Thank you for your thoughtful reply, glad the post resonated with you.
I completely agree: before seeking any kind of partner, whether you submissive or not, a man really should have his own life in order first, including finances. It surprised me too how many don’t.
Now, on a slightly different note – and I hope you don’t mind me adding this – I’ve also noticed something a bit sad. Some older men, who have lived full lives and should have gained wisdom along the way, seem to see relocating to a woman as a way to fix their own difficult economic situation. I truly sympathize that they might be struggling on a small pension, and I’m not judging their hardship.
But I gently feel they need to understand that no woman is likely to offer them a place in her home and support them financially, just in exchange for “service.” Some even write in their messages: “I have already worked as a submissive and have experience serving.” That sounds less like seeking a genuine connection and more like applying for a butler’s position – or looking for security disguised as submission.
We all want to feel needed, but a healthy dynamic should be built on mutual desire, respect, and stability – not on one person’s economic rescue mission. Just my honest two cents, said with kindness.