Thank you for sharing your experience, Oregon gentleman. I really appreciate your openness.
Just to clarify my own position: I’m not looking for financial domination or real-time tracking of someone’s spending. That’s not my style at all.
My post was triggered by messages I regularly receive from men aged 70–78+ who live in other states and want to relocate to Florida but straight to my house. They often offer “my pension (1500$) will be yours” or promise full service ( a sissy maid and oral sex to boot), but when I ask about their actual financial situation, it turns out their monthly income is around $1,500.
The reality is simple: basic living expenses for a single elderly person in Florida (rent/housing, healthcare, food, etc.) easily exceed that amount. It doesn’t matter whose account the money goes into — this sum is simply not enough for comfortable and safe living at that age.
I’m not looking for a “rich sugar daddy,” but I also have no desire to take on the role of caregiver and financial supporter for a much older man for the next 10–15 years of his life. When I honestly point this out, some men immediately react with “it’s all about the money,” which is disappointing and unfair. No, actually, it’s also about your vanilla side of life that you haven’t described, and about your photo that you haven’t sent, and about your height and weight, which aren’t listed in your profile. But when you don’t describe all of that and only write your age and offer your pension, then I respond to what’s reflected in your request.
I believe in mutual respect and realism in any relationship — FLR or vanilla. That’s why I wrote the post.
Thank you again for your thoughtful comment!