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"Must haves" need to be brought out into the open because people aren't mind readers. Your partner may have no idea what your needs are if you don't share them.
Author: HonestSoul 2018-05-14 23:09:11   
Communication is key. Only when expectations are discussed can negotiation geared toward having needs met take place. Voice,then discuss, must haves.
Author: Sweet 2018-05-09 13:44:49   
Couples who make assumptions about things often feel profound disappointment when assumptions don’t happen.
Author: MrCybelle 2018-04-27 16:57:38   
Couples who make assumptions about things often feel profound disappointment when assumptions don`t happen.
Author: Max1985 2018-04-26 11:11:37   
This will allow me to communictae what is most important in the relationship moreI hope this will allow better contact and rapport between us effectively with others in seeking a partner.
Author: Wayland 2018-03-13 19:59:24   
Setting these before will help if a man tries to resist something she desires down the road
Author: Panchafinder5 2017-11-03 18:48:51   
It's important to disclose this so each mate knows what the must haves are and if there are any conflicts they can be negotiated at that time
Author: Igor2learn 2017-10-24 21:12:13   
That will prevent conflict. Conflict arises when needs are not met. Once "must haves" are set forth, and agreed upon, then goals are clear and conflict is reduced. Resentment builds when must haves are not met. Resentment harms the FLR
Author: ProfessionallookingforhisBOSS 2017-10-02 12:33:06   
It is essential to know what your life partner "must have"! Then you can concentrate on manifesting the "must haves" as soon as possible, and you can be alert to protect the "must haves" from all harm. I think it would be terrible to have to guess what are my wife's "must haves". As time goes by, there can sometimes be a new revelation: "a gun in the house would be a deal breaker" for instance.
Author: David Jeeves 2017-09-15 15:58:18   
One party cannot assume or anticipate what the other's chief end in the relationship is. It has to be discussed, although particularly the man will fear rejection from the woman.
Author: Philipt 2017-08-08 08:20:46   
Incorporating "must haves" in a relationships allow both partners to take steps early on to make it easier to achieve those goals.
Author: JackStephen 2017-07-01 05:09:23   
The couples need to discuss the have and have nots for their own peace of self confidence. If a person is not honest with another there is a lack of confidence in both. Some have and have nots are easy to discuss in each of the food groups and difficult in others. So as we learn to trust our decision to FLR and to trust in the process it makes our life more livable and pleasant. Learning how she gravitates in ideas and decisions is fun challenging and rewarding for both of us in our new roles and life choices. The learning on my part of her needs and wants leads to her understanding of my needs and wants or have and have nots. We are so growing as a couple our life is being fulfilled and reenergized by our choice to live FLR
Author: Flrjer 2017-05-14 19:38:45   
These are the core deal breakers that must be addressed in order for relationship to progress in any meaningful direction.
Author: Jeffrey_3 2017-03-06 21:32:20   
Must haves set clear boundaries for the couple as to what the minimum expectations are for the couple. By clearly identifying boundaries both parties can reduce disappointment and reach their goals and sense of personal fulfilment.
Author: Butler1975 2017-01-03 09:59:36   
Well if you discuss 'must haves' then you can establish things you definitely want to happen and ensure both of you are happy about
Author: DorianGrey 2016-10-24 13:20:00   
EVERY person has some "must haves". They are the basic things that we need to survive. If our must haves are not met, then we feel like life is missing something and will look elsewhere. That is the death nell of a FLR. Over time, our must haves can and do change. As the relationship evolves, both persons must haves will change and must be communicated.
Author: Thomas260 2016-10-13 19:42:51   
Naturally, the woman will always have the final say, as she should. But if you discuss matters with her in a kind, respectful and loving way, she will get a better idea as to your train of thought, and perhaps take your opinions into account with some of her future decisions. Joe Z.
Author: Maroons1p[spammer] 2016-10-03 17:33:55   
Both people need to express their boundaries even submissive have them. Opinions should be expressed freely even when the woman has the final word and say so.
Author: Helpme555 2016-09-21 13:58:46   
This is a very advanced and sensible approach to helping ensure a relationship has a very good chance of succeeding. As it focuses each party to understand themselves and what is vitally important to each and try and negotiate to achieve the main ones at the expensive of giving up some for a working compromise.
Author: Perversey 2016-09-16 09:25:55   
Because then each couple has openly and honestly communicated what their needs are. Assumptions won't work because they aren't part of open and direct communication.
Author: Ericthebritt 2016-08-21 01:41:23   


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