You asked how to find someone. Let me be very specific based on what has worked for others in your situation:
1.Be ruthlessly concrete in your profile
Don’t write generalities like “I’m looking for a strong woman.” Instead, state clearly what you offer – both financially and psychologically. For example:
“I am financially secure and can offer a stable, comfortable lifestyle without the expectation of shared living expenses.”
“Emotionally, I am ready to follow your lead, support your decisions, and prioritize your needs. I am not looking for a traditional partnership but a structured FLR where I serve.”
Reason: At 68, a potential partner will not assume you’ll “build a life together” from scratch – she will want to know what you bring to the table now. Be honest about your age and what phase of life you’re in.
2. Search locally – within days, not weeks
Focus on meeting someone you can see in person within a few days to a week of first contact. Long online “getting to know you” phases often lead nowhere, especially for older people who already know what they want. Use platforms that allow local search (e.g., FetLife local groups, dating apps with proximity filters, or even local kink munches). State clearly that you prefer an initial coffee meeting within a few days.
3. Do NOT send detailed fantasies
Never send a stranger a list of how you want to pleasure or obey her – that’s overwhelming and signals poor boundaries. Instead, say something like: “I have a lot of ideas and desires, but I believe those are best discussed in person after we’ve established basic trust and chemistry.” Save the specific forms of service for face-to-face conversations.
4. Where to look
Local FLR or D/s discussion groups (even non-sexual ones) – many meet for coffee or walks.
Age-appropriate communities – women in their 50s–70s who are also financially independent may appreciate your directness.
5. What to say on a first meet
I suggest: “I’m looking for a woman who is comfortable making most decisions in a relationship – from daily routines to bigger life choices. I’m secure and self-sufficient, so this isn’t about neediness. It’s about finding joy in devotion. I’d love to hear what you want out of a relationship first.”
You’ve studied FLR – now use that knowledge to filter carefully. Guard your time and heart. There are women who will value exactly what you offer. Just stay patient, local, and specific.
Wishing you the best on this journey.