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Thank you for sharing your experience, Oregon gentleman. I really appreciate your openness.
Just to clarify my own position: I’m not looking for financial domination or real-time tracking of someone’s spending. That’s not my style at all.
My post was triggered by messages I regularly receive from men aged 70–78+ who live in other states and want to relocate to Florida but straight to my house. They often offer “my pension (1500$) will be yours” or promise full service ( a sissy maid and oral sex to boot), but when I ask about their actual financial situation, it turns out their monthly income is around $1,500.
The reality is simple: basic living expenses for a single elderly person in Florida (rent/housing, healthcare, food, etc.) easily exceed that amount. It doesn’t matter whose account the money goes into — this sum is simply not enough for comfortable and safe living at that age.
I’m not looking for a “rich sugar daddy,” but I also have no desire to take on the role of caregiver and financial supporter for a much older man for the next 10–15 years of his life. When I honestly point this out, some men immediately react with “it’s all about the money,” which is disappointing and unfair. No, actually, it’s also about your vanilla side of life that you haven’t described, and about your photo that you haven’t sent, and about your height and weight, which aren’t listed in your profile. But when you don’t describe all of that and only write your age and offer your pension, then I respond to what’s reflected in your request.
I believe in mutual respect and realism in any relationship — FLR or vanilla. That’s why I wrote the post.
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I advise you to find a woman around 70–75 who also never liked penetration. You two would be a perfect match: you lick her, she cums, and you get off on watching her orgasm. Ideal “platonic” relationship.
But I strongly suspect you won’t do that. What you really want is a younger woman (45–55) so you can regularly have access to her cunt while pretending to be a ‘submissive man who only cares about her pleasure.’
Essentially, it’s the classic wish to get sexual service from a younger woman without offering anything meaningful in return. Because with a 72-year-old woman your own age, you’d probably lose interest in her orgasms very quickly. Yes, the kind of relationship you’re describing does exist — but almost exclusively in elderly couples who have spent decades together. They have deep trust, love, and mutual care built over a lifetime, and when penetrative sex becomes impossible for natural reasons, this kind of intimacy can still work.
But without that long shared history of trust, passion, and love, what you want is rarely sustainable. It usually becomes just one-sided exploitation. -
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What a fantastic and refreshing profile! It’s so rare to see someone who not only outlines a full and dedicated service but also has the confidence to show who they are. Huge compliments for including a clear portrait photo – it shows honesty and truly sets you apart. And on a related note, you are a very attractive man! Your picture reveals a strong and charismatic individual. The combination of your detailed offer, provider mindset, and your handsome appearance is incredibly compelling. Best of luck to you!
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Let’s Play ‘Spot the Difference’!
ssjonfytu Ad: 62 ut/ sub slave looking for dominant women for FLR : 62, desperate for a Dominant CEO goddess.houseboyseeksdomme Ad: 49M BC Canada seeking loving supportive woman – relationship first, bdsm second
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generous expectations. Yet here you are, reposted Ad with the same demands (word-for-word, how lazy!), now with a new age and fresh username.
49M houseboyseeksdomme !Suddenly younger? Or just bad at math?
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Well, well, well…
All that effort on April 15th, and thirty days later? Crickets. Let me grace this with my two cents.Let me start by saying I adore the audacity. You’ve crafted quite the wishlist for your ideal Dominant Woman: educated, successful, ambitious, owns a home, happy, loving, financially thriving—basically, a high-powered CEO who also moonlights as a sensual goddess. And yet… your own resume reads like a ‘Take Me As I Am (But Also, I Offer Nothing Tangible)’ manifesto.
Let’s Play ‘Match the Energy’!
You want a woman whose life is already beautiful, successful, and emotionally unburdened—just like yours, as you say. So, let’s compare:She owns a home (or is close to it). Do you? Or are you expecting to move into her beautifully curated space, where she can dominate you aesthetically in her designer dungeon?
She’s educated, ambitious, and career-driven. Are you a retired executive? A self-made man? Or are we banking on the ‘I’ll obey’ as your sole contribution to her boardroom energy?
She’s happy, kind, and without bitterness. Wonderful! But if your life is so fulfilled… why does your ad scream ‘Please Own Me, I’m Desperate for Purpose’?
The Hard Truth:
A woman like the one you describe doesn’t need a submissive man—she chooses one. And she’ll choose someone who adds value to her already fabulous life. So, what’s your selling point beyond ‘I’ll do whatever you want’?Can you fund her next luxury vacation?
Are you a connoisseur of fine wines, art, or anything that might stimulate her intellectually?
Do you have the social capital to match hers, or are you just hoping she’ll lower her standards because you’re really into obedience?
The Real Question:
Why would a woman who has everything want a 62-year-old ‘blank page’? If she’s that successful, she can hire a butler, a masseur, and a plaything—separately. What makes you the all-in-one package?You say you’re ‘very supportive’—great! But how? Emotionally? Financially? Or just in the ‘Yes, Mistress, I’ll fetch the remote’ sense? Because if it’s the latter… well, Alexa can do that, and she doesn’t require aftercare.
Final Challenge:
Rewrite your ad—but this time, imagine she’s reading it with the same scrutiny she uses when signing a business deal. Would you invest in you? If not… maybe start by becoming the man who deserves the woman you’re describing.P.S. If the answer is ‘But submission is my only personality trait!’—then, my friend, you’re not looking for a FLR. You’re looking for a hobby.”
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livingandlearning,
You raise a valid point—many people do struggle with expressing themselves clearly in writing, whether in emails, social media, or even dating apps. It’s a universal issue, and as you noted, it can create unnecessary barriers when trying to connect with others online.That said, I’d argue the age of AI has actually improved this problem for many. Tools like grammar checkers, predictive text, and even full-sentence suggestions help people articulate thoughts they might otherwise struggle to phrase. For non-native speakers or those less confident in their writing, AI can be a lifeline, polishing rough drafts into coherent messages.
Of course, it’s not a perfect fix—AI won’t teach someone to think critically or engage deeply overnight. But it does mitigate some of the worst pitfalls (typos, tangled syntax) that make online communication so frustrating. The real challenge? Encouraging people to use these tools thoughtfully—because even the best tech can’t replace the intent behind the words.
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John Public. It was interesting to read your reaction. Bottom men are never satisfied—if I write a lot, it’s bad; if I reply briefly, that’s also bad. Yesterday, I got a message from a “older sissy cuck” (That’s how She/he/they introduced himself) from Atlanta, “relocatable”, and from what I understood, since She/he/they works from home, She/he/they is looking for a house from which She/he/they can work. I looked around and realized I don’t want to see a working sissy in my house. The She/he/they suggested I visit She/he/they profile to see if we’re a good match and would determine if we have something in common between us. On She/he/they page, I saw absolutely no description—zero, nothing. All I learned was that he/she’s 54 and that she’s a man. But really, I’m in Florida—what could I possibly have in common with “older sissy cuck” who’s in Atlanta? I replied briefly: “We have nothing in common”. And do you know what I got from She/he/they in response? This is what “older sissy cuck” wrote to me: “Apparently not as you seem to have the brain size of a hummingbird”. Very often, I don’t respond to messages at all. Precisely because when my reply is polite, and free of insults—but doesn’t include fireworks of enthusiasm about what she/he/they wrote to me—the next thing I get is an insult. Apparently, the most common message women receive from bottom men is an insult. I’d really like to know why this happens. She/he/they asked me one question, and I answered it. Why insult me afterward? What’s the point?
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You asked how to find someone. Let me be very specific based on what has worked for others in your situation:
1.Be ruthlessly concrete in your profile
Don’t write generalities like “I’m looking for a strong woman.” Instead, state clearly what you offer – both financially and psychologically. For example:
“I am financially secure and can offer a stable, comfortable lifestyle without the expectation of shared living expenses.”
“Emotionally, I am ready to follow your lead, support your decisions, and prioritize your needs. I am not looking for a traditional partnership but a structured FLR where I serve.”
Reason: At 68, a potential partner will not assume you’ll “build a life together” from scratch – she will want to know what you bring to the table now. Be honest about your age and what phase of life you’re in.
2. Search locally – within days, not weeks
Focus on meeting someone you can see in person within a few days to a week of first contact. Long online “getting to know you” phases often lead nowhere, especially for older people who already know what they want. Use platforms that allow local search (e.g., FetLife local groups, dating apps with proximity filters, or even local kink munches). State clearly that you prefer an initial coffee meeting within a few days.
3. Do NOT send detailed fantasies
Never send a stranger a list of how you want to pleasure or obey her – that’s overwhelming and signals poor boundaries. Instead, say something like: “I have a lot of ideas and desires, but I believe those are best discussed in person after we’ve established basic trust and chemistry.” Save the specific forms of service for face-to-face conversations.
4. Where to look
Local FLR or D/s discussion groups (even non-sexual ones) – many meet for coffee or walks.
Age-appropriate communities – women in their 50s–70s who are also financially independent may appreciate your directness.
5. What to say on a first meet
I suggest: “I’m looking for a woman who is comfortable making most decisions in a relationship – from daily routines to bigger life choices. I’m secure and self-sufficient, so this isn’t about neediness. It’s about finding joy in devotion. I’d love to hear what you want out of a relationship first.”
You’ve studied FLR – now use that knowledge to filter carefully. Guard your time and heart. There are women who will value exactly what you offer. Just stay patient, local, and specific.
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Jimmy, I think you might be overthinking it a bit. If I were you, I wouldn’t build assumptions in advance—I would leave the decision to the woman herself. It’s not a given at all that she would want a partner to merge into her life or her home. People have very different circumstances and preferences.
Have you also considered that you might choose a woman who doesn’t own her home? What if she lives with her adult children, or even still shares a place with a former partner? Or maybe she rents a small apartment—or just a room with a roommate?
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Thank you for your thoughtful reply, glad the post resonated with you.
I completely agree: before seeking any kind of partner, whether you submissive or not, a man really should have his own life in order first, including finances. It surprised me too how many don’t.
Now, on a slightly different note – and I hope you don’t mind me adding this – I’ve also noticed something a bit sad. Some older men, who have lived full lives and should have gained wisdom along the way, seem to see relocating to a woman as a way to fix their own difficult economic situation. I truly sympathize that they might be struggling on a small pension, and I’m not judging their hardship.
But I gently feel they need to understand that no woman is likely to offer them a place in her home and support them financially, just in exchange for “service.” Some even write in their messages: “I have already worked as a submissive and have experience serving.” That sounds less like seeking a genuine connection and more like applying for a butler’s position – or looking for security disguised as submission.
We all want to feel needed, but a healthy dynamic should be built on mutual desire, respect, and stability – not on one person’s economic rescue mission. Just my honest two cents, said with kindness. -
Thank you for this detailed and very mature comment. I completely agree with you.
You hit the nail on the head regarding the difference between fantasy and reality. Yes, a successful, self-sufficient woman can be attractive—partly due to her strength and status. But that does not mean she is ready or obligated to support someone financially, especially in the early stages of an acquaintance.
And you know what makes this situation particularly absurd? When such “offers” come from a man of advanced retirement age, often decades older than the woman he is addressing. All while he claims the role of a “toyboy”. I’m sorry, but what “boy” is there at 70+? What “toy” are we talking about when the reality involves potential health issues, limited mobility, and a very modest pension? This isn’t “service”—it’s an attempt to find a caregiver, a roof over one’s head, and a wallet, all under the guise of a fetish.
Your point about a grown man being responsible for himself first and foremost is especially valuable. “Not being a financial burden” is truly the baseline; it’s a sign of maturity and respect. Attempting to shift one’s housing and domestic problems onto a dominant partner under the pretext of service is, unfortunately, not FLR (Female Led Relationship)—it’s just a search for free housing and nursing care.
Thank you for speaking honestly about this. Men like you, who have a realistic outlook on things, are harder to find, but it is exactly with men like you that truly healthy and harmonious relationships are possible.
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Thank you so much, Oregon gentleman! ❤️
I’m really glad you liked my post and left a comment. I truly appreciate your opinion.
While reading your profile, I noticed that you have a very realistic and mature view on relationships in general and on FLR in particular. You correctly emphasize that financial aspects are definitely an important and not insignificant part of it, although, of course, they are not the only aspect in such relationships. A man in FLR should indeed be focused on making his Lady’s life better in every sense.
It seems to me that this kind of honest and pragmatic approach gives you very good prospects of finding a suitable partner. When a person realistically assesses reality and is ready to take responsibility-it immediately sets him apart from others.
Thank you again for your support and for sharing your thoughts!
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