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What a fantastic and refreshing profile! It’s so rare to see someone who not only outlines a full and dedicated service but also has the confidence to show who they are. Huge compliments for including a clear portrait photo – it shows honesty and truly sets you apart. And on a related note, you are a very attractive man! Your picture reveals a strong and charismatic individual. The combination of your detailed offer, provider mindset, and your handsome appearance is incredibly compelling. Best of luck to you!
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Let’s Play ‘Spot the Difference’!
ssjonfytu Ad: 62 ut/ sub slave looking for dominant women for FLR : 62, desperate for a Dominant CEO goddess.houseboyseeksdomme Ad: 49M BC Canada seeking loving supportive woman – relationship first, bdsm second
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generous expectations. Yet here you are, reposted Ad with the same demands (word-for-word, how lazy!), now with a new age and fresh username.
49M houseboyseeksdomme !Suddenly younger? Or just bad at math?
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Well, well, well…
All that effort on April 15th, and thirty days later? Crickets. Let me grace this with my two cents.Let me start by saying I adore the audacity. You’ve crafted quite the wishlist for your ideal Dominant Woman: educated, successful, ambitious, owns a home, happy, loving, financially thriving—basically, a high-powered CEO who also moonlights as a sensual goddess. And yet… your own resume reads like a ‘Take Me As I Am (But Also, I Offer Nothing Tangible)’ manifesto.
Let’s Play ‘Match the Energy’!
You want a woman whose life is already beautiful, successful, and emotionally unburdened—just like yours, as you say. So, let’s compare:She owns a home (or is close to it). Do you? Or are you expecting to move into her beautifully curated space, where she can dominate you aesthetically in her designer dungeon?
She’s educated, ambitious, and career-driven. Are you a retired executive? A self-made man? Or are we banking on the ‘I’ll obey’ as your sole contribution to her boardroom energy?
She’s happy, kind, and without bitterness. Wonderful! But if your life is so fulfilled… why does your ad scream ‘Please Own Me, I’m Desperate for Purpose’?
The Hard Truth:
A woman like the one you describe doesn’t need a submissive man—she chooses one. And she’ll choose someone who adds value to her already fabulous life. So, what’s your selling point beyond ‘I’ll do whatever you want’?Can you fund her next luxury vacation?
Are you a connoisseur of fine wines, art, or anything that might stimulate her intellectually?
Do you have the social capital to match hers, or are you just hoping she’ll lower her standards because you’re really into obedience?
The Real Question:
Why would a woman who has everything want a 62-year-old ‘blank page’? If she’s that successful, she can hire a butler, a masseur, and a plaything—separately. What makes you the all-in-one package?You say you’re ‘very supportive’—great! But how? Emotionally? Financially? Or just in the ‘Yes, Mistress, I’ll fetch the remote’ sense? Because if it’s the latter… well, Alexa can do that, and she doesn’t require aftercare.
Final Challenge:
Rewrite your ad—but this time, imagine she’s reading it with the same scrutiny she uses when signing a business deal. Would you invest in you? If not… maybe start by becoming the man who deserves the woman you’re describing.P.S. If the answer is ‘But submission is my only personality trait!’—then, my friend, you’re not looking for a FLR. You’re looking for a hobby.”
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livingandlearning,
You raise a valid point—many people do struggle with expressing themselves clearly in writing, whether in emails, social media, or even dating apps. It’s a universal issue, and as you noted, it can create unnecessary barriers when trying to connect with others online.That said, I’d argue the age of AI has actually improved this problem for many. Tools like grammar checkers, predictive text, and even full-sentence suggestions help people articulate thoughts they might otherwise struggle to phrase. For non-native speakers or those less confident in their writing, AI can be a lifeline, polishing rough drafts into coherent messages.
Of course, it’s not a perfect fix—AI won’t teach someone to think critically or engage deeply overnight. But it does mitigate some of the worst pitfalls (typos, tangled syntax) that make online communication so frustrating. The real challenge? Encouraging people to use these tools thoughtfully—because even the best tech can’t replace the intent behind the words.
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John Public. It was interesting to read your reaction. Bottom men are never satisfied—if I write a lot, it’s bad; if I reply briefly, that’s also bad. Yesterday, I got a message from a “older sissy cuck” (That’s how She/he/they introduced himself) from Atlanta, “relocatable”, and from what I understood, since She/he/they works from home, She/he/they is looking for a house from which She/he/they can work. I looked around and realized I don’t want to see a working sissy in my house. The She/he/they suggested I visit She/he/they profile to see if we’re a good match and would determine if we have something in common between us. On She/he/they page, I saw absolutely no description—zero, nothing. All I learned was that he/she’s 54 and that she’s a man. But really, I’m in Florida—what could I possibly have in common with “older sissy cuck” who’s in Atlanta? I replied briefly: “We have nothing in common”. And do you know what I got from She/he/they in response? This is what “older sissy cuck” wrote to me: “Apparently not as you seem to have the brain size of a hummingbird”. Very often, I don’t respond to messages at all. Precisely because when my reply is polite, and free of insults—but doesn’t include fireworks of enthusiasm about what she/he/they wrote to me—the next thing I get is an insult. Apparently, the most common message women receive from bottom men is an insult. I’d really like to know why this happens. She/he/they asked me one question, and I answered it. Why insult me afterward? What’s the point?
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I want to respond to your message in the hope that my reply might open the eyes of some of the men who post their ads in the dating section. These men pounce on every ad like starving stray dogs, without even trying to analyze the text, how it’s presented, or considering the situation from a dominant woman’s perspective.
You are mistaken when you try to calculate the ratio—the ratio of dominant women to compatible men is roughly 1 to 100. I’m not even counting the men who, in my opinion, only pretend to be submissive but are actually just looking for sexual entertainment and gratification of their perverse desires, while refusing to pay professionals who are willing to engage in roleplay with them. Approximately 70% of them are like this, and many are already in serious relationships. They openly lie, knowing they only want a single session and will never see the woman again after getting what they need.
Those who genuinely believe they need a dominant woman to fill some void in their souls and lives are, unfortunately, not what most dominant women want. You might ask why, and I’ll tell you: None of us needs a loser looking to latch onto someone like a bedbug. These men always write in their ads that they’re “willing to relocate” because they have nothing to lose. They almost always have very low income, have achieved nothing in life, own no property, drive an old car, have a meager pension, wear cheap clothes, live a pathetic lifestyle, suffer from impotence, and have a pile of health issues that make them look like a retired from a nursing home.
But that’s not all I have to say. Even when such a retired man—who whose appearance inspires nothing but deep sympathy for his suffering from his physical condition and illnesses, is unwanted by his own children, let alone a dominant woman—messages me, he expects me to describe my life, explain what I’m looking for, and share details about myself. His messages are usually very short, no photos, no effort to intrigue me or explain how my life would become spiritually richer or more interesting if he were part of it. He’s spent his whole life thinking he’s the kind of man everyone wants, and he still believes that. To me, he most resembles a hunting dog that spent its life chasing house cats but now, old and arthritic, can’t even climb onto the porch—yet still considers itself a hunter and thinks someone needs it.
Sure, such a dog might have been needed by its owner, who remembers its youth and sees it as a companion. But now it has no owner, and it’s highly unlikely it will find one in a dominant woman. A dominant woman is independent, provides for herself, and is not so friendly toward men that she’d take on the burden of caring for an elderly grandpa.
That’s my understanding of the situation on this site and others. And yes, if I ever just want a one-time meetup, I’ll choose a 30-40 year-old masochist, and we’ll both enjoy the encounter. I don’t need intimacy—just communication with an intelligent person who knows what they want, leading to mutual satisfaction and a memorable experience.
So, when you see an ad from a “beautiful dominant mistress” with stunning profile photos, 90% of the time, those photos stolen by Nigerian scammer. And if they do belong to a real woman, she wouldn’t be posting ads—she already has enough play partners. And if she’s looking for a life partner or a husband, it’s definitely not someone who will move into her house, dust her dresser, and refill her wine glass. Yet that’s exactly how the men who message me envision their lives and describe their desires:
“I’m ready to relocate to your place, live in your home, so that you have someone to return from work with, and I serve you coffee and wine when you return from work” Thank you so much, boys and grandpas. When I get home from work, I’ll fill my glass with my favorite wine myself, and exhausted, watch my favorite series—not entertain some grandpa who spent his whole day dusting my furniture. -
This topic has 15 replies, 13 voices, and was last updated 3 weeks, 6 days ago by Sofi.
Sofi wrote me a message yesterday:
“I have read your post many times, and I am totally interested in getting to know you, you sound a great match for me .i am sofi 59 years old, divorced no kids , stable , athletic body very strong, healthy , seeking a partner for FLR with more experience to learn and grow old with her , I have been a sub for 7 years now and I can’t live without it , please let’s exchange emails and learn about each other.
my email address: aa8892714@gmail.com hope to hear from you soon . Sincerely yours goddess”
I looked at the profile:
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I am a 50 years old athletic man , divorced submissive seeking a strong female who is into FLR for a long time relationship ( marriage), around my age
I have been into FLR for about 7 years and I really like it
and I want to be my life style with my goddess. aa8892714@gmail.com
I google the Sofi email who wrote to me and saw that the aa8892714@gmail.com email is associated with many 20+ profiles with different names registered on this site. Those who respond to the ad can do the same. 15 responses to this ad! Wow! Don’t you understand that you are communicating with scammers? -
Dear spankedkevin,
I noticed your post from February 10th and wanted to share my thoughts. I observed that, unfortunately, no one responded to your message.
I understand that you shared your personal experience, and certainly, any experience is valuable. However, perhaps its specificity and uniqueness might have deterred users from discussing it. Not everyone is ready or interested in delving into such individual experiences.
In the future, if you want to get more feedback, perhaps consider topics that will be closer and more understandable to a wider audience.
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Find a video on YouTube that matches the title “Websites That Will Pay You To Be Friends ($350 Daily) | Get Paid To Chat With Lonely People”. I recommend watching this channel “Catfishing The Catfish | Chad Huber” shows well how to distinguish a real woman from a Nigerian guy who preys on “naive” men. It’s quite astonishing that many men end their correspondence with real women when they encounter a ‘beauty’ who seems to understand them perfectly, shares stunning photos, and creates the illusion of an ideal online partner ready to cater to their every desire.
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Jimmy, The request for $50 clearly shows that this man is a scammer who is looking to take advantage of several naive men and then delete his profile, replacing it with a new one. Professional Dominas do not typically charge $50 for “to show your serious”. They usually charge $100-150 for a 30-minute conversation and $200-250 for a 1-hour phone chat. This is their job, and their rates are often even lower than those for phone sex! If you want to meet someone and they ask you for money, I wouldn’t recommend meeting with such a partner. However, there might be a situation where a real woman wouldn’t want to waste her time on you if she doesn’t see a future with you. If you’re unable to effectively communicate your worth to a potential partner who receives many other offers , the likelihood of them wanting to meet with you is slim.
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Jimmy have you noticed that the ratio of ads between men and women on this site is 373 to 92 ?
Women Seeking FLR Personal Ads 92
Men Seeking FLR Personal Ads 373
that is 1 to 4? and I guarantee you that 9 out of 10 women who have registration on all BDSM sites, are NOT WOMEN. These are young men from Nigeria who are trying to swindle money from naive men. -
I don’t ask anyone for a tribute, and I don’t video chat with anyone.
But you have to understand what world we live in now. Now, even to have just friendly correspondence with a stranger, you are asked to pay. I mean official sites that offer a choice of virtual friends:https:rentafriend.com, RentaCyberFriend,Friend PC, Fiverr. And these sites are just text messages with a friend.
You don’t even want to know how much a video chats costs. What must happen to a dominant woman for her to agree to arrange to video chat for “viewing” for a submissive man who is not her partner? I recommend first becoming a partner that the woman values and does not want to lose, and then ask for video chats. Dominant women do not provide loans to strangers.
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