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I am interested in learning more about this lifestyle. That said, there is a part of it that kind of has me struggling.
If a man is submissive to his wife in this type of relationship, he yields to her. (how much depends on the level.) After a while, I would think this would be a big part of his mindset.
But how does this translate to the world outside of his relationship? Most men have careers and have to make money. If a dude yields to everyone out in the world, he becomes a door mat and people walk all over him. Men in society are still expected to be strong and capable. I am old enough to know that if you don’t stick up for yourself, you are screwing yourself.
I would find it hard to ‘turn it off’ outside of my relationship.
How do people deal with this?
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It is interesting that, in the course of 3 weeks since I posted this, no one has answered my question. Hello?
Maybe the reason for that is that no one has a good answer because a good answer does not exist.
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I’ve never heard of this problem before. You cannot serve two masters.
In my experience, an FLR makes me feel invincible in the outside world. You simply approach people and tasks as obstacles keeping you from your Domme.
You act with courtesy and professionalism because you are representing Her- even if nobody else knows it.
And then you start to focus on doing things right the first time and don’t waste time on anything.
FLRs have been a godsend for my personal and professional life. -
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For one, submitting to one person isn’t the same as submitting to everyone. It would be like saying that a woman who submits to her man therefore submits to everyone, but I would bet that you can think of examples around you where that is not the case at all.
There is the possibility to compartmentalize in your psyche. You can choose to submit to only this person and that’s all. The mindset that becomes a part of him in this case would be, to submit to his wife. And that’s it.
Why do you think you would find it hard to submit to only her? As I see it, this type of relationship – any type of relationship – is special and unique for the people involved. And to me, feeling as though one must submit and yield to others, takes away from the special bond within the FLR. It becomes cheap, in my mind. Unless the man has an already passive personality to begin with, I don’t see why it would be an issue.
Another more ridiculous example to illustrate my point, but runs along the same lines: because you have sex with your wife, you must have sex with others? Sex with another person has become a major aspect of your mindset, has it not? So wouldn’t your premise apply here as well?But there is nothing that says one must submit to others beyond their woman.
As for why you are not getting a response, I would look at the attendance and activity on this platform. It’s not that busy. That is why you aren’t getting responses. Or maybe some don’t want to answer your question. Don’t make assumptions.
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