Coming Out That I’m Submissive

It’s been two weeks today that I confessed to her that I’m a submissive man and that I wish for her to be more controlling in our marriage. It went really well. She listened, was consoling and offered her hand accepting that her husband of 25yrs wanted her to take control.

It all started about four weeks ago when we had a really big bang up, drag out fight that led to us not even speaking to, or sleeping with each other for over two weeks. Let me tell you, that’s tough when you both live in the same house and that you really do love the woman you’re angry with. After much soul searching I came to the conclusion that it was me. I was the one always head butting with her. Using my so called male bravado to win every argument. I finally saw how strong and organized she was. So I asked her if she would allow me some time to talk with her.

When we did talk, I apologized for my behavior and then finally admitted to her that I was submissive and wanted to surrender to her. To allow her to take control. Since we are now empty nesters there’s no longer any reason for me to be the “tough daddy, bread winner”. That it would be best for me to be led by his beautiful, strong and intelligent wife. She loved the idea of my apology, but she had concerns about having a female led relationship.

She immediately thought of the BDSM aspect. She didn’t like terms like dominant/submissive. She was leary of the possible punishment side. All of the scenes of dominance began filling her head. I did my best to ease her fears and told her that this is not where we needed to go to have a successful FLR. I told her I need her to lead. Tell me what she wanted and desired. That I would not be lost in this new relationship and that we would still grow and love as we had before.

Since we started on our journey she has become more stern with me. Assigning me tasks she wants completed by the time she comes home from work, or while she’s watching TV. She rewards me by allowing me to sit on the floor as she sits on the couch. I retrieve things for her, fix dinner, do laundry, clean and I’m loving every minute. She worries that I may lose my individuality. I assure that I will not because she asks constantly my input on important decisions and purchases. We recently had to purchase a new washing machine. And with that purchase; I still manage my finances, we keep separate accounts, I’ve decided to let her know exactly how much money I have in the account at the end of the week. Though not direct control, giving her the knowledge of my account balance has offered me a piece of mind where she is in control.

There is so much that has happened in just these two weeks and I’ve notice she has become more dominant and controlling. She still kisses me as a lover. She sometimes holds my chin as if I were her personal object and gives me a teasing peck on the lips. I’ve told her that our sex life is hers to control now. I will no longer badger her for release. She will decide when, where or whether we will have sex and that it will be for her pleasure not mine. All pleasure is to be hers, not mine. She loves this!

We have been together for 33yrs of which we have been married 25. We just recently celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. I laid out the nines for her. I must say it was one of our best anniversaries and I intend to do it for her everyday in some way or other. Though I never thought about it I love my new found release in surrender. And She, from what I have come to see is enjoying her new found strength in leading her husband.

It’s only been two weeks, we are still experimenting and growing, but God what a wonderful two weeks!