Are you asking ME that question? Because I can’t see any way around things, i have little hope that i can participate in the world around me. I know after a lifetime of being torn between where i am and where the average person is, that I’m a straggler of the general schools of fish, and though I’m a guy, this puts me in a place where vulnerability haunts me day and night. The closest I can put it is that I’m a male equivalent of a classical or traditional woman, with basically the same wants and needs.