38 [M4F] #London Extrovert, confident, incredibly handsome and modest, sub

I’m a fit, extrovert, confident, sexually submissive guy looking for a relationship involving kink and d/s to a greater or lesser extent. I think how much largely depends on the dynamic between us, and how our desires mesh, but I like someone who can challenge me, someone caring but also enjoying taking control and trying new things.

I really get off on pleasing others, and giving other people pleasure, so kink wise generally whatever you like I will too. My enjoyment of things mostly comes down to the idea of being owned and controlled, objectification, teasing, humiliation, and a desire to please my partner, but I also have an extensive list of particular fetishes if you ever want to see it (I have a word document, makes it easier to keep track ha).

In terms of my vital statistics I’m a 36, 24, 36 and my greatest wish is for world peace. Go Redsocks! I joke.

I’m 38 years old, 6’2″, blue eyes, brown hair, well muscled, about 13 stone dripping wet.

In my regular life I’m a doctor, painter, reader and hedonist. Generally into making things, art, DIY, psychology, and general weirdness. I’d love to build my own house some day. I live in London and work in east London, in Hackney, as a psychiatrist.

Ideally we get on in a vanilla way as well as a kink one, that probably means we see eye to eye on left wing politics, can enjoy socialising together with friends as well as a part, like pushing boundaries and trying new things in life, and have similarly open, liberal (socially) cultural values. If you’re funny and pretty that would also be great haha.

In a relationship I tend to be thoughtful about a partner and like arranging things, planning things for you, helping you out putting up that shelf. I am not a strict believer in love languages but I’m more likely to show lover by acts of service and quality time, and also feel it that way. I love talking about psychology, our minds, and philosophy, and I think that’s one of the most interesting things about kink and the dynamics we like.

I’m posting here in particular because I like the dynamic of a mommy domme, both the caring aspects, but also the power dynamic of that relationship, being used or made to do things “for my own good” and that kind of patronising, humiliation. Having said that I’m also open to other dynamics and if you are sometimes crueler or more protocol orientated that’s ok too – I think these things are very individual to a couple/dynamic and what feels right in one relationship wouldn’t in another. Although I obviously love D/s and femdom, it’s not something that rules my day to day life and I still exist in the world normally and am not some kind of fetish obsessive.

I hope to hear from you soon – I’m open to hearing from people from anywhere, but I am looking for something in real life ultimately so if you’re from America and not planning to visit or move here that’s going to be difficult I’m afraid.