When we were married 30 years ago we didn’t know how far down this road we’d go, and followed the conventional practice of my Wife taking my last name. Eventually we talked about my changing my name to Her maiden name and She would change back but it was a lot of trouble and She is very well established in Her business. So She decided that i would go by the feminine form of my first name. So instead of Robert or Bob, i now go by Bobbie.