul 2018-05-15 14:40:18   
There is a difference between the control manager 's assert at work and that of home life, at home it is a total experience, it is very important to be clear and honest.
Author: MrCybelle 2018-04-27 17:00:10   
Is there a difference between the control manager`s assert at work and that of home life? How does it work?
Author: Max1985 2018-04-26 11:11:57   
Management control works in a relationship because it clearly delineates roles and responsibilities. I tend to procrastinate so have a great appreciation for the leaderships qualities of a woman. I think it creates a synergy that allows for a harmonious connection.
Author: Vinland 2018-04-10 10:33:17   
One is professional and has to be done, the other is a choice, and is gone into willingly. The latter, as it is personal is more profoud.,
Author: Wayland 2018-03-13 20:00:06   
Yes he will or can be assertive at work and in every day life but at home he gives that up and she is the assertive one.
Author: Panchafinder5 2017-11-03 18:47:09   
The principles are the same its just that at home those same principles are applied to the home life and ultimately intimacy
Author: Igor2learn 2017-10-24 21:47:15   
At work, managers have the authority (formal) to hire, fire, award pay increments, etc. In home life, in a "no fault" divorce state, either spouse has a legal right to file for divorce with no more cause than the marriage is irretrievably broken, there is "no chance of reconciliation. So in both settings the ultimate sanction is "termination" in one form or another. But control at home is usually less formal than in a work setting. At home, boundaries may be more pliable. Women polled by FLR want control (at least 50% want control) of Finances, Sex, and Chores, but 24%, 26% and 16% of women would prefer just having the "Final Word" in these three areas respectively.
Author: David Jeeves 2017-09-15 16:08:53   
The man at work will often be in a position of authority with all the stress tht professional life can bring. At home he surrenders himself to the woman's will, whether that means showing subservience or being subject to her discipline.
Author: Philipt 2017-08-08 08:21:33   
This goes back to preparation. discussing these assertions early on makes accomplishing them much easier. At home its easier to make quick assertions but at work preparation may be needed.
Author: JackStephen 2017-07-01 05:11:41   
Ladies manage her life direction on the items in her daily achievement. Things men think are non important, have importance on her vision. Example chores ,tasks, time spent and outlook. Very similar to a work place with out the direction for her goals as primary. Work controls outcome for work related objectives. Home control leads to happiness of her objectives. Thus using the achievements of success at work to success at home. The new life direction gained by the understanding of the role of leadership to her make life navigable to a course into a grand future.
Author: Flrjer 2017-05-28 08:43:40   
A workplace is a totally different environment to home. You are at work to work and you have to adhere to the rules whether that is an accountancy firm, a customer service call centre, a housebuilder or a creative in an agency. You cannot bring home rules in to influence work because your work is not governed by those rules and neither are your coworkers. Having that balance though can be enjoyable such as being happy to focus on your partner at home
Author: DorianGrey 2016-10-24 13:22:19   
At work it's about you knowledge and skills in a position. You may like being powerful at work or a leader to your friends do but you may want to give things up in your relationship because it's the ultimate expression of a mans love to the woman who shares his life.
Author: Helpme555 2016-09-21 14:03:53   
This a complex area to explain but in essence it is based on the level of control agreed in a range of different areas. It seems the more discussion the better and it will be an ongoing subject across the board initially until each area is tested and trust settles down between the parties.
Author: Perversey 2016-09-16 09:33:38   
I've not experienced this myself so I can only speculate. I would say that there are similarities but ultimately they are different because a FLR is a personal, romantic relationship not a job. Management control could really work any number of ways, depending on the couple. A woman may wish to be more micro managing (to her partner's delight) or she may be more lax but expect active submission from him so management is less direct.
Author: Ericthebritt 2016-08-21 01:43:40   
this is of a more personal nature so therefoe it is directly with the couple involed
Author: Walee125 2016-07-24 08:27:13   
The woman should manage her man in the same way as any livestock owner does. Cattle are handled one way, horses another. Men are handled differently again, but handled they are.
Author: Keith17 2016-03-20 02:33:17   
Management control works better when the lady is total in charge.
Author: Jeffery 2016-03-04 20:36:26   
The desire for control is a response to our hierarchy of needs. If you had abandonment (security) issues, control looks good for those reasons. If you had a stability issue control looks good for that reason. Control further gets people to justify their reasons for 32 their control revealing their guiding principles; even if they never could put voice to them before. Real control is not really possible – yes I said not possible. In relationships that management/control requires willful participating from your mate. So toss out the idea control means a robot on the other end, it is more management, leadership and influence.
Author: Sandy_2 2015-12-22 00:59:44   
It is my experience that they are one in the same for a dynamic dominant successful business Women. All of the Women who have ruled my life have incidentally been successful professionals.
Author: Steven4FLR 2015-11-02 10:50:59   


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