Mistress VIP,
Many submissive men are attracted to smart, confident, self reliant and successful women, however success is defined by either party.
The real world power she projects and her status in the vanilla working and economic world, are part of the attraction. She’s strong and capable. She is independent and competent. Those things are indeed attractive, of course, and very much so.
However, I do believe that for some men, the notion that there is also a meal ticket there, as well as the relationship of their dreams and fantasies, is part of a picture they paint in their heads. That is part of the fantasy for some. Of course, that notion is indeed more fantasy than reality. It is not a likely real life scenario.
It seems some men have a faulty assumption that this self supporting woman, who has her life so well in order, is able and willing to shoulder the lioness’s share of the financial burden in their potential partnership. That is not realistic. Why would she choose to embark on that path with a man she doesn’t yet even know very well? What would be attractive to her about that situation?
Some of us however, while admiring the accomplishments and confidence of such women, excited by strong women yes, and very attracted to that competence and confidence–some of us are also well aware that real world responsiblities, adult self reliance and self care are necessary for us too, always, and regardless of what kind of relationship we seek. By some of us I probably should just say I, me.
I understand that if I were being a burden on a partner, financial or otherwise, then that is NOT an attractive option for a woman, whether she is dominant or not, regardless of how strong she appears or by how turned on I am by that strength.
Being a servant mate to a strong, independednt woman is an interesting fantasy, but not a realistic notion of how things are going to play out, especially in the begnnining or in the getting to know you stages of any potential relationship.
Somewhere here or another site I saw a woman’s ad searching for a trainable lion on her leash and not a helpless puppy.