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Author: Prickly Pear 2011-03-10 07:17:22   

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MAG 1 group assignment 7: discuss positive images of women as leaders, how does that help FLR Positive images of women and the converse negative images of women is an immense area of study. There is a wealth of information concerning negative images of women in media. This area is important to us as the internet, the primary source of darkflr and femdom images, is of course media. In an article written by Nicole Smith she begins by stating: “Harmful representations of women in the media are not just limited to television or films; they are wide-ranging and can be found in nearly every medium in popular culture. Three of the mostly widely consumed mediums for these depictions of females are television, video games, and magazines and each one of these has a corresponding set of unique problems. While there are many other issues related to the way females are repented for viewers, for the purposes of this essay it is useful to explore gender stereotypes in television, overly sexualized images of women in video games, and unrealistic images in magazines. As a whole, these three issues support the idea that these problems have a negative effect on the way women not only perceive themselves but how our culture understands them as well.”(1) Paraphrasing Ms. Smith begins by examining popular television, “[most] widely viewed mediums in this country,” and she her thesis is: “ [television] is responsible for some harmful representations of women because, among other reasons, it supports many gender stereotypes. These stereotypes are harmful for women because they confine women to several gender-specific roles that are not always true.”(2) Ms. Smith goes on to examine several television shows where she points out this gender specific stereotyping. Ms. Smith comes to the conclusion that women are hurt by this stereotyping because they can come to believe they are not “normal” or women are not living the way “real” women live.(3) Discussing video games and I find this conclusion particularly on point with femdom images, Ms. Smith concludes: “This makes both boys and girls prone to idolizing an unrealistic woman and might make the real women look dull in comparison. Women in this game, at least the central character, Laura Croft, is an unattainable ideal and that is, in itself, a very damaging notion for both genders.”(4) If you close your eyes for but a moment and think Femdom does a specific picture come to mind. Stereotyping on the internet and especially in the area of Femdom exists. Are these images positive? If our attraction, the focus of our female led, are our wives, long term life partners or girlfriends and they are not professional domes, then I believe we can conclude that being a cold and heartless, armor clad female is not the best image and does not portray the nurturing and loving female led, we hope comes home to us (break a stereotype a little). Although Ms. Smith writes about the negative images of women in media by exposing the problem she is actually working to create positive images about women. So who are and what are the positive images we hope to advocate? It has been suggested within another Mag members answer that strong women in politics are positive images. I agree and supplement the list with the names of Shirley Chisholm, Barbra Jordan, Madeline Albright, Margret Thatcher and although not purely political Maya Angelou. In sports the names of Billie Jean King, a long time supporter of positive female images, comes to mind. In track and field Wilma Rudolph and much more currently Mia Hamm and Michele Akers in soccer come to mind. These are strong women, at the top of their game showing the world that women can do and more importantly women succeed. At home you probably need to look no further than that beautiful (most broadly define), smart and hard working women right there in your own house. Women deserve us to be the very best that we can be. A positive flr can only support, empower and free your female lead. In the poetic words of Ms. Angelou: I am mate to Kilimanjaro Fujiyama, Mont Blac and Sister to Everest He who is daring and brave will know what to do. (5) Respectfully submitted, gat1207 1. The Extent of Damaging Representations of Women in the Media an Article by Nicole Smith at http://www.articlemyriad.com/9.htm 2. ibid 3. ibid 4. ibid 5. Maya Angelou “Now Sheba Sings the Soung” E.P. Dutton Dial Books 1987
Author: Gat1207 2011-03-18 12:41:09   
Gat1207 Once again Gat1207 nails some good points. One of the authors of some of the content on this website is Liz, she is a journalist, an athlete and a woman to be contended with. There is a real beauty in women who express themselves as independent. In Liz's case as an athelete and feminist. Building a positive image in our minds as men is just a simple step away in seeing women for who they are not in seeing them in comparison to others especially in media where we only get a snapshot at their best. I started noticing how beautiful women get when they go out to the ballet many years ago when my daughters and my love and I went as a family. It gives me genuine appreciation to have that image in my mind. 20 points awarded for the ideas "we get our cues from media, media sets the standard which is unrealistic"
Reply by: Prickly Pear 2011-03-18 15:53:17   
Gat1207 As a follow up to Gat1207's great post, it's worth googling to find out about the Bechdel Test. To pass this test a movie must:1. Have at least two women characters 2. Who talk to each other 3. About something other than a man or men. The idea that women don't exist just as a function of male lead characters is so basic, but the shocking number of movies that fail the test shows how media shape our views about women. We men, even many flr men, need to make more of a conscious effort to resocialise ourselves and those around us about women's agency. Women are not there just for us, including not for our femdom fantasies. We need to deepen our understanding of what the woman in our lives really wants, and ask ourselves how we can do more to support her own achievement of that. Her achievement is her achievement, not a gift we bestow. She gets the Oscar for lead actor in the movie of her life. We can aim for the Oscar as Best Supporting Actor. Maybe she also gets the Oscar for Best Director of the movie about that relationship. Directors know how to get the best out of their cast. The best supporting actors respond actively and use their own talents to make their contribution.
Reply by: Karim56 2012-10-16 23:57:34   

What our MAG members say

Men are there to please the women sexually and by doing so please themselves.
Author: Sweet 2018-05-20 10:11:55   
Positive images of FLR women engage and command our respect and admiration as leaders and not as sex objects.
Author: Sweet 2018-05-20 10:10:48   
Fantasies create unrealistic expectations and divert energy away from a real honest connection.
Author: Vinland 2018-05-05 15:06:45   
It creates a positive energy and feed back loop. She gains confidence not only in herself but in her ability to lead.
Author: Vinland 2018-05-05 15:05:17   
Fantasies are on top of the pyramid after all other needs are met, they happen spontaneously as creative energy flows. Without meeting the baser needs of your woman and yourself, your desires will be painfully denied.
Author: MrCybelle 2018-04-27 02:57:18   
Confidence is just under the part of the pyramid where fantasies spontaneously get fulfilled. By meeting her need your have a much better chance of getting your fantasies fulfilled.
Author: MrCybelle 2018-04-27 02:54:10   
One very good way I can think of is to spend more time on connection and intimacy by spending more time naked together, perhaps in the bath tub. She also needs relationship stability to move up the pyramid of needs so changing the way you argue will help.
Author: MrCybelle 2018-04-27 02:52:21   
How about no late night internet activity by yourself as one idea? I could only do it when supervised by a woman.
Author: MrCybelle 2018-04-27 02:49:20   
The closer men move to where women are the more women will gain confidence to enjoy all aspects of FLR.
Author: MrCybelle 2018-04-27 02:48:32   
Very likely (75% of women) want you to initiate sometimes or on cue. Men are in a supportive role so pleasing her is the primary motivation for sex.
Author: MrCybelle 2018-04-27 02:47:13   
Women as figures of respect, honor, authority, quality, wonder, as leaders not objects of desire. Such as women presidents, prime ministers, queens, business women, sports women...
Author: MrCybelle 2018-04-27 02:44:11   
Fantasies are on top of the pyramid after all other needs are met, they happen spontaneously as creative energy flows. Without meeting the baser needs of your woman and yourself, your desires will be painfully denied.
Author: Max1985 2018-04-26 07:15:57   
Confidence is just under the part of the pyramid where fantasies spontaneously get fulfilled. BY meeting her need your have a much better change of getting your fantasy fulfilled.
Author: Max1985 2018-04-26 07:15:48   
One very good way I can think os is to spend more time on connection and intimacy by spending more time naked together, perhaps in the bath tub. She also needs relationship stability to move up the pyramid of needs so changing the way you argue will help.
Author: Max1985 2018-04-26 07:15:35   
How about no late night internet activity by yourself as one idea? And, consider all the downsides of that habbit.
Author: Max1985 2018-04-26 07:12:49   
The closer men move to where women are the more women will gain confidence to enjoy all aspects of FLR
Author: Max1985 2018-04-26 07:12:35   
Very likely (75% of women) she want you to initiate sometimes or on cue. Men are in a supportive role so pleasing her is the primary motivation for sex.
Author: Max1985 2018-04-26 07:12:21   
Women as figures of respect, honor, authority, quality, wonder. as leaders not objects of desire
Author: Max1985 2018-04-26 07:11:59   
I always looked at fantasies as wishful dreams that never come true in most cases but in flr reality has a better chance
Author: Dudley 2018-04-10 14:59:13   
your being obedient and her number one fan cheering her leadership
Author: Dudley 2018-04-10 14:48:54   

 

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