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Author: Bowdowntothegirl 2016-07-02 21:32:05   
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Author: Bowdowntothegirl 2016-07-02 21:30:56   
Well hopefully it was just a mistake. Admit it and then apologize for messing up. She will forgive you I'm sure since she cares for you deep down. Of course there may be punishment involved or they may not. Either way take it like you should and thank her for correcting you too.
Author: Wayne_j43 2015-07-06 17:27:48   
Learn how to do it correctly, learn what pleasing attributes must be there.
Author: Mario4Level3 2015-06-25 19:06:44   
The answer for this topic. I think that the way to do it right next time is simply to make a bunch of small choices each time you are on the internet about what you will look at. Each time you choose not to look at porn than you are on the way to doing it right. It's just a second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour, day to day choice.
Author: Kc1968 2012-08-16 14:24:05   
I guess the key to doing it right next time is to admit you made a mistake, be honest with yourself and her about that, shift your focus to her not you, check that you really shifted that focus and did not just tweak your own fantasy, be consistent, and be patient with yourself and with her.
Author: Karim56 2012-07-30 14:57:55   
Everybody makes mistakes; I made mistakes because I wanted to go to fast and I was disappointed. She also made a lot of mistakes. But we love each others, and so we can always forgive, learn from our mistakes and become better.
Author: Alphanu 2012-03-07 15:48:45   
My wife passed away almost four years ago now. I don't know to what degree "screwed up" means, but I can say from experience that if you are genuinely sorry and you honestly and sincerely ask for forgiveness, she will forgive. Then you show her you are working to make it right. My wife was forgiving to me.
Author: Cosearcher 2012-02-22 00:28:43   
Not sure how to answer this. Best way is probably to count your blessings. My wife died over 10 years ago and I have been alone ever since (occasionally dated). When you get a woman who loves you, treat her like the treasure she is.
Author: Taxpro007 2012-01-30 18:33:30   
Not sure if this is the best place to put this question but, I am doing something wrong: My problem lies with my mother in law. No, not the typical mother in law stuff, I get along with her just fine. She, by bring other family’s (sister) crisis to our home, undermines my potential females leader’s confidence by making her nervous, feeling guilty and the whole package. Then, although I am in complete agreement (whatever you want… to may I suggest) with “whatever my potential female leader wants” (that subject is an individual assignment) she gets so distressed by the whole ordeal that any progress that I may have made is gone. Going backwards gat1207 Read between the lines. My potential female leader has just made a decision that is going to cost us a bunch of money. Now, we would have had to spend $$$ either way we went however due to family questioning and making my female led nervous and second guessing herself, plans got delayed and as you know delay equals cost. I don’t know how to help. “Stand by her side” and “being her cheerleader” is not getting the job done. When, if ever, do I just do what it takes to get the job done? Stumped gat1207
Author: Gat1207 2011-04-06 10:24:22   
Gat1207 In answer to my own question, I went back into the site for help, agreeing with her is not going to get me anywhere. I have to build her confidence. To build her confidence I have to vest her with responsibility. I have to ask her advice. I have to take her advice and show her that I believe that it is good advice. I have to seek her approval and be appreciative when she grants her approval. Mostly I have to appreciate her. I have to let her know that I cherish her and that I feel her decision are the best for our family. The lessons are paying off I just have to get this stuff in my head. Thanks gat1207
Reply by: Gat1207 2011-04-06 11:09:36   
Gat1207 Ask "is that how I would want to be treated as the leader of our family" and you will be close to the answer. You have some really good ideas.
Reply by: Prickly Pear 2011-04-07 17:16:11    
Gat1207 This topic resonates with me Gat, and I share your problem. One part of it that is within my control to change is the articulation of the positives when you see them. Help her to recognize successes when you see them. If they aren't coming fast enough, help her to line up some wins in smaller areas. Eventually this should build her momentum for the larger decisions. The other thing we did that really helped was to move further way ;-)
Reply by: Chris68 2011-08-24 12:00:00    
Me of course...just joking...her
Author: Gat1207 2011-03-24 14:33:19   
Gat1207 Hey guy, hit reply to comment on current threads and it should line up better. If not tell tech support what browser you are using so they can fix things - :-)
Reply by: Ann1000Days 2011-03-24 20:38:41   
Group I query; during a busy morning of getting family ready, what is the best response (physical, verbal or otherwise) to the off-handed remark: “I am so bossy, I’m sorry.” “That ok my babe I love it;” Is just lame, ineffective and lost in the commotion of the morning.
Author: Gat1207 2011-03-24 12:18:19   
Gat1207 who is being bossy her or you or someone else?
Reply by: Prickly Pear 2011-03-24 13:35:21   
Gat1207 If it is you just say sorry, and perhaps ask how would you say it so it did not sound so bossy. If it is her just smile or wink. Gonna depend on the women. You could always ask her the question. If it is your kids saying it to you, smile at them and say damn right!
Reply by: Ann1000Days 2011-03-24 20:36:07   
Gat1207 Hardy Laugh
Reply by: Gat1207 2011-03-25 09:44:04   
Gat1207 in moments where i am challenged to receive a message from my wife, if i can muster it, I visualize the first time I said good bye to her after we began our relationship. She dropped me off at a train station, and she leaned over to kiss my cheek. A perfect moment. THen i come to, and the day is still there, but any resentment is gone.
Reply by: Chris68 2011-08-24 12:04:26   
Gat1207 This situation must be very, very common. Many people (probably more women, statistically) have been trained to take responsibility for things, rather than rocking the boat (hence, "I am so bossy, I'm sorry"). When that happens, I try to let her know that it was not a big deal, and to give her positive reinforcement. So I might gently wrap my arm around her, gaze into her eyes with a soft, loving smile, and say something like, "You're the best boss I ever had, and I love you for it!" ... gently pulling her closer for a loving kiss... and closing the issue by saying, "You're the most wonderful woman in the world, and you deserve the most wonderful man - thank you for continuing to show me how to be that man, for you!"
Reply by: Mr.Bill 2013-02-13 23:49:33   
Gat1207 This is a good question. If you correct, than you really are not offering her support. On the other hand, you want to help her feel more comfortable with her leadership so you don't want to be sarcastic. Just a smile and wink, as Ann suggested is probably the best thing to do, and i would add, "I love you" and a kiss.
Reply by: Kc1968 2012-08-16 14:21:56   

 

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