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As flr men it is importance to realize the power of words.

Language is obviously a vital tool. Not only is it a means of communicating thoughts and ideas, but it forges friendships, cultural ties, and economic relationships. Throughout history, many have reflected on the importance of language. For instance, the scholar Benjamin Whorf has noted that language shapes thoughts and emotions, determining one’s perception of reality. John Stuart Mill said that "Language is the light of the mind."

For the linguist Edward Sapir, language is not only a vehicle for the expression of thoughts, perceptions, sentiments, and values characteristic of a community; it also represents a fundamental expression of social identity. David Kilgore Canadian Member of parliament www.david-kilgour.com/mp/sahla.htm

In addition to your appearance and the way you carry yourself, people will judge you based on the words that come out of your mouth.

There are many forms of communication humans use to convey ideas; there’s written communication, verbal, body language, any of the visual arts, music, and the list continues on. The point is, when we learn the arts we are actually learning communication. Apd148’s blog http://apb148.wordpress

Maureen Staiano writes: The importance of listening in communication is enormous. People often focus on their speaking ability believing that good speaking equals good communication. The ability to speak well is a necessary component to successful communication. The ability to listen is equally as important. The importance of listening in communication is often well illustrated when we analyze our listening skills with those closest to us. In particular I am referring to our spouse, partner, children or friends. Pay attention to the everyday conversations we have with these people with whom we think we communicate well.

The rest of her article is well worth reading as it highlights the necessity of listening and goes further by discussing listening techniques.http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Maureen_Staiano

Although I am not sure I understand the meaning of the term “Femdom Jargon” I do believe that simple and direct conversation and its coin listening are vital to developing a good relationship, especially a female led relationship.

As a male I have been taught to push forward and damm the torpedoes. Many women have not been socialized in this same fashion and instead ,as I understand, tend to focus on the more nurturing aspects of communication.

This dam the torpedoes attitude in a relationship only leads to misunderstanding and with misunderstanding, resentment, defensiveness and un-fulfillment. In a flr these feeling maybe magnified as they tend to further subjugated the person feeling this way and to undermine actual power. It is my belief that both parties must have power for any relationship to work.

Femdon jargon, as I interpret the phrase is calling your female leader Mistress, Goddess or the like and her calling you bitch, slave, or again the like.

These terms have power. They tend to desensitize yourself to the other person. Terms of endearment on the other hand tend to sensitize you to the other person. This is discussed much better with in the main body of this web site.

Words, as use by a couple, shape thoughts and emotions. Words form ideas, perceptions and judgments. What ideas, thoughts, emotions, perceptions and judgments do we as flr men want?

These are only my thoughts, today; I do not have any special knowledge and as you can see from my point score I am a way beginner. Any comments are more than welcome and when commenting remember damm the torpedoes.

gat1207


Author: Gat1207 2011-03-14 17:47:43   
Gat1207 Excellent, the idea is that words shape who we are and how we think is right to the point. Damn Gat1207 that is brilliant. So loving terms tend to endear us to our women and FemDom terms tend to isolate us and remove us from relationship, connection and intimacy. I am awarding 30 points for this well designed response.
Reply by: Prickly Pear 2011-03-14 18:40:59   
Prickly Pear Thank you very much. gat1207
Reply by: Gat1207 2011-03-14 20:22:01    
Gat1207 wow, that is a mouthful - (pun?) Interesting reading. I see why FemDom might scare away women from FLR
Reply by: Radzzz 2011-03-15 16:56:17   
Radzzz This is actually very helpful. I do believe that I am programed with a damn the torpedo mentality that works against good relationship skills. FLR has forced me to think about how I communicate and strengthen my relationship with my wife.
Reply by: Kc1968 2012-08-13 15:41:06    

What our MAG members say

The jargon in FemDom and fetishes are a turn off for most women. Most of us want to live normal lives. Calling your wife your mistress or your queen might be fun in play but in most life it is awkward.
Author: MrCybelle 2018-04-27 02:41:40   
The jargon in FemDom and fetishes are a turn off to most women. Most of us want to live normal lives. Calling your wife your Mistress or your Queen might be fun in play but in most of life it is awkward.
Author: Max1985 2018-04-26 07:11:20   
it should be left up to the woman if she wants to be call mistress or ma'am or whatever so be it, its her choice. You get to transform your thinking here.
Author: Dudley 2018-04-10 13:32:21   
Your FemDom jargon is a conformation that you want a different relationship that what your partner signed up for. If she wants to hear that jargon she will tell you. For the vast majority, your woman doesn't want to be identified with Femdom.
Author: RespectInChastity 2018-03-19 22:07:19   
Femdom jargon creats an in-group dichotomy. It is not inclusive. However more importantly it creates a fetishisation of people and destroys real connection.
Author: Wayland 2018-03-13 19:44:49   
A real life in FLR is not a game but a lifestyle and each partner has to respect the other.
Author: Jammes12 2018-01-26 07:04:56   
The use of common language as opposed to FemDom vernacular is preferable because it takes the interaction of the man and the woman out of the fantasy to the every-day vernacular of life.
Author: Simmer51 2018-01-02 17:57:20   
Quite simply we live in reality and to resort to some type of (Femdom) slang is just pure sloath; common langauge is a natural grounding for two adults
Author: Whateveryoudesire 2017-10-31 21:35:58   
I think as it states most of us want live normal lives the fact that I address my mate in a certain way is unimportant unless she feels it important I feel my actions should let her know that she's my queen
Author: Igor2learn 2017-10-22 18:06:48   
In principle, how I address my wife should be respectful above all. I am fond of addressing her in warm and loving terms, such as "Dear", or "Honey". But terms of endearment could potentially be embarrassing to a particular woman. Therefor, before I use a new one, it would be good manners to obtain her permission to "call you that".
Author: David Jeeves 2017-09-14 11:38:13   
Common language make women feel more comfortable and make for an easier life, besides you cant go around calling your wife mistress in public
Author: Barry66 2017-06-26 16:12:19   
This simple rule not talking with jargon but talking in the language or the words that she uses it understands has opened up a roll-off truck awareness in her that I am trying to support her dreams her visions we are communicating much better and achieving so much more the jargon the snide remarks the criticism these are all limitations that we as men have for we can put our little world into the box that we can control but opening up our box and letting her control our life and not using these words thinking before we speak thinking before we do something thinking about what she would want us to do it is truly rewarding for her and I guess for the man serving the lady as his inner desire it still Beyond his dreams
Author: Flrjer 2017-05-07 06:18:22   
A real relationship must be based on real principles, not fetishes. An appreciation of one's mate's needs is normal and fundamental to a real relationship, and using real language in that relationship supports it and doesn't distract.
Author: Newmilleniumguy 2017-04-28 18:14:28   
It is derogatory towards men's mates, and is disrespectful and does not show the mans commitment to the true FLR relationship!
Author: Mikkiservlacy 2017-04-15 12:29:14   
Common language is very important to understand the FLR relationship. FemDom jargon does not help much, because it might not be the proper language to enforce FLR
Author: Porroland 2017-04-14 13:36:04   
We live in a world that has lost it's sensitivity towards Ladies for the things they bring into our daily lives and not just at home
Author: Moto Steve 2016-12-31 15:48:41   
The name my woman wants me to use to benefit her both mentally and ownership is what should I will use calling her names that benefit my mind is not what is required.
Author: Happy56 2016-12-03 18:02:52   
The jargon in FemDom and fetishes are a turn off to most women. Most of us want to live normal lives. Calling your wife your Mistress or your Queen might be fun in play but in most of life it is awkward.
Author: Alpha4Life 2016-11-04 01:29:20   
It might also emply that I want attention, or 'get off'. It can't possibly be a healthy marriage.
Author: AtHerheels 2016-10-30 19:06:31   
It can depend on a lot of factors - are you in a social situation, are the kids around, a lot of normal, practical reasons that you have to be normal and know that in private you can practice your attentiveness in comfort and enjoyment
Author: DorianGrey 2016-10-24 11:59:53   

 

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