Is Corporal Punishment necessary

[RobertforSchool]

Does a FLR have to have the behavioural deterrent of Corporal Punishment or are other methods of discipline more effective?

[SubKnight]

I think it depends on the sub and Domme. Not all subs respond to CP and it’s easier to discipline or punish them differently. All relationships are different. You need to find a dominant lady that understands your needs and motivations and will use them to train and have you want to submit to her.

[stefan99999]

honestly, in my experience so far: corporal punishment IS a necessity. not because of something you have done or because you deserve it. it’s a necessity that needs to happen randomly simply because she wants that to happen. it makes sure who is in charge.

[Oregon gentleman]

FLR relationships come in many forms and of course many do not use corporal punishment. However, I would suggest the two individuals should discuss what happens if the submissive partner does not meet expectations. Will there be physical or non-physical punishments? The answer depends on the two individuals. I have had one formal FLR relationship that lasted nearly a year. It was agreed upon that physical punishment was an option she could use. Typically I am always on good behavior as its my nature to always want to please the Lady. However, one time I was very late in picking her up from work. I wasn’t really busy just lost track of time which is not normal for me. Well, I was severely spanked/whipped with various implements and let’s just say the welts made it very difficult to sit for a week. And I was never late ever again after that! Also, she never had to do that during our year long relationship again. The one time was enough for me as I am not a masochist. There were other spankings during our relationship but I would put those more in the play category. Oh, by the way, even though that relationship is long over I still whenever I need to be somewhere immediately put a reminder in my iPhone with plenty of pre-notification warning to get there in time. All because of that spanking/whipping that is still in my mind. So everyone else in my life can thank her…LOL. I learned a lot in that FLR and I do understand the benefits of corporal punishment if the two agree to it. I would certainly be open to having that in my future FLR agreements. Although non-physical punishments can work really well too.

• This reply was modified 5 months ago by Oregon gentleman.

[Oregon gentleman]

Yes, I have experienced the benefits of physical punishments in an FLR. I have also found many non-physical punishments to be just as effective. I think the male’s acceptance of punishments of either type, can be an important element in FLR relationships. I found it to really deepen and strengthen the emotional bond between Dominant and submissive.

[london.subbie]

I personally don’t get off on the idea of being spanked or caned but I like the idea and can see the merits of CP being used to deter bad behaviours in a FLR and I like the idea of it under those circumstances.

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