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Women overwhelmingly like the thought of commanding their men. Men should take note of this
Author: Randell 2011-01-06 19:49:40
The first time my wife commanded me was long after I always asked to give her pedicures, massages, or what ever. Then I began rephrasing and asked for the privilege to pamper. She still didn't get it. I was still initiating her pampering. Then one day she asked, "Why is it a privilege?" My reply was,"Would you let any man do the things I do for your pleasure?" she said, "No, only you. That's why it's a privilege! After that she made Tuesdays toes day (her pedicure day) Mondays massage day,and the rest of the week she asks me what I'd do to earn a privilege of her next request to pamper her. Now when I do mundane house work to earn these privileges, it makes life so much more exciting. Both our needs have been met by her commanding that I pamper her.
Author: Guest 2011-12-16 14:41:24
I agree completely with what the poster above had to say; service to my wife is a privilege. I think many men would jump at the opportunity to do things for their mate should she choose to ask or command. I agree that knowing that I am the only one she commands is egocentric in that her attention is focused on me. I feel reassured that she wants me, desires me, and has a purpose for me, when she commands me. It thrills me, even if it's something I don't want to do. In a sense, it's some of the same excitement of love and relationship that I felt when love was new and I was young; the kind of thing that dulls over time and familiarity. We're comfortable together now; we've been together a long time. We're not kids. But in a relationship where she can feel free to command and knows I will not question it, and that I will do what she tells me to do, it's invigorating, and feels as right as anything ever has in my lifetime. My blood pressure goes down, my sense of satisfaction in our relationship goes up, and I feel a strong sense of desire and love toward my wife when she tells me what to do. It makes my heart skip.
Author: Guest 2016-04-21 18:05:03