Important reality check for submissive who want to relocate to a Dominant woman

[Mistress VIP]

Hello everyone,
I regularly receive messages from mature submissive men (often aged 65–78) who are looking for a serious FLR and offer to relocate to me from another state. Many of them write very nicely: full service, surrender of control, “I will greet you with a glass of champagne after work”, “my pleasure is serving you”, etc.
I try to be polite and always ask a direct question:
“Will you be able to fully support yourself? Florida is not a cheap state, and I am not ready to financially support another person.”
And this is where things often get interesting.
Many of these men are currently living with relatives, renting a room/bed, or, judging by the situation, are in very difficult financial conditions. Yet they sincerely believe that moving in with a dominant woman is a great idea — she will provide housing, and he will wash her panties and greet her with champagne after work.
Dear men, let’s speak openly and like adults.
If you want to move in with a woman and live under her control, the most reasonable thing is to be honest about your real financial situation from the very beginning. Don’t make the woman pull information out of you piece by piece. Saying “I will not be a financial burden to you” is a sign of respect and maturity.
This is especially important for men 70+ (senior seniors). The average Social Security for a 75-year-old man is about $2,080 per month. Realistic monthly expenses for a single elderly person in Florida (housing + healthcare + food + transportation) easily reach $3,000 – $3,800.
When a woman honestly tells you that she is not ready to support you, cover the difference in expenses, and potentially take care of you in a few years — this is not “being mercenary”. This is a normal adult position. Especially if she herself maintains several properties and is already over 60.
Getting offended and writing “it’s all about the money” after such a conversation is simply avoiding reality.
If your pension and savings do not allow you to live independently in the state you want to move to, then perhaps you should first consider realistic options (senior housing, assisted living facilities, Medicaid programs, etc.), instead of looking for a woman who will take on the role of free caregiver and sponsor.
I’m writing this not to offend anyone, but to reduce disappointment on both sides.
Dear men, please be honest from the start. This will greatly increase your chances of finding real compatibility.

[Oregon gentleman]

Mistress VIP, I really liked what you wrote. Men in FLR should be focused on making life better for the Lady and the financial aspects of that is a very important component.

[Mistress VIP]

Thank you so much, Oregon gentleman! ❤️
I’m really glad you liked my post and left a comment. I truly appreciate your opinion.
While reading your profile, I noticed that you have a very realistic and mature view on relationships in general and on FLR in particular. You correctly emphasize that financial aspects are definitely an important and not insignificant part of it, although, of course, they are not the only aspect in such relationships. A man in FLR should indeed be focused on making his Lady’s life better in every sense.
It seems to me that this kind of honest and pragmatic approach gives you very good prospects of finding a suitable partner. When a person realistically assesses reality and is ready to take responsibility-it immediately sets him apart from others.
Thank you again for your support and for sharing your thoughts!
With respect,
Mistress VIP

[Oregon gentleman]

Mistress VIP,

Thank you for your kind words. Like you said, there are many aspects to a good relationship, FLR or otherwise. And financial is one of those important aspects. In my one and only FLR up to now, we developed a good trusting relationship and I gave her full access to view all my financial information including seeing what I spent in real time. She helped developed good spending habits (and spending rules) in me, as a single man for many years prior I did not have good spending habits. The lessons she taught me I still carry on today.

Of course, a word of advice men, take time to get to know someone and build trust in the relationship before giving up financial control. But if you can get to that point and you have a wonderful intelligent Dominant Lady leading you, she can make tremendous changes in you for the better, financial and otherwise.

[Mistress VIP]

Thank you for sharing your experience, Oregon gentleman. I really appreciate your openness.
Just to clarify my own position: I’m not looking for financial domination or real-time tracking of someone’s spending. That’s not my style at all.
My post was triggered by messages I regularly receive from men aged 70–78+ who live in other states and want to relocate to Florida but straight to my house. They often offer “my pension (1500$) will be yours” or promise full service ( a sissy maid and oral sex to boot), but when I ask about their actual financial situation, it turns out their monthly income is around $1,500.
The reality is simple: basic living expenses for a single elderly person in Florida (rent/housing, healthcare, food, etc.) easily exceed that amount. It doesn’t matter whose account the money goes into — this sum is simply not enough for comfortable and safe living at that age.
I’m not looking for a “rich sugar daddy,” but I also have no desire to take on the role of caregiver and financial supporter for a much older man for the next 10–15 years of his life. When I honestly point this out, some men immediately react with “it’s all about the money,” which is disappointing and unfair. No, actually, it’s also about your vanilla side of life that you haven’t described, and about your photo that you haven’t sent, and about your height and weight, which aren’t listed in your profile. But when you don’t describe all of that and only write your age and offer your pension, then I respond to what’s reflected in your request.
I believe in mutual respect and realism in any relationship — FLR or vanilla. That’s why I wrote the post.
Thank you again for your thoughtful comment!

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