My point is that if you think you have it bad, then what about someone like me? I’m not feeling sorry for myself, because I know that I cant control how things go in life. I would have to wait until a woman encountered me and understood where I was coming from and wanted to take a role in my life accordingly. That would be a rare thing. Even female led relationships almost certainly must abide by the social framework that everyone else uses, so I cant really count on that, either.