I am glad that after your wife had tried the idea Josh, that you have thought about how she sees men. It is a mature way of thinking and as you say you benefit, as your wife appreciates you for not minding about her night out.
I think that James is only mentioning feminisation as an added option. Some people prefer it more than others. As you mention it probably isn’t connected with cuckold. Glad though that you have managed to work things out.