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A man publicly acknowledge her as HOH head of the home puts their relationship into the public eye. It is beyond the fantasy. Were I a woman I would ask for this because it signals REAL interest form him
Author: Sean 2011-01-06 19:49:40
I've made some bad decisions due to distractions or other issues. These mistakes could easily have been avoided. If I had a wife at the time and consulted her I feel the chances of avoiding these errors would have been way better, and I would feel way better looking back. I like the idea of a woman as undisputed head of household and early on reaching an understanding with her that I happily become her permanent subordinate and all her decisions are immediately binding on me with absolutely no appeal. If someone speaks to me in a public setting she could say, "I haven't given him permission to speak today" then she says to me (as in movie "Planet Earth" about female controlled society), "Charlie, eyes down, and remain silent!" Sounds like a fantasy and it is, however it would be a nice reality to experience. Men are the stronger sex; but horses are stronger than humans, and they serve humans. Intellect, not strength, should rule and I feel women are somewhat more intuitive, a component of intelligence. Not too far off topic I conclude that because males are circumcised here and females are protected by law from "alterations," and that more women MD's are circumcising male infants, is a conclusive evidence of a female ruled society. Progress will happen when we openly acknowledge male circumcision as a mark of unchallengeable female control. Public humiliation should be dealt to males by females frequently (such as) the woman remarks to another woman, "I had him circumcised three years ago!" (Even though more likely as a birth event, the remark serves to humiliate him). Matching T-shirts could be worn by her saying "I had him circumcised!" His says "She had me circumcised!" Matters of aesthetics and sanitation need not be considered lewd. I also feel a good way for partners to be reminded of the male's irrevocable subordination to the superior female, is for a kneeling session to take place in front of her as a regular ritual, with his head bowed to her!
Author: Charlieskirt 2013-02-18 00:01:31
I would and willing to publicly announce my wife as the head of house and acknowledge publicly that I will obey my wife 100% and come under her full control.
Author: Guest 2012-01-12 00:41:03
If he doesn't acknowledge me whenever and where ever, then he doesn't deserve to be lead by me.
Author: The Boss 2012-02-22 12:36:01
I would not want to publicly announce my wife as the unconditional head of household even though I deeply desire it personally. While I believe wholeheartedly in female leadership in relationships for men like myself, I think that the practice of publicly announcing the woman as the head of household could have a potentially negative and counterproductive force because it could create the appearance of disrespect for men. I believe that the dialogue at least for now should be easy on men in terms of their dignity because to not do so will encourage anger and backlash. I think the intelligent choice is for women to take control quietly, subtly, and some time in the near future the idea of female leadership will not be such an inflammatory subject it will be almost an obvious one because there will be an increased number of sons who have grown up in a female led household and of course they will find that sort of thing the most natural thing in the world. Steps need to be taken in the right direction and I think it is foolish to believe they will happen overnight. firstname.lastname@example.org
Author: Modern guy 2012-05-09 16:39:53
I would love to openly tell everyone that TerriAnn leads our marriage, but the world just ain't right for that yet. I do call her HRH (Her Royal Highness) as a humorous nickname, and I have admitted to very close friends that she holds the reins, but being too open would just make everyone uncomfortable. It is unfortunate that language holds us so tightly in the vise-grip of gender, but I have long internalized our relationship as a sort of gender reversal or swap. She is the man in my life, I'm her girlfriend, and I wish so much I could express that opnly without seeming a freak....
Author: TerriAnn`s 2012-08-24 15:00:10
Once the marriage reaches a certain threshold of trust and issues of residual shame are resolved then the anxiety around the publically demonstrating flr behavior notably diminishes.
Author: Marc12 2012-09-13 01:05:14