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My thesis was that most men did the asking. What I really don`t understand is why women don`t do the asking. What`s up with that? Women benefit in a huge way from FLR.
Author: Prikly Pear 2011-01-06 19:49:40
Your question makes perfect sense. Of course women don't do the asking?! Men are built by nature to be submissive because they love and desire women so desperately and have so little control over them that they are asking all the time! Women aren't asking all the time because they don't need to...they are bombarded by requests for attention from men to the point they have little time to deal with anything else. Likely this is an over simplified explanation I'm sure there are many women reading this saying....hey I don't think I get that sort of attention. Well that has a lot to do with your inability to assert yourself in a sexy way. email@example.com
Author: Modern guy 2012-05-09 17:16:05
Here's my speculative thoughts about why more women don't ask to lead. 1. Some people (women as well as men) dont want to be leaders due to their personality types. Nothing wrong with that, people are different. 2. Of women who might like to lead, social pressures about traditional roles inhibit some of them. This site has some great material about what we can all do to tackle this important issue, including action by men to resocialise themselves. 3. Of women who are leaders, many can get many of the benefits that matter to them like effective control of the food groups without a formal flr. They develop the leadership skills to do that in ways that dont bump up against social attitudes and dont involve the additional demands that most formal flrs make of them as leaders. 4. Men want formal flrs more than women because men are more likely to be motivated at least partly by a fantasy element. 5. Maybe also related to this, men are more likely to need to relate their relationship needs to a theoretical framework about power, while many women may have a more intuitive and naturally integrated approach to control of the food groups plus connectedness and intimacy within their relationship. These women dont ask for formal flrs because they dont need to in order to get the relationship they want, unless as part of a considered response to a request from their mate in recognition of his interest, and the benefits that flow from her engaging with that interest for developing the relationship. He must express his interest to get the relationship he craves, so he asks for it. Is this speculation on the right track? I'd welcome views, especially from women in established flrs, I understand that it is presumptuous of me to make guesses about your motivation. Did you ask for your flr? Or did he propose and you dispose?
Author: Karim56 2012-10-19 00:19:08